Dp asked mil before we got pregnant if she would be able to help us with childcare as we wanted to make sure we could afford etc. She said yea. Since then and now baby here she has said she can't help us because she looks after other gc 5x a week so she would have to ask them if she could help us. We only asked her to help for 3 days a month (in one go) to allow my dm time to see her other gc. Mil doesn't live local but has always come to stay in holidays etc for 3-5 days at a time and personally I think a visit once a month isn't too much to ask and would hope that she would want to see gc regularly. Mil has never got back to us about it, one way or another. I would completely understand if she said she didn't feel confident looking after a young baby etc ect but she gives impression its because she has agreed to help with other gc. Side note she did agree to help us while other gc mum not working so it wasn't like 'they got there first'. Do you think 3 days a month is reasonable to ask? I'm not going to mention it ever again and will just get along without her as my child is ultimately my responsibility not hers but I think it's her loss in the end. I'd be interested to hear if anyone else would be hurt by this? I kind of feel like well I know where our dc comes in the pecking order and feel sad for our dc. I also feel gutted for my dh as I know he feels really upset by this but doesn't want to upset his mum either. AIBU to think 3 days a month wasnt unreasonable to ask for even if she isn't local (2hr journey) ?