Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To think that this is not strange at all??!!

63 replies

Lipperfromchipper · 08/02/2020 11:19

Last night a friend was dropping something she borrowed back to my house, she stated a time but that time came and went and so I completely forgot! I went to have a bath as it was 9.30, dh decided he would join me...fair enough! (Or so I thought)
So as we were in the bath, I get a text from friend, (about 9.45) saying “knocked but assumed you were in bed!” Left said item through letterbox”
I rang her this morning to say thanks and sorry as “ we were In the bath” - now I have to admit I forgot myself when I said “we” 🤣
She then replied...“oh no bother, God that was late for your dc to be awake”...I said no not dc...me and dh were in the bath!! She then gasped and said... “you take baths...together?” I said “yeah, it’s a lovely way to relax!!why not??” She laughed and said that it was a “tad strange but hey ho” Confused so AIBU? Is it odd, I was under the impression it was fairly average behaviour!!!

OP posts:
FetchezLaVache · 08/02/2020 11:21

YADNBU!! Bathing with one's loved one is wonderful.

happyjack12 · 08/02/2020 11:21

not odd at all!

OralBee · 08/02/2020 11:22

Yep normal behaviour to bath or shower together, I wonder why she thinks it’s strange!

RedSheep73 · 08/02/2020 11:22

Grin Either you are both tiny or you have a massive bath!

APatchyTomCat · 08/02/2020 11:23

I don’t think it’s that remarkable but it isn’t happening round our gaff. DH likes his water about the temperature of your average puddle, and I’m not satisfied unless I go maroon.

Original poster
Lipperfromchipper · 08/02/2020 11:23

Oh thank god!! @OralBee... I also wonder why? I find it odd that she thinks it’s odd!!

OP posts:
MingeofDeath · 08/02/2020 11:23

YANBU. We always used to have a bath together. Unfortunately we can't anymore as we are now fat bastards and our bath can't accommodate us bathing together

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 08/02/2020 11:24

It’s not odd to shower or bath together but it might be a bit odd to tell people... I wouldn’t thank friends for the imagery Grin

Perhaps she meant it was strange for you to be in the bath together when she was due round, or strange that you told her...

I wouldn’t overthink it!

ShirleyPhallus · 08/02/2020 11:25

I love the idea of bathing with my DP. In my head, we will look like a sexy advert for luxury bath products, all giggles, sensual caresses and gentle massages. Unfortunately, as a huge rugby playing brute, it’s like bathing with a baby elephant. Water everywhere, him huffing and puffing he’s too hot, instead of gently soaping me down it feels like he’s trying to take the varnish off an old table.

So YANBU but I am pretty jealous you can actually do it!

katewhinesalot · 08/02/2020 11:26

I wouldn't unless it was likely to lead to something but then I don't like baths anyway.
I wouldn't find it strange that others do though.

dayowl · 08/02/2020 11:27

YANBU, it isn’t odd at all

Bluerussian · 08/02/2020 11:27

Nothing strange about it, it's a nice thing to do as long as the bath is big enough for both of you.

Kolo · 08/02/2020 11:27

YANBU. We always used to have a bath together. Unfortunately we can't anymore as we are now fat bastards and our bath can't accommodate us bathing together

Same. We'd need a swimming pool.

Original poster
Lipperfromchipper · 08/02/2020 11:28

@RedSheep73 a bit of both I reckon... it’s a fairly big bath tbh (we chose big on purpose) and we are both small enough I suppose 🤣

OP posts:
mantarays · 08/02/2020 11:29

Not something I’d tell a friend or neighbour. Personal. But not odd.

SuperPixie247 · 08/02/2020 11:30

"instead of gently soaping me down it feels like he’s trying to take the varnish off an old table"

I am sorry but Grin

My DP and I used to take weekly baths together when we lived apart. Since moving in together, over a year ago we haven't taken one since!

Fishfingersandwichplease · 08/02/2020 11:35

Omg some of these replies are cracking me up!! Idea vs reality lol!!

Original poster
Lipperfromchipper · 08/02/2020 11:40

🤣🤣🤣 I have to admit it was out of my mouth before I realized what I had said!!

OP posts:
ICouldHaveBeenAContender · 08/02/2020 11:58

No, not strange.

When we were teens, in the 1970s, my friend had to drop something off to the (hippy-ish) parents of a young child we knew. She was slightly traumatised when the dad appeared at the door, in his dressing gown, and explained "we were just having a bath". So it's been normal for a long time!

MatildaTheCat · 08/02/2020 12:00

It’s a case of TMI. ‘Sorry, we were upstairs and didn’t hear you’ would have sufficed.

Remember that your friend cannot now unthink the image of the two of you in the tub, you need to buy her some wine. Grin

Thehop · 08/02/2020 12:00

We’re too fat to share otherwise I think it’s lovely!

Spam88 · 08/02/2020 12:02

It's a bit of an overshare given it's normally a sexual activity. I wouldn't just hop in the bath with my DH for us to have a good scrub.

Vulpine · 08/02/2020 12:02

There is no way me and dh would fit in the bath. I would hate it

lilyheather1 · 08/02/2020 12:04

Not weird to do it, but it's not something I'd share with friends! 😂

Joint baths are when DH and I have our best conversations, it's like all the random shower thoughts combine into an interesting discussion about ridiculous hypothetical situations 😂

BottleOfJameson · 08/02/2020 12:06

YANBU, like PP we need a bigger tub to manage it now but it's a totally normal thing to do!