To ask what you really think happens when you die?

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I’d describe myself as agnostic. I’d like to think God exists, and heaven exists but logically I think it’s probably unlikely.

My grandads mum died this week, she was asleep really for her final days, and in the run up to her death she’s been quiet, and not really present, however, the second before she died, she opened her eyes, smiled (her face in all honestly wall almost glowing with joy) and shouted ‘Mama, Mama’ and then she died.

I’d love to think her mum came to get her and take her to heaven or an afterlife but the logics part tells me it was probably something neurological. Might ignore my logical side though because I like the other possibility better!

For those asking about sharing all the space etc or meeting Adolf Hitler etc, I don't believe we carry on in the physical sense, I.e if I died there'd be 10 stone of ghost floating around bumping into millions of other ghosts all jostling for space 😆 I think of it more like a source of energy, maybe like in the atoms/protons sense.

Our soul weighs 21 grams? That is the most ridiculous woo I have ever heard.

My husband died the day after Boxing Day. I was holding his hand as he passed away. After a few minutes I had an overwhelming feeling of being the only person in the room. His body just wasn't 'him' anymore and it didn't feel at all like I was leaving him there when I went home from the hospital.

When I walked in my front door I immediately felt his presence and I remember thinking that he got home before I did. Over the following twenty four hours, me and my children experienced four separate signs that he was there with us that we are unable to find any other explanation for. After the last one (my son's laptop screen turning on and off with none of us anywhere near it), my son said 'that was Daddy reminding me not to spend too much time on my computer' . And then I had a feeling he was no longer there and had gone somewhere else.

I never previously believed in any kind of life after death and I know I sounds like wishful thinking, but am convinced my husband was letting us know in that 24 hour period that he was ok and that he was saying a final goodbye to us all. I think he's here in a different way now - sometimes when I'm trying to find something of his I hear his voice in my head telling me where to look and it's always there - I can't explain it at all I just know that it happens. I have found it very comforting and so have my DS and DD.

I try to look at it this way. Before you were born you didn't exist and have no knowledge or experience of that time. When you die it's the same. You just cease to exist in the same way as you didn't exist before. Being asleep and unconscious is about the closest thing I could imagine it being like. Totally absent mentally and physically.

However, if you adhere to a belief in an afterlife then there's cause to worry as there are so many possibilities, never mind the terrible peddling by a religion of a place like hell, which is just a nasty way of controlling people by the threat of it.

If you are one of the people who have to find an answer to why they are here and there must be a plan otherwise what is it all about and all that stuff then you will naturally spend a lot of your life pondering the end, or at least what's after the end.

With my take on it, I may be pleasantly surprised by some sort of heaven (hopefully the hell thing is bollocks) but I'm OK with 'that's all folks'.

I believe we are reunited with your loved ones.
When my mum passed away, she told us her mother was there. My sister told her to go with her. 10mins later she passed away with a smile on her face.
For me personally I believe I will see my beautiful dd again.

Our soul weighs 21 grams? That is the most ridiculous woo I have ever heard

The at the end should have been sufficient to indicate my assertion was somewhat tongue in cheek as 21 grams is the alleged weight of the soul in the film of the same name. It's a good film.
Watch it some time, Namechanger.

I believe in angels and spirits

I have a very strong faith. There is absolutely life after death.

Once we are heart and brain dead that’s our lot.

People close to death very often experience visual and auditory hallucinations. These are caused by drugs, lack of oxygen and other changes going on within the body. Talking to/asking for and seeing deceased relatives/friends is a strong signal that death isn’t too far off.

This has some interesting insights that are consistent with some of the comments above:
www.bbc.com/future/article/20200205-death-can-our-final-moment-be-euphoric

samandpoppysmummy, that reminded me of after my lovely MiL died.

For a few days I had a very strong sense of her presence in our house, where she’d always been happy. I could almost ‘see’ her sitting on the sofa.
Of course I put it down entirely to my imagination, and when my father died only 6 months later, I fully expected to sense (imagine) the same, either in our house or my mother’s.
But there was nothing. Zilch.

The bit I struggle with is how do you just stop being ? I mean you always have thoughts in your head etc.. how does that just stop ? That’s why I like to believe in reincarnation.

I think something that is part of you leaves and goes to join the same part from other people.

Three weeks or so after my father died, I felt him in the room with me. I could have told you whereabouts he was. It was the strangest thing that has ever happened to me. I'm not religious, though I'm open-minded about the afterlife.

You die. That is it. End of. I have no desire to meet other dead people in an afterlife.
Make the most of being alive.

I believe in reincarnation, and that "this" life is a continuation of the learning process we've gone through in all the others. In time, if our souls make enough progress, we can hopefully reach the point where we no longer need to be born again and become pure spirit

We're all at different stages though, which explains children who seem "much wiser than their years" and conversely adults who we feel are "very immature / lacking understanding"

Google Anita Moorjani

Nothing.

I was raised as Catholic but not now. When my DM died a few years ago it was the defining moment for me. She was gone and it was just so final and obvious.

Nothing. But let's just be absolutely clear that when a dog dies, they go to the big field in the sky to play with all their doggy friends.

I’d like to add that I was very close to my DM and she was a lifelong Catholic and believed in heaven.Ive never felt any presence and if anyone was going to send me that, it would be her. She did have a dream a few days before she died and was very ill. In the dream she saw her father who had died. I think that’s just your mind processing that you’re dying(she knew she was)

I was raised Catholic in 1970's Ireland. I believe you cease to exist and you are no longer conscious. The End. My parents were both scientists and raised us with unquestioning religion which I don't get but they are very matter of fact about their deaths (very healthy 70's for now) which helps. My children are not brought up with religion and they are terrified about death. Maybe it's an age thing but I am 46 and cool about death. My only fear is leaving my children before they are ready to do without me.

12 years ago I became very ill, I was in a lot of pain over a period of time, blue lighted to hospital and was in and out of consciousness, I recovered perfectly well (thank God ) but my parents prepared to say goodbye in that time and I wished to go, I was in so much pain. My children were small but I didn't care, I was so ill I accepted they would have to manage without me but I had to go - I would have welcomed oblivion at that point. Thankfully I recovered and have had 12 healthy years with my DC since.

I don't understand how elderly people, especially parents, do not consider how they will deal with this eventuality. You have no control over it. Learn to accept and embrace it. I am sure oblivion (or heaven if you want to call it that) will be blissful for all.

I believe that you end and that your component molecules and energy return to the universe and end up being part of lots of other things This is perfect

I believe that nothing happens. The stories people come up with are just coincidences or wishful thinking in my opinion.

There is only one truth available, and that is we don't know and can't know. We won't know til we find out ourselves at the end. So believe what comes most naturally to you, take comfort in it as and when you want to.

But..as others have alluded to - what happens if you meet people you don't want to meet - an ex husband, an bullying boss, Adolf Hitler?

I am certain we wouldn’t meet anyone we didn’t want to meet. It wouldn’t be “heaven” if we did. . I don’t think Hitler would be in the same dimension anyway. I don’t think heaven would be a physical place like earth. In all the NDEs it could be a beautiful meadow filled with flowers of intense colours, or a river, a waterfall, or snow covered mountains......Or it could be the universe itself. Most people speak of initially meeting people who had some significance in their lives. But predominantly they just feel immense love, like nothing they’ve ever felt on earth, and everyone communities with thoughts, just like in dreams.

I found this on Facebook and it's a representation of what happens when you meet a loved one in heaven. I found it very touching and would so love it to be true!