AIBU not to carry 2 year old down stairs?

[kayakingmum]

She can easily walk down the stairs but she wants me to carry her. Her tantrum has been going on for 15 mins so far.
Shall I gave in or not?

I usually have the opposite, I want to carry him for speed and he wants to do it himself. Most often he bumps down on his bum or I hold his hand.

Our stairs are steep as fuck, I fall down them on average once a month on my own, no way would I do it carrying my 3yo. He goes down on his bum holding the handrail, I go in front holding his other arm.

user1494182820 the thing is, I know exactly why DS wants me to carry him. Same reason he wants to sit on my knee, be hand-fed by me, watch stuff on my phone not the tv, why he won’t let me talk to DH (“No Mummy, you talk just to me!”, and wants me to sleep in his room with him. He wants to feel babied by me. He does all that stuff on his own with DH and at nursery. Which is fine, I don’t mind hand-feeding him his toast, he won’t be doing it when he’s 18, but not when it’s something dangerous.

And I’m not even saying it’s dangerous for other people! DH can do it perfectly safely. But he’s nearly a foot taller than me, and a lot stronger. It really isn’t safe for me.

ChristmasCarcass you enjoy all your precious moments. I will baby my babies as long as they let me.

Ah I remember those days so well, tantrums forever etched into my brain over DS2 insisting on being carried everywhere. Always sit the tantrums out, they can’t win otherwise you start again. What happened?

@GummyGoddess

Huh?? It didn't occur to you? Especially a 3 year old?!

My 14 month old I usually carry but he always wants to walk so I occasionally will do that and hold his hand. I can't imagine doing it at 3.

That sounds like a really safety hazard

No it didn't, I've always carried them rather than a pushchair or pram so it literally never entered my head until I read this as I'm so used to it. When dc2 was born I'd have him in the sling and 19 month dc1 on my hip while out and about so I just continued this at home.

It's one of those how-long-is-this-piece-of-string things. Some people feel it's unsafe doing it so probably shouldn't, others feel safe and don't feel it has a negative effect on discipline so why not.

I am only 2 cms taller than the lady who said it was unsafe because of her size, but had little choice as my dd was disabled and would quite often end up in a state where she suddenly couldn't walk. And not infrequently hysterical at the same time. Probably it's about build and core strength as much as anything else. I never felt it was that unsafe.

It's just one of those things that people have to decide for themselves.