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AIBU to be angry with office snitch!

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Catchuptv · 09/02/2020 18:02

I'm still feeling resentful - thank god I'm off work next week. This woman at work who's only been there for a year but same position as me asked me last week if I would update a matrix instead of sending her the information to add. I do this on a weekly basis and she was on about 'streamlining' the process. I told her no - that it was easier for me just to email her the info but she said again it would make it easier and avoid mistakes transporting the information. I disagreed and left it at that - next thing is I'm called into my managers office and told I've to follow the new procedure! I'm really pissed off about this. I'm off next week but plan to speak to her when I get back for going behind my back. She went to her own boss who is the Head of the Department and must have spoke to her about it. She brought up other stuff about my leaving/arrival times - yep - I do sneak off early sometime but I get the job done. Livid.

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GiveHerHellFromUs · 09/02/2020 19:04

*your, ffs

FrogsFrogs · 09/02/2020 19:05

So you bung her the stuff in the format easier for you and she has to go to the proper place and no doubt cut and paste/ reorganise etc to add it as these things usually go, and are always more time consuming than you'd hope.

You are refusing to do your job properly and giving her extra work.

Tabu.

Logfootlightoe · 09/02/2020 19:06

Put it down as a lesson learned, and careful what you say to her.
But in her position, I''d have done the same - she has an idea to make a process easier, you refuse for no good reason. Plus, no one likes people who come in or leave earlier a lot - even if you do get everything done. I'm sure lots of people could sue that argument - but if you want to look professional then work the hours your supposed to.

L0bstersLass · 09/02/2020 19:06

@Partychaos

Great detective work!

Can you also please explain to me what a reverse is? I've seen the term used on a number of occasions but I don't know what it means.

FrogsFrogs · 09/02/2020 19:07

Yabu rather.

If it were no effort to add to matrix you'd be doing it yourself.

I think her saying it's too streamline was very generous to you. She could have said to boss, X is palming off tedious admin tasks into me rather than doing them herself.

Yogawoogie · 09/02/2020 19:09

You said no so she went above you.
She did the right thing and the manager obviously thought so too.

DowntownAbby · 09/02/2020 19:09

Snitches get stitches

Yeah, you should shank her in the toilets, OP!

Grin
2020newme · 09/02/2020 19:09

I also thought this HAD to be a reverse until I read the OPs other thread linked above.

OP you are a nightmare employee and colleague. HTH

Kastanien · 09/02/2020 19:10

Is this the same colleague as in the previous thread or are you annoyed at someone else now? Because if it is someone else as well, then maybe, just maybe, it is you with the issue rather than both of them? Just a thought.

BahMooQuack · 09/02/2020 19:10

wowsers.

I just read this and your other thread.

I am shocked ... SHOCKED yopu have not been either put on notice, or fired from your job. It seriously does not say much about your senior managements ability to ... well.. manage.

Guacamole · 09/02/2020 19:11

asked me last week if I would update a matrix instead of sending her the information to add. I do this on a weekly basis and she was on about 'streamlining' the process. I told her no - that it was easier for me just to email her the info but she said again it would make it easier and avoid mistakes transporting the information. I disagreed and left it at that

She’s right, you’re wrong. She tried to reasonably discuss it with you. You left her no choice. She is absolutely right, and you sound like a nightmare to work with.

Skysblue · 09/02/2020 19:13

Yabu. Learn to work your contracted hours or get used to colleagues despising you and rightly raising it to management level.

Her suggestion that you enter the data into the matrix makes way more sense than your lazy idea of emailing her so she can do the work.

You sound like a right pain to work with.

Sally872 · 09/02/2020 19:13

@lobsterlass a reverse is when someone writes from another person's point of view to get opinions. Usually lots of "that is terrible you are wrong" then OP says "actually I am the office snitch"

It's annoying and wastes people's time. You can normally spot it because it is extremely unreasonable. Though I can see how it might make people believe it makes their point more clearly.

Ohtherewearethen · 09/02/2020 19:13

Yeah it's you that's the problem, OP. You are the annoying colleague and you appear hideously unprofessional along with it.

RedPanda2 · 09/02/2020 19:14

You sound like a nightmare. If I was your boss I'd be bringing you in talking capability. If you finish your work early don't you offer to help the team or do you just sneak off?

BettysLeftTentacle · 09/02/2020 19:14

You sound uncannily like someone I have to suffer work with. She’s also off next week.

If it is you 🖕

PityParty4one · 09/02/2020 19:14

Is this a piss take?

Arrowfanatic · 09/02/2020 19:15

@Catchuptv who input the details before she started? Sometimes processes become stagnant & a new employee bringing a fresh set of eyes is an asset and clearly she picked up on a daft system & suggested a way to improve. Since you knocked her back she did the correct thing by escalating it to the boss.

As for the leaving early, unless your company has a flexi time work culture then you should, and are expected to do your contracted hours. Now and again for an event is fine but not just as a piss take.

Percypigsear · 09/02/2020 19:16

Just read your previous thread and this one and if you were employee, you’d be out on your ear. I bet your colleagues are thrilled you’re off work next week.

L0bstersLass · 09/02/2020 19:17

@Sally872

Thanks!

Totally understand why people would have thought this was a reverse, as why would anyone admit to behaving in this manner!

Seetheprettysnowdrops · 09/02/2020 19:18

This must be another reverse

You sound awful OP. your poor colleague

BahMooQuack · 09/02/2020 19:18

Tell us more Betty.

(Although, you are probably wrong to say your someone 'is off next week'. Sounds like she is never really on)!!

I have a colleague who is lazy as fuck and not only has several smoke breaks a day but also sneaks off early. One time I was so pissed off I made a record and realised she was either smoking or leaving early to the tune of neatly an hour a day. Naturally she used up every single minute of 'lunch' because that was 'her time'.

People know who the office skivers are, and they don't have respect.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 09/02/2020 19:19

Christ alive. I'm normally an eye roller when it comes to AS but it was more than apt in these circumstances. You're a vile bully at work OP. Seems you've got a little too comfortable in your job and nobody will be able to do right unless it's done your way. And of course you wouldn't care if she left early because you do it all the time. The thing is, she's not likely to leave early because she clearly has better morals than you do

BettysLeftTentacle · 09/02/2020 19:20

FYI OP, my colleague that is exactly like you, judging by this thread and your previous one, is facing a disciplinary for bullying and harassment when she returns from annual leave the week after next. Sounds like your company has caught on and this is where you’re headed to.

LovingLola · 09/02/2020 19:20

How do you get away with this??