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To wonder how people find time to post on here if they have young DC

104 replies

Kat7611 · 07/02/2020 07:36

Im current pregnant with my first, 16 weeks and have been looking for posts for advice etc etc. I guess many on here have young children, how do you get enough time whilst looking after young DC to post on here.

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CalmdownJanet · 07/02/2020 08:10

Just give them a few biscuits and stick them in front of the TV then polish off the rest of the biscuits while you mn in the kitchen, it's what all good mothers do, they'll definitely mention it at some stage in your pregnancy book Grin

Narcheska · 07/02/2020 08:12

My 18 months old is currently plotting world domination and asked not to be disturbed. My 3 month old is still asleep in her cot and my 7 yr old getting ready for school / flossing.

Obviously when they're not otherwise engaged I tell them that mummy needs Mumsnet time so be good and go sit in the garden quietly ...a little rain never hurt anyone as Mrs Bennett would say Hmm

Tombliwho · 07/02/2020 08:14

Confused come back in 24 weeks.

thespellhasbeenbroken123 · 07/02/2020 08:20

My kids watch quite a lot of tv haha

Oulu · 07/02/2020 08:25

I found breastfeeding was great for a bit of me time; I was forced to sit down for quite a long time, so I could read, watch TV, or do stuff on the computer or phone one-handed.

crazydiamond222 · 07/02/2020 08:28

A lot of my day is spent walking around in a darkened room with white noise on trying to get LO to nap as it is the only way he will nap at present, hence time for mumsnet.

Logfootlightoe · 07/02/2020 08:29

I’m an amazing multi tasked! Plus kids do sleep...

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LunasOrchid · 07/02/2020 08:31

Believe it or not, I don't dedicate every second of my attention to my child shock horror 😱... I'm sure social services would be appalled 😅

cheeseandpineapple · 07/02/2020 08:33

Lol at I find it best to leave the kids to go feral to be honest. They can bring themselves up. What you need is a large G & T, 20 Rothmans and a reliable internet connection.

cheeseandpineapple · 07/02/2020 08:33

And Well I used to chuck them outside in the cold and bark "Don't come back till teatime!" at them

LisaSimpsonsbff · 07/02/2020 08:36

To be fair to the OP, it is a bit weird that so many people claim they can't possibly have a shower or a hot drink because of their DC, but post on here for hours a day...

ColouredPolkaDots · 07/02/2020 08:52

I mean currently DS is in his high chair downstairs watching his favourite tv program and I'm upstairs meant to be getting ready for the day but got very distracted. But he's safe and happy even though I'm not sat staring at him and would probably cry if I got in the way of the tv. We've not even had breakfast yet (shock horror!) as he only woke up an hour ago and had milk so won't be hungry yet.

FairyDogMother11 · 07/02/2020 09:26

I sit here cluster feeding my newborn a lot of the day and night, she sleeps a lot in the day when she isn't doing that too. I've more time to post here now than I ever did pre-baby when I worked Grin

Oysterbabe · 07/02/2020 09:34

Mine are currently sat under the kitchen table eating Bagels and pushing cars around. This doesn't require my input so I'm sat at the table drinking coffee and mumsnetting.

PumpkinP · 07/02/2020 09:38

To be fair to the OP, it is a bit weird that so many people claim they can't possibly have a shower or a hot drink because of their DC, but post on here for hours a day...

I’ve always managed to do all that stuff despite having 4 so I don’t know how people say they can’t find the time to do it, but I imagine those people who say that are maybe bf a new baby or something so that leaves a lot of free time just sitting there so could easily pick up your phone and go on MN.

cavabiensepasser · 07/02/2020 09:46

Errrmmmm... what?

I've never had much free time, and then I became a mother. Suddenly I had far more free time than I knew what to do with.
No, you don't need to be engaging with a child 24/7. If they're playing by themselves, leave them to it. Or you can create more work for yourself if you like. I'd rather not.

84claire84 · 07/02/2020 09:48

🙄🙄🙄

Booooooooring

mantarays · 07/02/2020 09:50

My child is playing while I wander round tidying up. And post on here.

Elbeagle · 07/02/2020 09:51

What do you think you’d be doing with a child every minute of every day OP? I have three, two are currently at school, the baby is having his morning nap. Before DD2 started school and the baby was smaller I had a fair amount of time while DD was playing with her toys and I was feeding the baby/baby was sleeping/baby was kicking around on its play mat happily. What should I have been doing in that time?

LisaSimpsonsbff · 07/02/2020 09:54

I find the tone of this thread really astonishing because it's so far from what you usually see on MN. If OP had posted saying 'DH says I should get more done during the day when at home with a baby' she'd have been inundated with responses that it is impossible to do anything at all when at home with small DC, and that it's much, much harder than going to work!

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 07/02/2020 09:58

When DD1 was a baby she would have 40minute breastfeeds, and her first nap (her 9am one) could only take place on my chest. I did nothing but read, watch DVDs and play on my computer for a large majority of the first 4 months. The second nap had to be taken in her pram while on our daily walk. Third nap could be on me, or if I was lucky in her basket...
You might be thinking now you won't ever get into that cycle... But I did anything to get her to sleep, she fought it constantly.

When I had a baby and a toddler, it was just 5 minute snatches!

Elbeagle · 07/02/2020 09:59

LisaSimpsonsbff I don’t know about anyone else but I find being at home with the children hard mainly because it’s pretty dull, relentless drudgery, for which the odd 5 mins on MN is a bit of escapism. Not because I am constantly rushed off my feet.
I found working ‘easier’ because I thrive on adult conversation and interactions.
But we’re not all the same.

Bogoffrain · 07/02/2020 09:59

Simple, small children playing with toys, sit on sofa, drink tea, eat custard creams and Post on MN ! Philip Schofield has just announced he’s gay.

Elbeagle · 07/02/2020 10:00

Plus it has taken me less than a minute to scroll through the responses and post my own. Not particularly onerous.