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AIBU to be angry with office snitch!

234 replies

Catchuptv · 09/02/2020 18:02

I'm still feeling resentful - thank god I'm off work next week. This woman at work who's only been there for a year but same position as me asked me last week if I would update a matrix instead of sending her the information to add. I do this on a weekly basis and she was on about 'streamlining' the process. I told her no - that it was easier for me just to email her the info but she said again it would make it easier and avoid mistakes transporting the information. I disagreed and left it at that - next thing is I'm called into my managers office and told I've to follow the new procedure! I'm really pissed off about this. I'm off next week but plan to speak to her when I get back for going behind my back. She went to her own boss who is the Head of the Department and must have spoke to her about it. She brought up other stuff about my leaving/arrival times - yep - I do sneak off early sometime but I get the job done. Livid.

OP posts:
Lily193 · 09/02/2020 21:53

You sound immature and a petty time waster. Does anyone over the age of 10 actually use the word 'snitch'? Confused

SinkGirl · 09/02/2020 21:54

Again, why do you think the right way to do it is to send her the data and have her input it? What’s the reasoning behind this?

Perhaps you have a good reason, and that’s why you’re annoyed?

BrunetteBuns · 09/02/2020 21:57

Do you make up the time when you leave early? Because if not, you’re being paid for time if drilled down to hours per week in your contract which you’re not working. That’s theft. People have got fired for less.

Original poster
Catchuptv · 09/02/2020 22:01

@SinkGirl the data comes to me from someone else - it's a load of different emails but I just copy and paste the stuff as it comes in - then I send it to her to input on the matrix.
It's a lot quicker for me to do it like that and since she's started she's been doing it and the staff member before her did it. That's why I think she should continue to do it.

OP posts:
Saracen · 09/02/2020 22:03

OP, I'm rather more sympathetic to you than others because I am inclined to act the same way you were inclined to act. I have a stubborn streak a mile long. I bear a grudge, the more so when I know I've done something wrong. It is hard to admit the mistake even to myself, and easier to hate the other person.

Sounds like you've taken on board from the unanimous opinion here that you made a mistake. When I am in such a situation I find it really really hard to make a genuine apology and move forward. But given a bit of time, I can at least step back and ask myself, what is in my own best interests to do now? The answer is usually to muster whatever grace I can - by email is easiest - and say what needs to be said. You need to look sorry. Pretend to be sorry even if you aren't. This will make a better working relationship.

Email your colleague to say that you recognise that by sending her the info by email you have caused her extra work and that from now in you will enter it yourself. You don't have to grovel, but try to be cordial. Try to put yourself in her shoes and think what you would want to hear. You'd want to hear that Catchuptv is a reasonable person who is prepared to change when needed, and that you can go to her with any concerns rather than having to go to her boss again.

Giving in to your inclination to have a go at her will only backfire. She may find other reasons to report you to the boss in future, or get petty in other ways. There's no need for the two of you to be at war.

TryingToBeBold · 09/02/2020 22:08

@Catchuptv

Just because that's how it's always been done.. doesn't mean it's the best or easiest way.
With that approach there would never be change (for the better and worse).

Original poster
Catchuptv · 09/02/2020 22:10

@Saracen - thank you - that sounds like me - and a good idea which I will try.

OP posts:
Snog · 09/02/2020 22:12

Sneaking off early when you are paid to be there is fraud OP and could easily get you fired!

Littlewelshridinghood · 09/02/2020 22:15

Your a bit pathetic OP. She didn't 'snitch' on you, she discussed an issue she had with her boss.

Loveislandlydia · 09/02/2020 22:18

Acting all apologetic and mellow won’t wash OP.
We’ve seen your previous thread and you’ve clearly not changed. In that old thread you said you’d try and help her more and try to be nicer after you were told by everyone that you were nasty. Yet here you are again.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 09/02/2020 22:19

Wow you just sound like a bully. Haven't got out the playground mindset yet then OP?

SinkGirl · 09/02/2020 22:20

It's a lot quicker for me to do it like that and since she's started she's been doing it and the staff member before her did it. That's why I think she should continue to do it.

It’s quicker for you. It’s obviously not quicker for her. You say she’s on the same level as you, not your junior, so what task are you doing so that she doesn’t have to? Where’s the division of duty? Do other members of the team also palm off stuff like this on her?

In your previous post (if it was the same person, I’m not sure because if so she’s been there more than a year?), you said she has more work to do than the rest of you so surely this is just adding to her workload?

It’s a waste of time for you to copy and paste data from emails into another email and then for her to copy and paste it somewhere else when you could just copy and paste it into the spreadsheet or wherever. Yes, it would take more time than just sticking it all in an email, but it’s a duplication of work.

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 09/02/2020 22:21

Wait so this WASN’T a reverse?

Wow.

Desolate2nite · 09/02/2020 22:22

What is a reverse?

Original poster
Catchuptv · 09/02/2020 22:23

@SinkGirl that is an old post and not the same person. She's moved on now.

OP posts:
Darbs76 · 09/02/2020 22:23

This is the video I show people as an improvement champion. Your colleague is right, you should be looking to improve your processes.

PureAlchemy · 09/02/2020 22:23

I wouldn’t see this as her going behind your back when she spoke to you about it personally first. Your manager must think that her idea for the new procedure is a good one, or they wouldn’t have told you to do it.

And it’s not necessarily her who’s brought up you sneaking out early. If she’s noticed, other people will have - possibly your manager’s noticed themselves too - and your manager may well have decided to get everything out of the way at once.

Cohle · 09/02/2020 22:27

It's a lot quicker for me to do it like that and since she's started she's been doing it and the staff member before her did it. That's why I think she should continue to do it.

Just because something has "always been done that way" doesn't mean that's the best or most efficient method.

It may be quicker for you but it's patently not quicker for her. You need to consider staff input overall. You come across as lazy and stuck in your ways.

She came to you first. Given your boss now thinks it's a good idea you really only have yourself to blame for the fact you look bad.

Loveislandlydia · 09/02/2020 22:36

She's moved on now
I wonder what on earth possessed her to leave the workplace she shared with you.

MissGuernsey · 09/02/2020 22:38

BaolFan

I used to work in the public sector. For long periods of time my colleagues and I had little work to do. They would routinely leave early to go shopping or visit the hairdressers. I never dreamt of telling tales. Mind you, the manager would regularly 'work from home'. We all knew he fitted in his long runs (marathon training) on these days. I was happy when they left early. I could do my freelance work and OU work in peace.

RedRed9 · 09/02/2020 22:45

data comes to me from someone else - it's a load of different emails but I just copy and paste the stuff as it comes in - then I send it to her to input on the matrix.
Don’t you see though that this is an unnecessary extra step and makes unnecessary extra work (for her). Why not just add it to the matrix yourself?

RedRed9 · 09/02/2020 22:46

@MissGuernsey what job is that? I want to apply 😂

AndThenThereWereSeven · 09/02/2020 22:51

All OP's posts seem to be greeted with 'is this a reverse?'

longcoffee · 09/02/2020 22:52

If you didn't leave early, you could use the time inputting the data Grin

JosefKeller · 09/02/2020 23:13

but I just copy and paste the stuff as it comes in - then I send it to her to input on the matrix.

I don't get it... what's the point of that?

Either your colleague should be the one receiving the emails, or at the very least be copied on them,
or you should input things yourself.

I can't make sense of the system you prefer, is it only because it's less work for you?