AIBU to be angry with office snitch!

[Catchuptv]

I'm still feeling resentful - thank god I'm off work next week. This woman at work who's only been there for a year but same position as me asked me last week if I would update a matrix instead of sending her the information to add. I do this on a weekly basis and she was on about 'streamlining' the process. I told her no - that it was easier for me just to email her the info but she said again it would make it easier and avoid mistakes transporting the information. I disagreed and left it at that - next thing is I'm called into my managers office and told I've to follow the new procedure! I'm really pissed off about this. I'm off next week but plan to speak to her when I get back for going behind my back. She went to her own boss who is the Head of the Department and must have spoke to her about it. She brought up other stuff about my leaving/arrival times - yep - I do sneak off early sometime but I get the job done. Livid.

YABU, clearly. I don't understand why you think that you shoud be able to send her whatever it is, and get her to do the update instead of doing it yourself, as its easier. She disagrees and told upper staff who agreed with her, so now seemingly, a bit of a meltdown?

Anyway, it sounds horrendus at your workplace. I have never worked somewhere where it was basically back to the school yard, have always worked with adults who have professional standards.

So -how do I go forward from here everyone? It seems like everyone is thinking I'm in the wrong.

I wanted to bring it up with her so she knows that I'm not a pushover and I'm not impressed with her going behind my back. But now I'm thinking about it I'd be best of leaving it. it looks like I'm not popular on here -sorry to offend everyone.

@BahMooQuack - I stopped that thanks.

Good to hear OP.

Credit to you for coming back to the thread after the responses here.

You're in the wrong
You sound a nightmare colleague and a problem employee

If you say anything to her, it should be to apologise and admit her way is more efficient

• do NOT mention "snitching" or she'll be convinced you're 12

op are you my colleague?
I had to complain about someone who is supposed to update a database and never does it and sends emails instead. as result other people can't do their work properly.
this person also usually arrives late, takes long breaks and leaves very punctual. but that was not part of my complaint...

You lack insight. I think going forward you stop looking at her and start looking at yourself.

So -how do I go forward from here everyone? It seems like everyone is thinking I'm in the wrong.

just .. don't do anything.

Basically your colleague disagree and discuss with your boss.
a) you think SHE is wrong and your system is better. When the boss discuss with you, defend and argument your position. If they still disagree, nothing you can do.
b) you know she is right, and you have nothing to say. What exactly do you want to do?

Catchuptv
you need to get that she did not go behind your back, she talked to you first...

😂😂 hoping wooden is the ‘office snitch’

My god I don’t think I’ve ever seen such a unanimous vote against such a horrible op.

Cause you didn’t learn anything from your previous post about your ‘bants’ did you op? Urgh i don’t think anyone wants to work with you having read your vileness

Just be nice, grow up and follow the new procedure.

I would update the data instead of emailing and stop sneaking off early. That would be a good start.

I wanted to bring it up with her so she knows that I'm not a pushover and I'm not impressed with her going behind my back. But now I'm thinking about it I'd be best of leaving it. it looks like I'm not popular on here -sorry to offend everyone.

I don't understand why you think she would think you were a pushover for not bringing it up? Boss clearly agrees with her, its being done differently now, end of story surely.

Honestly, in your situation, I would just leave it now. And try not to get mad, what she did makes sense, sounds like how it was happening was more work for her, so of course she would like to change that!

I wanted to bring it up with her so she knows that I'm not a pushover and I'm not impressed with her going behind my back.

She didn’t go behind your back, OP. She brought it to your attention—repeatedly—and you ignored her—repeatedly. So she did the only thing she could do, she mentioned it to her boss.

That isn’t snitching; you’re not children in a playground. It’s ensuring your working environment remains professional while improving old and outdated systems.

You are in the wrong here. You aren’t any better than her or worth more to the company just because you’ve been there longer. You have to stick to the same rules as everyone else and that includes working your contracted hours.

Yabu. You are probably pissing off your whole office, but she is the only one with balls to complain about your leaving early and work.

Going forward. Complete the sheet and stop leaving early at a minimum. Apologise to boss if asked about leaving early.

And ideally update colleague to say you will now update the sheet yourself. Thanks for her help so far.

Hopefully it will blow over, but I would be perfect employee incase they start looking to build a case to get rid of you.

I wanted to bring it up with her so she knows that I'm not a pushover and I'm not impressed with her going behind my back

Are you an actual child? Talking about ‘snitching’ and ‘banter’ and your comment above. Most adults just let stuff go, not everything needs a reaction. After all the shit you’ve been doing to her, is it any wonder she’s not happy with you?

@ellendegeneres not going to argue with ya - but that's a bit harsh. I'm not a horrible person at all. I have a very big circle of friends and a lot from work.

I would go back in after annual leave. Do your job perfectly, arrive on time and leave on time. Update the matrix yourself and look at other ways the current work load could be streamlined. Think of solutions and work hard to implement them.
Be polite and kind to ALL colleagues.
Look into people skills- maybe read a self help book or two.
You say you are good at your job and get the work done. Imagine how much more you could do if you worked your full hours, if you streamlined your processes and stopped all the ‘banter’ with colleagues.
We have 16 year old apprentices at the moment and you sound very similar to one of them. If she is reprimanded or is given any form of criticism- even constructive criticism she wants to “get back at the person that who told her off”.
The difference is you are a fully grown experienced member of staff. The apprentice is technically a child and has just moved from a school environment to a professional environment.

I'm not a horrible person at all. I have a very big circle of friends and a lot from work
This is exactly the attitude that the most awful person at my work has. In reality, people actually can’t stand her and think she’s vile but don’t want to admit it to her because she’s a massive bully and it would put them in an awkward position.
I know a lot of other people outside of work who think they have a lot of friends and think they’re incredibly ‘popular’...but they don’t know that their friends see them for exactly what they are and hate them in reality.
Isn’t that a funny coincidence.

Why do you think emailing her is a better system, is it a better system ? or is it just easier for you. If you feel you are in the right over this, then go an present the facts to your boss, presumably like your colleague has presented her new system to them. Otherwise, just get on with it and the rest of your job.
I would generally give you the benefit of the doubt over a few early darts, but reading your other posts, you sound completely oblivious to your own behaviour and its impact on your colleagues and I wouldn't even know where to start trying to explain, except maybe just try to remember you are there to do the job you are paid for, your work isn't there to fit around your lifestyle.

Actually @ellendegeneres is spot on.
Only I would actually say you were an arsehole rather than horrible.
You're damn lucky.
Last time I asked someone to do something/trial something and they refused and didn't give me the time of day... I went to their manager.
That didn't go down well...

Nothing to do with going behind your back.. just as you're bloody asked. What else is she meant to do.. go back and forth while you constantly refuse to help streamline the process.

I can't imagine what some of your work colleagues think of you.. I would have had a complaint against you. I wonder if you have had any... or do you just name call and bully those who do want to complain so they feel intimated?!

I've only read the first couple of responses and deliberately skipped the rest as I predicted a pile-on.
So, my take is that I don't see the relevance of you having been there for years meaning it's OK to "sneak off" (your words) early.
As a colleague, same level or otherwise, that would piss me off.

If you are in the same position as her, why are you trying to give her work to do? I'd be livid if I was her! You sneak off early and expect her to do your work?

You need to buck your idea's up OP, your idea of apologising is a good start. I bet she’s not the first to complain about you, management will have their eye on you now so you need to be squeaky clean.