To not spend much on DNs birthday this time.

[MyuMe]

I've had enough.

I spend a small fortune on them because they are the only child in the family.

Last year was ridiculous. Presents, clothes, a day out. And it is never enough. I get guilt tripped because the poor little mites parents have divorced. They divorced when DN was 3 and have no memories of parents living together.

They expect me to give up my weekend come to the party, not only that help set everything up and make the food. Buy a load of presents and also take the kid out away from the party.

I would drop dead with shock if this lot bought me a card for my birthday.

And after DNs behaviour last year...open the presents and put them aside for the next one. There is no gratitude here and I'm sick of the reminders everytime I see them that it's their birthday soon and what am I getting them.

I don’t think anyone has forgotten he’s only six.

An ungrateful child demanding more is unsavory!

My kids lost gifts they were ungrateful for, or refused to say thank you.

It’s a lesson to be learnt.

Is DN Dudley dursely?

Have you seen the YouTube videos where Jimmy Kimmel (US TV host) challenges parents to give shit gifts and film it?

Give her a cucumber this year

Aforementioned video: m.youtube.com/watch?v=q4a9CKgLprQ

Is the this same child that "reminds" you that their birthday is coming up and to get them something good?

Noone forces you to do these things. If you don't want to cater a kuds party, don't. Offer to take dn out for a treat instead of presents. It sounds as if you have no children of your own so are expected to indulge theirs, but break the cycle. If they don't like it they will look ungrateful and you can distance yourself.

Get them some moral storybooks if you want a gift to mean something.

This is how my dh is treated by his sister .
He’s the high earner of the whole family so gives him a list of things for herself and niece for Christmas /birthdays and he feels obligated to get them.
He always gets utter shit from them .
Last birthday he got a condiment set of jalapeños, taco seasoning and sour cream type sauce ,that was it
I was fucking fuming. He also says “oh they don’t have much money though “ no .. course they don’t which is why they have a tv as big as a bloody cinema , every games console under the sun and all the latest gadgets!
I’ve started to be more assertive now and tell him to cut back.
It’s a big birthday for him this year and I swear to god ,I’ll go ape shit if they don’t make an effort to even look like they care ..
Sorry .. rant over