AIBU - fiancé actively looking at OW

[Sweetandawfulsour]

Picture the scene, I’ve cooked a 3 course meal, poured him a glass of bubbly and even cared for his DS all day for him to sit on his phone and browse a subreddit called prettygirls the moment I’m out the room.
I’m not ugly, nor am I classically beautiful so I can see why he and the rest of males would glance at passing ladies. But to actively search and subscribe to prettygirls post and to browse on Valentines Day seems cheeky. Am I wrong?

He's an arsehole and you deserve more.

Can you spend your life like this with someone who doesn't make you feel cherished and adored at least some of the time?

the Fact that he is actively seeking out these pictures is not tolerable. He should be cherishing you and supporting you, not being made to feel inadequate. Have you spoken to him, and explained how these pictures make you feel?

Gross
Bin him off

You're coming across like you would make excuses for his shit behaviour no matter what he was doing.

He's taking the piss out of you... And this is the thing he does infront of you? Would hate to know what happens when you're not around.

Good luck with him.

Dump him.

And who are the people voting that YABU ?

Must be goady trolls. Or your fiancé

Okay........maybe he doesn’t feel you are still the woman he got together with, who shared everything with him, there’s now a third little person diluting the love and attention that used to be all his. Not untypical behaviour, but hopefully one you can manage. Don’t ask him lack of confidence questions about how you look, up your game in terms of feeling good about yourself so that you lift your own confidence. Have those intimate conversations a bit more, up the sex more, alongside ensuring he does all the being a Dad stuff. Above all don’t fixate on him looking at his phone, or what he is looking at all the time. If he’s talking to you, he isn’t looking, if he’s out with you and little one keep his attention, if he’s shagging you, he definitely isn’t looking at his phone. You just need to break that little cycle you are both in at the moment.

If it doesn’t work........then kick him in the balls

YANBU. He is a creep. You deserve better.

Hmmm...

Lots of women I know (in relationships) love posting up photos of Tom Hardy, Henry Cavill and whichever other male floats their boat - some even call it Man Friday! I have to say, I don't see a huge problem with that, I can appreciate handsome men, but doing it when my partner is going to some effort for a romantic evening isn't the time/place.

I just think boundaries for your fiancé are blurred, maybe he's taking advantage or being disrespectful in that moment. If everything else in the relationship is good, then fine, but if you feel he is taking you for granted and not being respectful generally, then it's time for an overdue chat.

Tbh I think you are minimising it. He behaved like an arse, fair enough you don't think he would actually cheat, you know him better than random people on the internet. However, it doesn't take a genius to figure out him perving on other women could upset you and that alone is reason enough not to do it. Only you know where your limits are in a relationship. Hope all goes well for you.

I’d rather it was porn weirdly.

I guarantee you it is. He’ll be watching porn too.

YABU to stay with this man

Cheeky? Definitely under reacting there.

Asking him too this? Too that? Too wtf OP..

Yeah, wtf?! That is very needy/desperate. If he's making you needy and desperate it's not a good relationship.

If he’s talking to you, he isn’t looking, if he’s out with you and little one keep his attention, if he’s shagging you, he definitely isn’t looking at his phone.

Hear that OP? You have to work harder to earn the attention of His Highness. You should've cooked, served and fed him the 3 course meal wearing a red lace bodystocking.