To ask if you've ever felt like this about a celebrity's death

[twelveminutespast]

I didn't know Caroline and she didn't know me, but I can't shake this feeling of sadness about her death. It's really stopped me in my tracks.

To know that someone else felt like life wasn't worth living is just the most horrendous and awful thing to me. I do believe she would have made it through the court case the other side. I'm wondering what she was thinking during her final moments.

I feel so saddened.

Has anyone else ever felt like this about a celebrity when they've passed? If so, who? It probably sounds really pathetic as I didn't know her, but I can't stop thinking about it

I'm often affected by celebrity deaths, I don't think it's unusual. We feel as if we know these people, and if they're on television a lot they're certainly part of our lives in a way.

I remember when the news came of Marilyn Monroe's death was announced. My mum burst into tears and said 'That poor, beautiful girl, if only I could have helped her'.

I've only watched Love Island once to see what all the fuss was about, so I only really knew Caroline Flack through Strictly. She seemed to really throw herself into it, and came across as very likeable. So for her to be reduced to such despair does come as a shock. I'm desperately sorry for her family, it sounds as if they were very close.

I feel very affected by Caroline's death.

1. Similar age , similar mental health problems .
2. I'm in a relationship with a much younger man
3. Financially independent
4. Childless

Caroline defied the patriarchy and got destroyed. Laugh at that all you like.

I can’t help but think that a lot of the negativity aimed at Caroline was because she had dared to carve out her own life - she was an attractive, successful, financially stable woman. She hadn’t had children at the age of 40, so the media decided to destroy her for not behaving as a woman should.

I think this is absolutely true.

The most powerful word to me in what the family's statement was, was OUR Caroline.
She was part of somebody's family. She was someone's little child. It was a way of saying, 'you didn't know her'.

It's a death to be mourned no matter what she did allegedly.

George Michael for me too.

How does someone so succesful, so well loved, so generous and kind end up dying alone at Christmas? It makes me so sad to think about.

This is the interview. It's Katie Hopkins. I thought for a young girl, Peaches acquitted herself quite well (btw I'm against attachment parenting really)

Just watched this video, not seen it before, yes Peaches did really well having KH sat next to her rolling her eyes throughout.

Very sad to think that barely 5 months later she was gone

Depression makes you isolate yourself.

One of my favourite musicians drank himself to death in his 30s. His pain is all over his music. When he died his mobile phone had one number in it, his grandma. I felt like I’d lost a boyfriend I had never met, because he shared so much of himself in his music,

I don’t watch much telly so I only really knew Caroline Flack via Strictly.

Agree with pp that the truth should’ve been coming out in criminal court, not coroners.
Whatever happened, however flawed a person is, a young death brings no hope of resolution, no rehabilitation, no chance for growing and learning.

Hope her boyfriend is being properly and professionally supported. A bereavement in these circumstances must be very traumatic.

I sometimes wonder if there’s actually something wrong with me because I find all the public outpourings of grief for people you don’t actually know or “celebrities” very odd. I don’t understand how people have the capacity to feel so deeply for others they had no connection to. I’m not cold; I have empathy for the deceased and plenty of sympathy for their family and friends, I just can’t feel grief and the sorrow and sadness that many seem to.

It is incredibly sad when anyone decides that dying is the only way of stopping the pain that they are in. It does seem as if she had tried to reach out to someone but was accused of being draining.

I think that the reason why this death is so shocking is because she presented as being so joyful and happy at least until the incident before Christmas, so how could she possibly be depressed? Unfortunately people are good at masking how they really feel but the clues are in the out of character behaviour - unfortunately it would appear that the media decided to persecute instead of support.

Buddy Holly

Avicii.
it hit me really, really hard.
i still can't get my head around it.

@gingersausage I sort of know the pain she was going through. So I can empathise. Not because I know her, but because I know what it feels like to attempt suicide. I guess that's why I feel for her. Also because I know what it's like to really really fuck up in life and to have it haunt you. So she fucked up. Spectacularly. But it was all over the media. She lost everything. Everyone online (including here, still now) were getting the boot in. There's only so much one person can take.

Another one for me, Bobbi Kristina Brown.

Amy Winehouse, Peaches Geldof - both really upsetting. An old school friend’s 15-year old daughter took her own life a few years back. I had never met the girl or seen her mum for years but I felt hugely saddened and couldn’t snap out of it for days.

I wasn't particularly aware of CF before the assault case hit the news and didn't pay it much attention then. Very sad for her, her family and friends but doesn't affect me because I didn't know her. Equally, I haven't been affected by the death of any other celebrity or any^ random non- celebrity come to that, because I didn't know them.^ The commodification of her death, and anyone else's, by social media and the tabloids is extremely distasteful.

Really only Neil Peart, just a few weeks ago. Rush kept me alive at I time I felt no one could ever understand me, and Neil being the lyricist made it feel like some kind of connection, mad as it sounds. The only celebrity death I've cried about.

Caroline defied the patriarchy and got destroyed. Laugh at that all you like.

I completely agree.

(They like to give Jennifer Aniston a kicking, whenever they get chance too).

@Noooblerooble
Oh, you must know me to know what is going on in my life? Do reveal yourself!
It's the twisting of a sad event into a "look at me" parade by so many people. Unless you know her, you can feel deep empathy, but you can't truly be heart-broken, that requires a personal connection very few commenters have

I'm going back here, but for me it was Elvis Presley in August 1977. I was eight years old. I wandered into the kitchen around dinnertime and found my mom crying. I thought she was chopping onions, and then she told me.

I'd never seen my mom cry before, ever, which I think is part of the reason Elvis's death affected me so. Also, Elvis was huge in our house. That evening we went for a walk in the neighborhood with friends down the street and I remember thinking, "How will the world go on without Elvis?"

Bowie.

The British public have stoned her to death metaphorically
No, I haven't not anyone I know! The British media maybe.

Yet, they're the first to condemn stoning in the Middle East
I don't think that's a very apt comparison and stoning to death should be rightly condemned. Are you just being anti-British?

I wrote on the Daily Mail comments section that it was death by media in a way, and they didn't publish my comment..

This!

I felt so sad all of last night. I couldn't work out why I had a giant knot in my stomach.
I woke up thinking about it this morning. I feel so stupid for feeling so sad about someone I didn't even know.

The media reported the facts.

The public got the boot in.