To feel so anxious about being unfollowed?

[woodn]

Last night I got the last train home from London with my boyfriend. We had gone a friends birthday, I hadn't eaten much and was very drunk.
Outside a girl tapped me who was smoking before going on the train and was with her boyfriend.

We ended up sitting together on the train. I know the girl from school, we were never close but amicable and spoke. I'd say hi if I ever saw her. We left school 8 years ago.

She seemed uninterested in the convo but her bf was talking and was nice. I was drunk so don't remember too much. Anyway, she said she needed the toilet and her bf went with her. They never came back.

I thought there'd be a logical reason. But I've just seen she's unfollowed me on Instagram and made me unfollow her.

I feel so incredibly anxious!

Do you think you need to take a step back from social media? This has got to you far more than it should’ve done and is causing you a level of anxiety and stress which is unnecessary.

This isn’t really important in the grand scheme of things. You should also stop looking to find out whether people have unfollowed, therein lies the madness. Just move on.

What difference does it make to your life? It's just so insignificant on the big scale of things, don't you think?

Her comment re uni suggests she’s insecure - maybe you were “the clever one” at school?

Your investment in social media - and with people you don’t really know/have anything in common with is crazy though.

If I could bestow one gift on the younger generation - or maybe everyone - it would be the gift of making it impossible to access any social media.

I really think the world would be a better place for it.

@TheVanguardSix no, I haven't seen her since school so I didn't know that she went to uni...

The social media thing - I don't hold it in high regard, the concern is that for her to go to that effort when she follows so many people makes me think I've done something wrong. And it's induced anxiety and worries of upsetting people.

I have an issue with anxiety and I always worry ive upset someone.

It's obviously weird that she was there, she sees me then decides "let me get rid of this girl" - something has upset her.

Who cares? You were never close.

It could be anything so I’d say forget it. She might be insecure and think her fella was into you. You might have said something and sounded like a nob. You aren’t mates so just move on. Life’s too short

How do you know she unfollowed you?

What possible benefit does it bring to your life having this person - or anyone else - follow you on Instagram? (I don't understand how it works - but why does it 'make you' unfollow her? other than that your nose is out of joint?)
If you're anxious about trivia like this, what are you like when something real happens?

I'd assume that something was said that she didn't like, you obviously don't remember what it was but it made enough of an impression on here that she wants to cut contact.

Could be something and nothing

OT but what does this mean Outside a girl tapped me ?

It's natural that no one likes to feel rejected, but don't give her a second thought.

I'd assume that the chat on the journey didn't really go well, but it doesn't really matter because you are not friends. Think of it like this: before social media you wouldn't have had any contact, you'd have met, drunk, on a station platform and chatted a bit and then gone home none the wiser. Ok you've had a bit of feedback but it doesn't affect anything in your life except your anxiety levels today. Just chalk it up to experience.

And it's induced anxiety and worries of upsetting people
Use this experience as a 'practice' for not worrying about it. Its really unimportant to your life whether this person (or any other random person) likes you or not. Try to give less fucks. Let this one go. Nothing bad will happen. Baby steps.

You will never truly know the reason for why she unfollowed you.

I know it's difficult with anxiety to not overthink things, but she plays no part in your daily life.
I say to myself, "will this matter to me in 5 years time". If no, then stop worrying

Quelle horreur, being 'unfollowed'! The obsession with social media really is the cause of so much self inflitcted angst. Try to live in the real world.

Look at it this way...do you like everybody you meet?

I don't like everybody and so don't expect everybody to like me.
Sometimes there's no particular reason or a completely unreasonable reason I don't like someone. I accept that it can happen in reverse.

Does IG give notifications when someone unfollows you?

How do you know she unfollowed you?

Leave her to it, she'll end up with no friends. Pretend you never noticed!

Just carry on with your life and she will carry on with hers. You barely interacted since you left school, so what if she’s unfollowed you. You had all been drinking so your perception of what happened was probably a bit skewed.

@KatherineJaneway @OlaEliza
sorry for delay not been on MN!

Basically, when they went to the toilet and didn't come back, DP kept saying "why did they leave" jokingly. He didn't hear me say anything bad and was in the convo but also had had a few beers. He assumed I must have said something.

Him saying this made me feel anxious/guilty and my gut was saying something. So I went onto her Instagram and I could no longer see anything (private) but I had not been blocked. She no longer followed me when I checked.

On Instagram you can remove someone from following you without blocking.

You are overthinking this, let her carry on. You may not see her for another 8 years!

She's still knob.... forget her