Would you report?

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Having a disagreement with DH about this one.

We have a colleague who I'm fairly friendly with. She's had a rough start in life, but she's in her early 20s now and has a council flat with her boyfriend.

Colleague always talks about her and her BF smoking weed in the flat. They now have 2 cats in a top floor flat and throw frequent parties etc.

DH is half joking about reporting colleague to the LA for smoking drugs in the flat.

I'm absolutely against this, saying it's none of our business and to not get involved.

DH says they're exploiting the system and taking up valuable space that people who deserve the help should be taking up.

DH only knows because we were both in the car when I dropped colleague home on Friday night.

AIBU to keep out of it? I said that if one of their neighbours complains then so be it, but it's not our place and to mind our own business.

Is your boyfriend saying that people who smoke a little weed and have fun get togethers with their friends shouldn't be housed?

There is no way I could report someone for this.

Report for what? Having fun?

I wouldn’t report it, but if I were a neighbour I might.

I had neighbours who’d smoke a lot on the odd occasion - luckily they were completely fine when I asked them to not. This was back in the day when I was out most evening so pretty sure it wasn’t much of a hardship!

DH says they're exploiting the system and taking up valuable space that people who deserve the help should be taking up.

Your DH is a bit of a dick. Not sure why smoking weed means they don't deserve to be housed, or how they're "exploiting the system". Would he say the same if they were just drinking? Or, at the other end, if they were addicted to Class A drugs?

I wouldn't blame their neighbours for reporting them if it's directly impacting their lives, but it's none of your business.

If weed was legal there would be a lot less violence around, more so if alcohol was illegal.

Your dh really needs to get a grip how does it effect him in any way

It isn't illegal to smoke in your own home is it?

No, I wouldn't report it.

Rspca would be more appropriate. Poor dcats.. Stuck in a flat and subjected to drugs..

Exploiting what system? Paying rent like everyone else? Their home, their business. Your dh is a dick.

I'd be more worried about the cats having to inhale the smoke and endure noisy parties, tbh.

And if it was a neighbor throwing alot of party's I would ask them to be a little more considerate if that didn't work then I would report the party's to the council.
But I'm really struggling to see what the hell it has to do with your dh.

Is he always such a puritan?

Would the LA be bothered? If they're not causing any kind of nuisance to their neighbours, or causing harm to others or their pets, then I don't think they would be? But maybe I'm wrong.

Your DH seems to have simmering resentment here, and is directing it at your colleague.

Who died and made him Judge of Who Deserves Things? What exactly does he thing the LA DO about people smoking weed in their own homes? Is their flat even owned by the LA or is it a Housing Association flat? The only thing remotely actionable and contrary to a Tenancy Agreement would be about large parties IF their neighbours were to complain about it or the Police were being routinely called about criminal activity at the flat. Tell him to stop clutching his pearls in outrage. He might not agree with what they do in the privacy of their own homes but it sure beats being a twat in public.

DH is a prick.

Oh the milk(woman) of human kindness is flowing here....

DH says they're exploiting the system and taking up valuable space that people who deserve the help should be taking up.

So he thinks that because they smoke weed and have parties, they should use that money to rent privately?

Report for what - smoking a bit of weed. Jesus - who died and left him in charge. What an arsehole.

Don't report them, how weird to even think to if it was affecting you cos you were their neighbours then fair enough.

Your dh needs to lighten up.... Or light up

Is your DH aware how hard it is to get a council flat these days? Poor girl must have jumped through innumerable hoops/been extremely vulnerable at one point, possibly a care leaver. And now that she has a job, flat and bf your H wants to throw a spanner in the works and see her homeless? Which would probably lead to her losing her job. Would she deserve a flat then? He’s a knob

You have quite the catch there dear!

Sounds like DH is thick as mince.

Tell him to Google what Social housing is and poss ltb.

The LA would completely ignore him. Unless they’re problem tenants and making their neighbours lives miserable, there is nothing to report.

Your dh needs to lighten up.... Or light up

Good one