settle a dispute for me please!

[Alltheshoes74]

So, a kitchen cupboard ( white shiny) gets damaged by accident, Husband/Wife doesn't report it to the other - its a scratch and can be fixed but would have to be filled an polished out. Question is, would you think necessary to tell your husband/partner
Yes - report
No - no need, its a door!

Yeah I'd mention it as I'd be pissed off id done it

DipitY doesnt "report" no anyone

Do you use reporting form?

I would definitely mention it if it comes up, but having a dispute on this?

I genuinely wouldn't see it as a thing that needed 'reporting'. It might come up in casual conversation, it might not. I probably would have forgotten about it within half an hour.

Mention but not "report"

I’d yell them it was an accident, but I wouldn’t ‘report’ it. That sounds like the person who did it is in trouble.

Tell not yell 🙄

I might mention it if I even remembered but I definitely would not report it.

I'd fill out all the appropriate incident forms, file the copy etc.

It would be mentioned eventually, but it depends what else is going on whether it makes headline news at the dinner table or an "oh yeah, earlier..." on the sofa.

I ruined our kitchen table last week by using a sharpie pen on a piece of paper with nothing underneath and it has gone through and imprinted onto the table. I told dp so he would know why there was a picture of a cow on the table 😱 but only so he knew and not to report it to him, I am both mad and amused at myself for doing it though

@Wejustdontknow - might sandpaper and fresh lacquer paint fix it? Our dining table is waiting to be fixed like this (again) (but it's just a few lines, not a pretty cow).

No. I’d just fix it because I caused the damage. I might check with DH first if it looks like something he can fix better instead of me and definitely before i spent money on a contractor to fix it.

It reads to me as though the party who failed to report has been rumbled and now faces a disciplinary.

You could probably get filler primer in a spray can to fill the scratch. Then lightly sand and paint with the gloss/lacquer finish.

Alternatively, you can just purchase a replacement door, pop the old one off the hinges and put the new door on.

I’d price out both ways because sometimes a new door is cheaper than attempting with fillers, paints etc.

I would expect that whoever did the damage would fix the damage, and that they would only really refer to the other person if they needed help with fixing. Both of us would be pissed off if the other did damage and just left it.

@MRex possibly and thank you for the suggestion, it has faded with some scrubbing and the kids are joking we should put a sheep, pig and horse in the other spots to make the table more interesting

@Wejustdontknow rubbing with some nail varnish remover (or vodka) may help too.

I’d probably mention it and then he’d repair it whilst I made supper.

I'd mention it if necessary. As in if I needed him to do something or might say oh I'm dealing with such and such. But wouldn't feel the need to report.

@Wejustdontknow This is amazing, I second the kids' suggestions to add a whole farm!

I’d complete an incident report and tell him in person, too.

The voting options are YABU and YANBU, not yes and no. YABU just for that 😛

I would mention it because it would be better than them seeing it and wondering what happened.

I would also mention because I’d probably be really annoyed that I had damaged it and be looking for some sympathy that I now had to fix it!

I’d leave it a week and then accuse him of having done it.