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To feel like calling out all the bloody hypocrites!

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BabyofMine · 15/02/2020 22:09

I’m presuming because of the sad news about Caroline Flack, all over Facebook and Instagram etc I am seeing posts with the words “in a world where you can be anything, be kind” or words to that effect.

It’s really upsetting me though because two of the people I’ve seen writing this with additional holier than thou comments have been absolutely vile to me in the past, I’m talking bullying in the workplace type situations.

I really want to comment, oh kind like you were to me when you did x, y and z? Of course I won’t but the hypocrisy infuriates me!!

(And yes I do realise I should delete them from my social media and I’m not sure why I don’t tbh)

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Waitingfordennis · 15/02/2020 23:01

Lulu totally agree

saraclara · 15/02/2020 23:02

but from what I’ve read online she apparently committed suicide after losing her job after she battered her boyfriend. I’ve seen photos of him covered in blood after she beat him bloody with a lamp. And she’s got a history of domestic violence against her exes too. I wonder if she’d be getting so much sympathy if she was a man who had ruined his own life by battering his girlfriends

Yep. When I read the title about hypocrisy, I wondered if it might be about this. But no. She was female, so yours is the only mention of why she was due in court.

Toria70 · 15/02/2020 23:05

Well said LuluJakey1.

Colleen Rooney has put a status up about CF, which is eye watering considering how she shamed Rebecca Vardy.... the comments are hilarious.

Jellykat · 15/02/2020 23:14

..and that is why ive never been on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, and never will..
if i want to speak to someone i'll text phone or email.

TheGreatWave · 15/02/2020 23:17

Being kind is quite subjective, something that is done in kindness may not be received the same way, sometimes doing nothing is the kind thing. I have seen that posted and scrolled on by.

There is a slightly better one being shared that basically says contact people that you know/think are not ok. It is also a million times better than the 'my door is always open, kettle on etc' one that is often shared.

OhLook · 15/02/2020 23:17

Ah, someone posted mentioning 'the sad news about Caroline' on a local Facebook group and I've been puzzling who she was. I thought she must have been a popular local person!

There were a lot of 'you can always contact me, no matter who you are' posts, which sounds like a dubious sentiment to me.

MoaningMinniee · 15/02/2020 23:29

Posting here, where it's anonymous and we can truly say what we think. I am truly sad that someone has felt forced to take her own life. However... She chose a job which is utterly driven by media. I've just reviewed her biography on Wikipedia (who are monitoring posts closely, bless them). She had never done a job in her life which wasn't reality tv or one of its spin offs. I can understand why she felt that the infernal level of attack she got from her previous allies in the tabloid press was too much to cope with. Meanwhile it is just confirming me in my decision to block Express Mail Sun and Mirror from my news feeds.

pinkrocker · 15/02/2020 23:32

@LuluJakey1 absolutely spot on, well said.

MashedSpud · 15/02/2020 23:37

Fakebook, where hypocrites unite to bask in sadfishing with a side of attention and an opportunity to bring it back to them via a story of how their friend’s uncles cousins friends sister knew someone via a friend who committed suicide and how it still makes them cry.

ChidiAnagonye · 15/02/2020 23:39

People SHOULD think twice before saying or posting incredibly unkind things.

But as someone who has twice been close to suicide, this is not the case. Mainly because some people can’t see past the end of their own nose.
As someone who was hurting while I was feeling like that, I also hurt other people. Unfortunately, I feel like it is a cycle. You’ll never know who’s affected until you see where it stops. And unfortunately it stops with individuals feeling like suicide is the best was to free and be freed.

ChidiAnagonye · 15/02/2020 23:41

I don’t read newspapers or watch the news anymore anyway. And mostly this is because the media can spin anything ANY way they want. And tell you what they want you to know.

I also think our reality tv in the UK is needing a bit of an overhaul

Apirateslifeforme · 15/02/2020 23:43

Lol this was posted about someone I know and is a complete hypocrite.
Dont worry about calling them out, their life is built on a heap of lies if they're anything like the woman I know.

Caribbeanescape · 15/02/2020 23:50

OP, I was thinking this earlier. I know someone who posted this type of thing, and her DD, who was in school with my DD, was a nasty bully. Ironically, her DD has posted the message too. 🙄

Lardlizard · 15/02/2020 23:54

Unfollow arseholes
And don’t give the headspace

Herpesfreesince03 · 15/02/2020 23:57

@Scabetty isn’t google amazing?

SonjaMorgan · 16/02/2020 00:11

But I think for most people a situation like this hits home, you don't know what anyone else is going through. I know I can be a complete arsehole, I am mean and bitter at times. I see people with upbringings that I wish I had and close relationships with their families and it brings out the worst in me.

AngeloMysterioso · 16/02/2020 00:28

I have seen a few of the “in a world where you can be anything, be kind” posts. I’ll admit my first thought was, how kind was she being if/when she was allegedly beating up her boyfriend with a lamp?

Colleen Rooney has put a status up about CF, which is eye watering considering how she shamed Rebecca Vardy....

And as for that... why shouldn’t Colleen Rooney be allowed to call out someone who was selling stories to the press about her? If Rebekah Vardy is claiming victimhood now I’d say that’s a classic case of being able to dish it out but not take it...

hellodontworry · 16/02/2020 00:30

It's the hypocrisy on here that is unbearable. You all had a thread about Caroline a few weeks ago. Don't call out the press. Call out YOURSELVES. Bloody disgraceful.

WorraLiberty · 16/02/2020 00:36

hellodontworry, what do you mean by 'you all'?

I certainly didn't and I'm not sure all of the 10 million unique visitors per month (according to MNHQ) did either.

Do you include yourself in that 'you all'?

hellodontworry · 16/02/2020 00:47

Bit defensive there Worra. By 'you all' I meant the many HUNDREDS of people who were happy to slag off Caroline in the thread a few weeks ago. I read and reported.
Hang your heads in shame.

WorraLiberty · 16/02/2020 00:51

Ahh ok well I'm not sure anyone could guess by your post you didn't actually mean 'you all' when you said 'you all'.

DoctorMarten · 16/02/2020 00:52

Delete them. Just do it.

Candymay · 16/02/2020 00:54

Yep I’m seeing this too. Absolute hypocrisy.

DoctorMarten · 16/02/2020 00:54

There are people on social media threatening to kill journalists... because they blame them for Caroline’s death. Hypocritical morons.

FourFlapjacksPlease · 16/02/2020 00:58

I agree that many posters on here are guilty of hypocrisy too. I have just read the thread about Jennifer Aniston and the level of nasty, bitching about another womans face, body and clothing is really depressing. It's just trolling dressed up as innocent chit chat.

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