settle a dispute for me please!

[Alltheshoes74]

So, a kitchen cupboard ( white shiny) gets damaged by accident, Husband/Wife doesn't report it to the other - its a scratch and can be fixed but would have to be filled an polished out. Question is, would you think necessary to tell your husband/partner
Yes - report
No - no need, its a door!

@recrudescence

On balance, Yes, I’d mention it particularly if it was previously unblemished but is not make a special phone call or anything like that just to report this one thing. But if I was otherwise speaking to the person I’d mention it or if I knew they were particularly fastidious so likely to be upset by this. It’s just a bit shit to see without warning isn’t it?

Depending on how badly damaged it was I'd probably just text DP something like "Bollocks! Just badly scratched the cupboard door with the cheese grater as I fell over the kids toys" 🤷‍♀️ it wouldn't be a big deal. I text him random nonsense about my day anyway 🤷‍♀️ (it's pretty lonely being a SAHM & adult conversation is desperately needed sometimes!)
If I'd pranged the car, however, I'd definitely not want to tell him 🙈 as he'd definitely not be happy.

I'd mention it if I remembered, it wouldn't be significant enough for me to be 100% sure of remembering.

Your voting options are a bit odd.... YABU no need to Report it!

Our cupboards are old and tatty so wouldn’t notice anyway - but if we’d had a new kitchen fitted I’d expect the one who did it would mention in passing how annoyed they were it had happened and that we could fix it by doing X thing.

I would mention it to DP because I'm useless at fixing things so he'd be the one fixing it (he is very good at fixing stuff).

Report no, let know in general conversation yes.

The door would need to fall off before my DH would notice, so no I wouldn't be "reporting" it - he knows I'm, y'know, an adult who's fully capable of sorting this kind of thing out all by myself.