AIBU to stop buying yet more uniform when this happens

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Just want a bit of advice as eldest started school in September so I'm new to all this and what is expected/what is normal behaviour.

I bought him Uniform and PE kit with plimsolls. One pair of his school trousers has already been taken by another child after PE..teachers weren't fussed..it was winter and he was sent home in a pair of shorts even though there was a spare pair of trousers in his school bag. I asked for him to please be put in spare trousers if this was to happen but also asked how this happened. According to them my son had gone to the loo and come back to class before getting changed back into school clothes and there wasn't any trousers left. The teacher explained how a pupil must have put them in their bag but admitted they didn't bother to check any of the boys schoolbags to find out where they had gone and just left him in his shorts as it was near the end of the day and sent him home in the cold (childminder collected him, his legs were freezing).

Secondly I bought him a pair of plimsolls the others week. first time using them Tuesday. They sent his PE kit home for washing (though it was still ironed and folded making me wonder what he wore) and the plimsolls were missing. Asked teacher yesterday morning on drop off and again all I got was a shrug and 'another child must have taken them' but they have spares if need be. I asked how this keeps happening and the teacher explained the children are responsible for their property and putting everything away. I agree that they do need to learn how to organise themselves but they are 4 years old (my son is the youngest in the class with some development issues) so surely need some guidance/assistance.

I also send in his wellies in his bag and these also went missing once (they have a wooded area they go into at the back of the school sometimes) again the teacher stated how they just throw them all in a box outside so others can share ..once leaving my son without the use of his own wellies and therefore with very muddy shoes and soaked socks as another pupil had 'got there first' (he had spare socks in his bag but again they didn't change him into them and left him in cold wet socks for the rest of the day)… The wellies were then found outside having been left overnight in the rain. soaked, muddy and torn so needed replacing.

AIBU in thinking to not bother to keep buying more Kit and just let him use the spare plimsolls/trousers and wellies (they have a big box of them) as I buy stuff for my son to wear and they either don't let him wear it or other children keep taking his new clothes and shoes home. I will of course leave the shorts and T shirt for PE and spare trousers, pants and socks in his bag but other than that I'm inclined to not keep replacing kit which they have spares of and that other children keep taking home without returning them.

Also AIBU to complain to the school especially regarding leaving y son in soaked socks or shorts in the winter?

Sorry for the long story but I didn't want to drip feed.

This drives me nuts. I'm a TA and I use some of my break to find lost property and putting it back into the relevant bags. I've also never let a child go home wet and cold as far as I know. Anything less than this is terrible.
It would be interesting if someone stole my sons stuff once he starts school as he is significantly smaller than the other children so nothing would fit anyone else

I would be pissed off over the shorts but can understand why it was considered good enough with no time to hunt for trousers. I can also understand why The fact he had spare ones wasn’t at the forefront of their minds.

But wtaf is up with the welly situation? That’s utterly batshit and I’d be bringing that one up with the head. 4 and 5 year olds cramming their feet into ones that are too small, or falling over in ones that are too big and that’s even before it emerges they don’t have enough for everyone and don’t let the kids use their own! That’s absolute bullshit and if they want to chuck around some professional lingo, failing in their duty of care.

If they can’t cope with a change of footwear they can’t take the kids in the sodding wood but when it’s wet and muddy can they? What a bunch of tools.

I thought your child was in secondary at first as I could have written this but not had any problems in primary.

So far he is on his third tie, he lost a logo polo shirt in first two weeks, he has lost his logo pe shorts, one school football sock, and two planners.

Its all expensive and I'm sick of it. All his clothes had ironed in name tags so someone knows they have someone else's kit.

Thanks for all the replies. Glad I'm not over thinking this. I was very angry at him being sent home in shorts and wet socks and the welly situation.. Though I'm not happy about the plimsolls but hoping someone will be honest and return them. My son is very tall for his age with bigger feet than most so they wouldn't even fit.. Are they saving them for later when their kid grows or something? I sure hope not. Think I will mention again how my son is the only one to wear his wellies which need to be kept in his bag and again how he has a spare set of clothes in his bag and is not to be sent home in shorts or wet clothes. Is it just me or is this mum malarkey bloody frustrating!?

The wellies thing is the thing to complain about, I woukd go mental if I'd supplied wellies then my kid ruined his school shoes because someone else's kid had used them.

Definitely complain to the head as this everyone shares policy is not acceptable. Replace the boots with a distinctive design and write your kid's name on the outside.

PE kit, think you need to get your kid to take more responsibility here, he needs to make sure he knows where his stuff is, once you're school age you're lld enough to do this, unless there's any special needs. Maybe a small reward at the end of each term if he hasn't lost anything?

The shorts, I'd not make a big fuss about this, until reasonably recently boys used to wear shorts all year round at school, and winters used to be colder. Some private schools still do this.

Thanks for your reply I understand where you're coming from regarding pe kit but it was more of the fact he had no trousers and simply asking the other boys to check their bags would have taken two minutes rather than leaving him to walk home cold. However, I agree the wellies are the main concern here and I will be taking that further it's not on and I'm sick of replacing things through their silly decisions.