I sent a text to a slightly older relative saying that I had bought something 'off Amazon', and she replies with the very first line "It should read off of .... tut tut" Whether she is correct or not, it really pissed me off. I'm fifty-five, not twelve.
We have a slightly strained relationship anyway, and we hadn't spoken for two months, so to criticise me like that, well, I was not happy. In the same text, she also called me 'young lady' when admonishing me for not getting in touch earlier, but she could just as easily have contacted me in that time frame. I'm ashamed to say I sent a text back saying "Who the hell says 'off of'? No grammar nazis allowed here." Yes I definitely overreacted, but I wouldn't dream of correcting someone's grammar, unless it was a stranger who was correcting someone else's, but in the process, made errors themselves ..... they're fair game. I may see an inconsistency, but to point it out to an adult friend or relative is just plain rude if you ask me. I think I should probably apologise for the nazi comment, but I can't bring myself to do it. Ugh.
What are your feelings about grammar correction among adult friends and relatives? helpful, but mildly annoying? or passive aggressive BS?