Dh snoring who ibu?

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Daily mail are cunts before I get started so don't bother.

Dh has put on quite a bit of weight since we met and has been snoring really loudly for quite a few years now, the reason I mention his weight is because he didn't snore before, I'm not at all bothered about his weight otherwise.

Dh works full time and understandably gets tired, he likes to go to bed quite early, say 9.30pm. He gets to a certain point where he just falls asleep on the sofa, or if in bed he's gone as soon as his head hits the pillow and immediately starts snoring loudly, the noise is unbearable. I'm more of a 10-10.30 person, I like to read for a bit before I go to sleep but I'll be asleep by 11 so hardly a night owl. We both get up at 6.30am.

It's got to the point I dread going to bed because of Dh snoring, I can't get to sleep or relax and read in bed because of the noise he's making. Worse still Dh wakes up at a pin drop so if one of the dc get up to go to the toilet at night, or if there's noise outside, dh is up making a racket and waking me up.

Dh is blaming me and saying it's my own problem because I should go straight to sleep when he does. But this is bullshit right? I shouldn't be forced to go to sleep earlier than I'm ready surely? He's saying I've got sleep problems and I go to bed too late, but I sleep really well if not for his noise.

Sometimes if he falls asleep on the sofa and I just leave him there so that I can get to bed, he comes up later then but blames me for leaving him on the sofa, he blames me for nudging him when he's snoring. He won't do anything about the snoring I'm too just put up with it.

Today he's blaming me that he didn't charge his phone and he's tired because he'd fallen asleep on the sofa, but even if I wake him up he just grunts at me.

Not you at all. It's his problem. He needs to lose weight if that's the cause or go to the doctors to try to find a solution.
What would be the point in you going to bed earlier only to have to lie there listening to him bloody snoring!

Sleep deprivation is torture and he is blaming you so he can bury his head and not deal with it. He also doesn't give a shit as he is sleeping, although probably not very well.

Have you tried earplugs?

Film him snoring and show him how bad it is.

Going to bed at 9.30pm til 6.30am and still being that tired is not normal. He very likely has sleep apnea, which can be dangerous. He needs to go to a doctor for his sake not just yours.

Spare room? take turns in it? Sleep together on a weekend.
Or top and tail, make him sleep at the other end of the bed so he's not snoring in your ear.

I suspect he has no idea how loud he is. I think this problem is very common and people often end up just sleeping in different rooms. He is the one with the problem not you. Perhaps losing weight will help. He should at least try it rather than expecting you to suffer sleep deprivation.

100% sleep apnoea. My sleep clinic said to me anyone with a collar size over 17” is almost guaranteed to have SA.

It is so dangerous to live with it untreated so ask for a test and go from there! The machine could change both your lives.

Oh and neither of you are BU :-)

No spare room unfortunately.

I think I'll tell him I want him to go to the doctors. He might go if I force the issue.

I've recorded him snoring before he doesn't like it, gets defensive.

I haven't tried earplugs can't imagine them being too comfortable.

My partner snores so loudly and pauses up to 20 seconds in between breaths. It's so disturbing. After GP, referral and sleep clinic, he was diagnosed with 'anti-social snoring'. No advice other than to lose weight. He's half a stone over his ideal. It was all very disappointing but he was well in the 'normal' ranges.

Earplugs help, white noise in the background nose strips, throat spray, sudafed can be helpful aids.

It's shit though OP. Just when we finished with disturbed night because of baby / small children; he started with it. To be fair to him, although he gets defensive and upset about it, he lets me sleep in whenever possible and sees to things downstairs as he knows I relish peace and quiet!

What has he done to sort his snoring out? If he's done nothing, he's a selfish prick.

There are plenty of things you can try, mouth guards, sprays etc., and the GP should also be able to help.

Daily mail are cunts before I get started so don't bother.

I don't think this actually stops them lifting threads?

Op he doesn't sound very pleasant even taking the snoring aside. Could you get a sofa bed for the living room and just sleep in separate rooms?

I haven't tried earplugs can't imagine them being too comfortable.

Think this is a little silly tbh, they may be the answer to your prayers!

The best ones IMO are the super super soft ones, I have some called Heroes and they’re fantastic

Him. He needs to go to the GP.

Sometimes snoring can't be helped, but if he's doing nothing at all to ease the problem then he's the one being unreasonable. I feel for you OP, snoring drives me up the wall! He needs to make an effort to lose weight and see the doctor. Hoping it can be sorted easily!

I feel your pain! Have you tried a noise cancelling Bluetooth sleep mask? I think about 25 quid from Amazon. I’ve just ordered one, so can’t comment yet. Also, listen to a Yoga Nidra or sleep meditation app. It will stop you (wanting to) punching him in the face at night! ;-)

The little orange earplugs from Superdrug own brand are the most comfy. But not every night.

Gel earplugs are a lifesaver

Snoring is the worst, especially if you're a light sleeper yourself.

My OH snores as well, it's worse if he lays on his back or right side, but tbh no position really stops it and it's constant from the second he falls asleep.

The only solution that works for me is to use a bluetooth speaker and play white noise from my phone (rain/storm noises) so that when he snores it blends in and doesn't wake me up, otherwise I'm just waking up all through the night. I have sometimes used headphones instead but they hurt my ears if I have them in all night.

Could you try this?

Maybe earplugs are worth a try then. I just wish he'd do something about it though.

Just to say, he doesn't actually wake me up with his snoring once I'm asleep. I'm a very very deep sleeper, but it's the initial getting to sleep, he likes to sleep earlier than me as in 9.30pm I cannot get to sleep with him snoring like that.

He does however wake me up when he himself wakes up at night. The dc often get up to wee and leave the bathroom light on, this wakes up dh as he's a light sleeper and he starts moaning and shouting as if to let the whole street know.

Why the hell is he waking you up if one of the kids wake him up? That would piss me off the most!

I put on a load of weight after having kids and now I'm a snorer. Because of this I'm happy to stay up later than DH to let him get to sleep first, after all, it's ME making all the noise and it's unfair. Most of the time though DH and I go to bed at more or less the same time so if he chooses to stay up and play on his phone then me falling asleep first is all on him and I can't help it. Sometimes he'll nudge me awake and it's fine and if I get really bad I will jump in with one of the kids (double beds and plenty of room)
Like me, your DH needs to lose weight. Expecting you to put up with his noise every single time is unfair.

@StiffUpperQuip have you tried a mouth guard? It might solve your problem till you can get the weight off.

@HavelockVetinari I don't know if it would work. It seems to be the back of my throat "collapsing" if you will. I can feel it when I'm just in between asleep and awake. I snore both mouth closed and open. I may also have slight sleep apnoea because I'll choke ever so slightly sometimes and wake.

I'm dieting and walking everywhere but once I lose almost a stone it stops dead. Not an ounce comes off for months unless I eat even less and there's no way I could go less than 1000 or even 800cal a day. Dieting is worse than quitting smoking. At least the longer you go on not having a cig the better things get. Dieting doesn't work like that. I just get crabbier and hungrier 😂

Oh I’ve got snore recordings too!!

I pushed him to go GP. He got told off about his weight. Also had a look up his nose and found an infection. Tbf the antibiotics have helped.

But yes the weights an issue with snoring. The weight in the chest when they lie down is really bad and they don’t get much real sleep!

Luckily we have a spare room which he gets booted too if I’m shattered.

I've recorded him snoring before he doesn't like it, gets defensive.

Of course he gets defensive because he knows he's being an ass by ignoring that he has a problem. If he falls asleep on the sofa leave him there. You're not his mother, having to send him off to bed. Can your kids share a room so that you can have one of their rooms - just until he comes to his senses and sees that his problem is causing your relationship to suffer.

Good quality earplugs and snoring aids. Losing some weight would also help.
Surgery should be the last resort.