To feel so anxious about being unfollowed?

[woodn]

Last night I got the last train home from London with my boyfriend. We had gone a friends birthday, I hadn't eaten much and was very drunk.
Outside a girl tapped me who was smoking before going on the train and was with her boyfriend.

We ended up sitting together on the train. I know the girl from school, we were never close but amicable and spoke. I'd say hi if I ever saw her. We left school 8 years ago.

She seemed uninterested in the convo but her bf was talking and was nice. I was drunk so don't remember too much. Anyway, she said she needed the toilet and her bf went with her. They never came back.

I thought there'd be a logical reason. But I've just seen she's unfollowed me on Instagram and made me unfollow her.

I feel so incredibly anxious!

Someone that you dont know well at all took you off instragram? Thats really all thats happened here.

Stop thinking about it and move forward.

You’re overthinking this and spiralling a bit. If she was a friend, yes that could be upsetting – but you haven’t seen her in years. It’s not worth this much time invested in it.

Dont worry about it, the anxiety will be the hangover, you won't care in a few days.

For argument's sake, let's say you offended her. What's the worst that can happen? Oh, it already has. She unfriended you. NOW what's the worst that can happen? ....
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It is ok for you to not like someone, and it is ok for someone not to like you. It is not saying anything about your worth or you as a person.
Who does like you? Your boyfriend? Family? Other friends? So you must be a likeable person. Concentrate on those, rather than the one uncomfortable experience you've had with someone who isn't actually important in your life anyway!

Our brains have a negative bias anyway, and if you have an anxious personality, it's even harder trying to counter this. But that is even more reason to balance out the negative bias with positive events. I would suggest that the old adage of 'count your blessings' might be appropriate here.

If it helps, I called out a relative for what I perceived to be a racist joke. I was immediately blocked. Occasionally I feel a bit peeved about it, but then rationalise that it's not a close family member anyway, and I'd rather focus on family members and friends who DO matter to me.

Let it go.