Sat on my own in the work canteen

[Drowningmysorroes]

They are all discussing Caroline flack, calling her mentally unstable and some even laughing about it.

I tried to commit suicide 4 years ago and it’s bringing it all back.

I don’t want to make this tragedy about me. It’s not. I just couldn’t sit there and listen to that.

Nobody has a clue what goes on in people s lives. It's very easy to take the piss out of a situation that doesnt involve your family or friends. People will be saying all-sorts about Caroline flack. She was a human being who felt too sad to carry on. Whether she had a scrap or lost her temper or didn't do anything wrong. It's literally disgusting how people have bullied and trolled her. We don't know her partner. We don't know how horrible he was. I'm not a violent person. Never have. But I had a horrible horrible boyfriend In my early 20s. He was a git to me. Always looking at other women. Always texting other women. Wouldn't tell me the truth. Told me I was paranoid. Put any women before me. Tried to get me to move away from family and friends. Planned to sell my house that he had just gone on the mortgage on. Where I lived wasn't good enough. Dumped me on Christmas day. bla bla bla.

One day I got so upset I lobbed a plate at the wall behind him. Didn't want to hurt him.didnt aim for him. It missed him. I was pushed to my absolute limit and I lost my temper. I've absolutely never ever done that since. I now have a partner who's never once done any of things he did. I feel loved and happy. Who knows why Caroline lost her temper.

People are arseholes and think they can figure out stuff without knowing anything.

You get called names on here. I know I have. Had lots of nice conversations. But I've witnessed many cruel things online on everything from Facebook, Mumsnet, Instagram. The internet has given people a power they didn't have 20 years ago.

Some of the comments I have read on here (other threads re CF) have made me feel disgusted. Sadly our society is made up of a good deal of utter pricks who seem to think that they live unblemished lives (no one does) and will never be touched by poor mental health (anyone can be).

Anyone with a modicum of intelligence and normal levels of empathy will feel sorry for the poor woman.

Your colleagues are cunts.

@cookiecrumble888 are you really trying to minimise/ justify / excuse domestic violence? Your post is blaming the victim of a DV incident.

You are doing the right thing by sitting apart from them. She was clearly mentally unstable but It is a shame they are laughing at someone else's misfortune.

Can you not avoid the canteen altogether while these idiots are talking about this?

@hellonheels

No I'm not. I'm saying people have no idea what goes on in other people lives. How he treated her. How she treated him. People have and always will loose their tempers. It's not right. But it happens. What's not right is people saying she deserves to die etc because of what happened. How does anyone know the truth or facts. Perhaps he did something to her everyday and was bullying her and she lost it. Perhaps not. Maybe she was aggressive. We won't ever know. The media shouldn't of published cruel things about her before facts had been made. Even then what right have they got to tear her apart? It's tragic. She needed a break and to be left alone. Instead people jumped on her. Yes she should pay for whatever crime she had done. But that doesn't give the rest of us a right to destroy her on the internet etc.

Something about the Caroline Flack case has brought out the inner misogyny in a few people.

@lemonsandlimes123 Why just why?

Hi Drowningmysorroes,

We can see you're getting some good support from other Mumsnetters here, but we thought we'd also add a link to our Mental Health resources as there are many organisations listed which could give you some more support in real life.

We're also going to add some links to the Samaritans, for anyone who may need them. You can go to the Samaritans website or email them at [email protected], or call them, free, any time, on 116 123.

Here too is a link to Mind's website, and in particular their tips for everyday living which could help when you're feeling low.

Sending good wishes

@Drowningmysorroesthinking of you sweetie ((((Hugs)))🌺