Reported woman at school

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Due to somethings I've seen over the last few months few months I've been concerned about a little boy at my son's school. His mum appears to have an alcohol problem, and after seeing her with him clearly very drunk just after the school pick up I decided to talk to the head teacher at the school about my concerns. The mum has gone mental and been putting posts on social media that she will hunt down whoever has done this and make them pay. I'm worried myself and my son could be in danger now. The school said it would be on confidence but I'm unsure what to do. Any advise?

@Oblomov20 it’s unlikely anyone would report you just for going to the pub 🙄 if they thought you were drunk however it’d be the right thing to do and no one would care if you were furious.

OP you have nothing to worry about, she won’t know it was you.

Stupid thing to post on the most popular parenting site in the U.K. isn’t it?

@Choosername why? The OP is hardly identifiable are they?

Oh for goodness sake overreacting from typical Mumsnetters on here, there are millions of kids in the world at school. The chances of the mum finding out on here is extremely slim. Everybody calm down!

Well if it makes a few mumsnetters squirm and stay away from the bottle, then it will have been even more worthwhile.

There were a pile of mums at a primary school near us who would drop the kids at school and have sherry parties in each others homes, that all ended in tears and official intervention.

You won't be the only one. We had issues with one neighbour a few years ago - turned out that nearly everybody in the street had reported her. After she'd gone, we all compared notes.

It happens on a regular basis with schools all over the country.
Good on you for reporting it OP, and if you keep silent about it, no one other than key staff will know.Schools have a duty to collate and report drink/drug suspicions.

Don’t do anything, the school won’t tell her or anyone else who told them. She’s lashing out because she’s scared of the outcome, or she doesn’t feel she has a problem or both.

We reported a mum once to the school, drunk at pick up. Later that week she flipped her car, drunk driving, after drop off in the morning. She was sectioned for other reasons and has been well since it seems. Always say something. You did the right thing. Screenshot the threats and say no more to anyone.

You did the right thing, now do nothing, she will not find out it is you unless you make yourself look guilty by acting differently. The threats on social media aren’t exactly going to do her any favours either.

Do people not understand the fact that the OP is anonymous?

Op...relax i bet theres another few mums and possibly teacher thats reported her. You did the right thing. Keep quiet not your problem now

Unfortunately, there's a high chance that nothing will come of the report anyway.

Social services tend not to act unless there's been multiple reports and even then, I've shockingly known them to just write a letter to the parent in question 'informing' them that they've been reported! 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm sure a few people will disagree with me but I've actually witnessed this on more than a few occasions. It's messed up and very sad

Yes if she was actually drunk its a safeguarding issue, but if you are not sure of your facts then yes it is being an interfereing busybody

I think it's always best to say something if you seriously think this is the case. The opening post said 'clearly very drunk' so it does sound like the OP was as sure as she could be.

These people do my head in. Don’t be drunk picking your kid up then.
There’s no one to blame but herself. Not the messenger
Not the school
Herself

It’s like the people who have affairs and kick off at the messenger. Don’t do it then!