Dh snoring who ibu?

[Sonicwasthebestgame]

Daily mail are cunts before I get started so don't bother.

Dh has put on quite a bit of weight since we met and has been snoring really loudly for quite a few years now, the reason I mention his weight is because he didn't snore before, I'm not at all bothered about his weight otherwise.

Dh works full time and understandably gets tired, he likes to go to bed quite early, say 9.30pm. He gets to a certain point where he just falls asleep on the sofa, or if in bed he's gone as soon as his head hits the pillow and immediately starts snoring loudly, the noise is unbearable. I'm more of a 10-10.30 person, I like to read for a bit before I go to sleep but I'll be asleep by 11 so hardly a night owl. We both get up at 6.30am.

It's got to the point I dread going to bed because of Dh snoring, I can't get to sleep or relax and read in bed because of the noise he's making. Worse still Dh wakes up at a pin drop so if one of the dc get up to go to the toilet at night, or if there's noise outside, dh is up making a racket and waking me up.

Dh is blaming me and saying it's my own problem because I should go straight to sleep when he does. But this is bullshit right? I shouldn't be forced to go to sleep earlier than I'm ready surely? He's saying I've got sleep problems and I go to bed too late, but I sleep really well if not for his noise.

Sometimes if he falls asleep on the sofa and I just leave him there so that I can get to bed, he comes up later then but blames me for leaving him on the sofa, he blames me for nudging him when he's snoring. He won't do anything about the snoring I'm too just put up with it.

Today he's blaming me that he didn't charge his phone and he's tired because he'd fallen asleep on the sofa, but even if I wake him up he just grunts at me.

My DH says my snoring has got bad. I'm just under 8 stone so it's not weight. It's worse if I'm on my back. I've tried nose strips. Sometimes I wake myself up feeling like I'm short of breath.

I eat well and exercise loads. I don't really know what else to try 😫 I slept on the sofa last night as he had an early start. Killed my back

This certainly sounds like sleep apnoea and needs to see his GP asap. It can increase blood pressure, increases strokes, heart attacks plus the tiredness for both of you! Its HIS problem, not yours! He obviously doesn't realise the dangers to his health, or doesn't want to face reality and lose weight. There are several online tests you can do to check his tiredness (I'm sure you could fill it out based on what you see and get a rough score of how bad it is). Video/record the snoring, especially if there are pauses, gaps in breaths then gasping/coughing. You can show this to him and the GP.

I have worn earplugs for years due to OH's snoring. I had to make a GP appointment for him, and take him along, because otherwise he just wouldn't book one! In some cases they will give you equipment to wear overnight and monitor at home, othertimes he might need to go to a sleep study ward overnight. Even if he does need to wear a sleep apnoea mask till he loses weight, his improvement in tiredness, and energy will be remarkable!

@Chesneyhawkes1- if you arent overweight, snoring can be an anatomical issue with your soft palate/sinuses. Have you ever had a camera down to see what is causing it? Have you seen an ENT?

I wear soft foam earplugs they really do help . MOH has sleep apnea and now has a machine but that is still noisy .

those of you who wear earplugs - how do you hear your alarm?

OP if you don't hear his snoring and it's him waking you up shouting - then how about waking him up by shouting to see how he likes it? That is the thing that would make me rage.

I snore if I have had a few beers. I just sleep on the sofa bed. To be honest sleeping together is overrated and I am looking forward to when one of the DC move out so I can move into their bedroom! Sleep is so important.

those of you who wear earplugs - how do you hear your alarm?

Earplugs just dull out the background noise. You can still hear your alarm through them, if someone yelled at you / spoke in your ear you could hear them. Could still hear a fire alarm etc.

But they block out all that rhythmic noise - snoring, traffic etc etc

I just kick my husband and get him to roll over. His has got worse recently and it doesn't help that I am 8 months pregnant and struggling to sleep as it is.
Next thing to try is a tennis ball in a bum bag on his back to try and stop him from rolling on to his back as that is when he is at his worst.
Last night I threatened to smother him with a pillow if he carried on 😂 it really is starting to drive me to breaking point!

Your OH is being an absolute arse to say it is your problem. He either needs to sleep on the sofa or go to the doctors about it to try and fix the issue.

@StiffUpperQuip the mouth guards pull your jaw into a position that won't allow your throat to collapse. Try it! It'll take a few nights for you to get used to it but once you do, both your sleep with be transformed!

@Sonicwasthebestgame Can't add anything to what has already been said, but when I read threads like this, I thank God every DAY that we have a spare bedroom. Had separate bedrooms for a decade now. Absolute bliss................. 😊

@elouera I've never been to the doctors for it. Maybe I should