To ask if anyone else quiet or introverted has received these kinds of comments ?

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I am a teacher and i've been told by 2 friends, "I can't imagine you shouting !" or they can't imagine me getting angry or annoyed at kids.
I know it's not meant to be offensive, I find it funny in a way because i've never seen them shouting/angry either. It assumes you are one-dimensional, but you really have to be in the situation in order to act in that way.

However from 2 guys i've had some pretty stupid comments regarding music tastes. I listen to virtually anything but one guy was really shocked that I listened to rap and hip hop, based on what I don't know.

Another guy told me, "Oh I thought you only listened to Beyoncé, Lady Gaga and that sort of stuff." again just a préconception based on how I look/act.

Anyone else ?

I have a friend who is a receptionist. She has tattoos on both arms, an eyebrow ring and a nose stud. A customer came in and asked about something so she got up to get some forms from the back room. She has cerebral palsy and walks with an altered gait because of it, but is otherwise fit and well and fetching forms for customers is a regular part of the job. When she got back, the customer said "oh, I'm so sorry for making you get up. You don't look disabled".

Yes to all of this!

I especially hated people commenting about my quietness when I was younger. When I worked in offices, colleagues would always say “You shouldn’t be so quiet!” I could never understand what was so wrong with being quiet, or why they thought people ought to be loud, or why one was supposed to be better than the other. Eventually I had enough so when someone said I was “too quiet” I replied “I’m not ‘too’ anything. I am just myself. Get over it” which finally shut them up.

I can’t stand all the sweet and innocent comments either! A man once told me I was like a geisha. Essentially, a woman whose job it is to serve men! He thought it was a compliment!

I'm an extrovert but quite small/blonde blah blah. People always think I wear the trousers and are surprised I listen to Muse.

People always have something to say about women no matter your personality.

Yeah, I’m generally a pretty introverted person (less now than when I started training) and have had similar comments.

I might be generally placid but I can have a shout when I want to

People are just ignorant and, for one thing, have no idea about the reality of teaching.

People tend to make snap judgements and are surprised if the person concerned steps outside that box.

Nobody at work would be able to reconcile the Me at Work In My Dresses with Me With an Iron Maiden T-Shirt, on my way to a rehearsal for a Requiem Mass where I will wear a floor length gown.

DP is seen as a scary skinhead at his work. I'm not sure how - he's just a short, bald bloke who likes to wear dark shirts and trousers because they're slimming and less likely to get ruined in the wash with a red sock. Not scary in the least.

But hey, those assumptions can be useful, too. They give me some privacy - why would I ever want somebody at work to know everything about me?

Those type of remarks generally come from those that aren't the brightest buttons in the tin!

The type of people whom tend to be pass remarkable and don't have filters.

I find people like this incredibly dull and one dimensional and like to avoid them as much as possible.

I don't think this is an introvert/extrovert thing - people are always making snap judgements and assumptions based on how they perceive others. I think this is heightened to some extent when you have kids, because a lot of people fall into a more moderate lifestyle for a few years when their children are little, and therefore people that know you as a parent are quite often surprised to learn that you were a massive metal fan or a 80 a day smoker before you became 'sensible'.

Extroversion is high valued in our culture and I think it leads some extroverts to think that they are 'normal' and introverts are weird. As an introvert myself I have to say that listening to some extroverts non stop gabbing is exhausting.

quiet this is an interesting book on this subject.

If I had a pound for every time I have heard the phrase "the quiet ones are the worst", almost always coming from men. Makes my blood boil, it's such a patently stupid thing to say!

Because introverts aren't putting their personalities out there constantly, people make assumptions about their tastes. I remember someone (randomly) insisted I must live in a completely white house. I actually love patterns and it's more like a tart's boudoir than a minimalist palace.

As an introvert myself I have to say that listening to some extroverts non stop gabbing is exhausting

I had this at the weekend at a gathering at a friend's house. I was tired and shouldn't have gone out. A drunk friend talked at me really loudly for hours until I physically withdrew. In the end I went on my phone. She ranted and ranted at me, frothing at the mouth that I was no better than a teenager and I was so rude and screaming at me. I ended up putting my fingers in my ears. It's no fun being a tired introvert faced with a drunk extrovert.

I think extroverts confuse introversion with shyness or timidity and decide you have no opinions about anything, or no passion. So when you express a bold view, they get really surprised. Like they have the monopoly on everything.

I’ve, sub consciously, created an extrovert persona for in front of the children I teach which works well in secondary schools but is exhausting as I’m naturally introverted. It means that by the end of the day I’ve got little energy left for dealing with bloody idiots with some members of staff. A colleague once told me I’m remarkably calm but I’m just more of a slow burn person. I can take a lot but when I reach my limit I do have a temper. It tends to flash when dealing with extroverts who refuse to recognise other people’s limits.

The worst comment I've had, not directed at me per se, was that introverts are selfish because they leave extroverts to do all the talking, ie all the work in a conversation.

I usually say I'm an ambivert, I can turn it on when I need to professionally, but it zaps me totally. I used to have a very 'extrovert' job, which I loved, but I could only do it because I had silence afterwards.

I told a school dad I was an academic when he asked what I did for a living and he said 'ah, a scientist I assume' Not that there's anything wrong with being a scientist, obviously, but the way he said it was basically saying 'As you're clearly a complete nerd...'. Cheeky fucker!

And I'm not quiet and not visibly introverted either- sometimes people just make idiotic comments!