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AIBU to be angry with office snitch!

234 replies

Catchuptv · 09/02/2020 18:02

I'm still feeling resentful - thank god I'm off work next week. This woman at work who's only been there for a year but same position as me asked me last week if I would update a matrix instead of sending her the information to add. I do this on a weekly basis and she was on about 'streamlining' the process. I told her no - that it was easier for me just to email her the info but she said again it would make it easier and avoid mistakes transporting the information. I disagreed and left it at that - next thing is I'm called into my managers office and told I've to follow the new procedure! I'm really pissed off about this. I'm off next week but plan to speak to her when I get back for going behind my back. She went to her own boss who is the Head of the Department and must have spoke to her about it. She brought up other stuff about my leaving/arrival times - yep - I do sneak off early sometime but I get the job done. Livid.

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Abouttoblow · 09/02/2020 18:44

I'm surprised by the responses you're getting too OP.

When I had the Flexi Time CF thread most responses were that I was being unreasonable for complaining about a colleague starting late and finishing early. I was told it was none of my business.

How times change Wink

MrsStrangerThing · 09/02/2020 18:45

She had no option but to go to the manager as you refused to accept a more streamlined and efficient process. It makes no sense that you send her data when you could just input it yourself and cut out a step in the process.

Hard to say about the sneaking off thing. Ten mins early once every 6 months to attend an appointment or something - totally unreasonable to report you. However if you regularly go an hour early then yes that would need reporting. It depends on the whole situation really. I do leave a bit early occasionally but on all other days I stay late, and I always start early. So I would be really hurt if someone reported me. But I work in a very autonomous role, in a team environment, it really isn't on to slope off.

puds11 · 09/02/2020 18:46

Sounds like you don’t like her and were being purposefully obtuse. Not doing something that reduces errors for the benefit of you work because you can’t be arsed is shitty. I’d say something to my boss about you too. Plus I assume you are contracted and paid for a set amount of hours so by leaving early you are in breach of contract so rightly reported for that too.

Soontobe60 · 09/02/2020 18:47

YABU to use the term 'snitch' as if you were a 10 yr old child moaning about a sibling telling your mum that it was you who broke the window.

Your colleague has clearly seen you for what you are, a workshy woman who isn't prepared to move forward.

If I were you, I'd start looking for another job because I can guarantee that your ur card is now well and truly marked, and rightly so.

Jellybeansincognito · 09/02/2020 18:47

Working somewhere for years doesn’t give you rights above others- particularly those at your same level.
You sent her info to update instead of doing it yourself because it’s easier?
Of course it’s easier.
Why are you sneaking out early?

You clearly think you’re above your same level colleague and good on her for speaking up.
People like you do nothing but take, take, take.

cheeseomelette · 09/02/2020 18:48

This is ridiculous. And it's you, not her.

Nobody may have complained to your face but I'd bet my house they've been complaining behind your back.

FizzyGreenWater · 09/02/2020 18:48

Could you poison her

Try arsenic in a chocolate or perhaps a petit filous

justasking111 · 09/02/2020 18:49

You have been slacking, now caught if you value this job, pack it in and start working a full day and doing what you are asked.

Jellybeansincognito · 09/02/2020 18:50

‘ I'm off next week but plan to speak to her when I get back for going behind my back’

And what’s that going to achieve? Why do you feel so high and mighty?

She tried to approach you and you shot her down, so she went above you.
Hardly going behind your back- she’s clearly been asked if other things you do bother her and she’s been honest.

Which is more than can be said about yourself.

Accept your mistake and move on. Holding a grudge will do nothing but make you lose your job all together.

Alb1 · 09/02/2020 18:51

Good on your colleague for doing something about it, why shouldn’t she tell her boss if you won’t follow new procedures? What’s so special about you? Maybe she’s sick of you doing things your own way regardless of what’s expected and decided to stand up for herself, and seen as speaking to you directly first got her nowere she went above you. Serves you right.

BookMeOnTheSudExpress · 09/02/2020 18:51

Looks like it might be time to actually pull your weight at work.
And her being there a year and you being there since forever is just further proof you've been caught out taking the piss.

And Flexi time is completely different to "sneaking off early".

damnthatanxiety · 09/02/2020 18:52

The only people to use the term 'snitches' are people who are doing wrong and don't want to be called on it OP

Partychaos · 09/02/2020 18:52

I was so sure this was a reverse I AS the op which I rarely do... it was very insightful on the kind of person you are op

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2999088-New-employee-annoying

CrocodilesCry · 09/02/2020 18:53

Wow - the entitlement "I've worked here for years yadda yadda".

I work with someone like this and I'd bet the farm that others will have complained about you as well.

1066vegan · 09/02/2020 18:53

YBU. Your colleague is neither "pathetic" nor "a snitch". That's pretty childish language. I'd be frustrated with a colleague who refused to implement a sensible suggestion and who thought it was ok to "sneak off early".

WhatACrockO · 09/02/2020 18:53

Snitches get stitches

🤣

Monsterjam · 09/02/2020 18:56

She asked you to change a process to make it better/safer etc and you said no... of course she would go up the line to deal with that stale mate. The fact that the line manager agreed with them must tell you something!!

Anastasiaqueensouth · 09/02/2020 18:58

@Partychaos oh my god!

OP you seem vile and a nightmare colleague. BTW calling people ‘pussy’ when they don’t like it isn’t ‘banter’, it’s bullying.
She works harder than you and you don’t like it. She works overtime, you sneak off early and you’re now angry that she’s called you out.

Good. Riddance.

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 09/02/2020 18:59

I'm guessing she spoke to get boss about her perfectly logical amendment to the process, he/she may have said oh but OPs ever so busy I don't like to give her more work, and your colleague replied well she's not too busy to leave half an hour early on a regular basis. You stated this whole scenario by being obtuse. Her suggestion makes perfect sense, I'd you'd done it you wouldn't be in the position you are now.

Sally872 · 09/02/2020 19:00

She has asked you to do something reasonable to improve processes and you refuse. What is she supposed to do? Continue to update the sheet cos you are lazy? And if I was highlighting your laziness to my boss I may add other examples such as "sneaking off early" if it helps by case. Because by this point your the bitch refusing a reasonable request and I want it sorted.

Strugglingtoquit · 09/02/2020 19:00

Nothing breeds resentment at work like your colleagues pulling their weight. In this case the one not pulling their weight is you OP.

I hope your boss puts you in your place and insists on a change in attitude, but reading some of the previous post someone linked I doubt anything they say will have much of an effect sadly

FineWordsForAPorcupine · 09/02/2020 19:03

I think her reasoning regarding the information is sound - it really annoys me at work when I ask someone to update a document and they just send me the raw data for me to input. I'm not their secretary, and it means that if there's an error in the data (which they would spot, but I might not necessarily realise) then it becomes my error, not theirs.

Also, if its OK for you to leave early, why the need for "sneaking"? I have a degree of flexibility about arrival/leaving times at work, and I don't need to "sneak" anywhere.

Anastasiaqueensouth · 09/02/2020 19:03

I’m just sick of people taking things so personally - seriously. I think she's a bit of a wimp and I'm not too impressed with her working extra hours - I don't get it. OK it sounds like we're being mean but it's a bit of banter
After an entire previous thread of people saying you’re a vile bully, you concede at the end and say ‘I’m not going to apologise but I will help her more’. Now here you are evidently not helping her more and now you’re pissed off that someone is standing up to you!
Nasty piece of work

GaaaaarlicBread · 09/02/2020 19:03

I think you are being unreasonable but I can see why you’re annoyed too. Sadly you’ve been ‘snitched on’ and management are now aware of you not following procedure and also leave early sometimes , tough luck unfortunately. Work is for work and that’s what you get paid to do, not to leave early and cut corners .

GiveHerHellFromUs · 09/02/2020 19:04

You're intention was to make life more difficult than it needed to be when you refused to help make the process easier.
She just returned the favour.

Maybe next time, if someone asks you to do something slightly different to help them out, don't cut your nose off to spite your face.

YABU.

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