To be worried my son might lose his hair?

[PlainWhiteTee]

My son is 15 and has great hair. Thick, blond, gorgeous. His dad's hair however receded in a V pattern in his 20s resulting in him going for the all over with clippers look in his 30s. My son's hair is a different texture, much coarser, but they have similar thick eyebrows which makes me think he'll develop the same receding hair when he's older. I'll be gutted for him if this happens. AIBU to be sad that this might happen to him?

I completely understand this. You don't have to compare it with something infinitely worse to make your point - that's silly.

My son is 21 and has seriously beautiful hair. It's thick and black with glossy waves/curls. His dad has male pattern baldness which he hates. He has no grey hair but a receding crown.

I hope my son hasn't inherited this gene (and 23andMe suggests he hasn't). Yes, you can make the best of balding, but a full head of hair is always going to look better. Might be shallow, might not matter compared to worse things, but it still matters to him.

Male pattern baldness is inherited from the mother’s side, not the father.

I don't think this is much of a worry sorry op.

If you are worried, there are so many things you can do these days. Keep scalp clean, use the stuff that help hair growth, massage the scalp. My auntie is a hair dresser, and she says it's all about scalp. My dad is the living evidence. All his male family member became bold, but he still has so much hair. He was so obsessed and took so much care about it.

It is one of thsoe really pointless things to worry about, isn't it?

I worry about things that are totally outside my control (eg: will my boys go bold young? Will they be too tall? Will they have those really abd eczema scars for life? What if their girlfriend breaks up with them and they become depressed?! And my husband, what if he gets really sick again? What about my parents, what if my mum gets dementia, how would me dad cope etc etc)

So many things to worry about. But it's so utterly pointless.

try not to fret I allow myself random worries for about 5 minutes before I go to bed, then I resolutely start counting my blessings and think about the things I am looking forward to

You can sort of train yourself to do this, ime

My son is 27 and his hair has been getting very thin on top for a few years. I did feel sad for him when he was early twenties, but now he just says oh I'm up for a promotion soon I'll celebrate by getting a hair transplant! Your son is probably less bothered about it than you think.

I used to wish my children were adults so I didn't have to worry about them but I think I've got worse

@shinycat misery top trumps that's great!! Like when people moan about their mother and there's always one that says 'count yourself lucky, at least she's not dead like mine' 😂

I agree with BennytheBall. It' only natural for parents to worry about their kids.It's not pointless. It affect self esteem. Meaning it may affect the child's life greatly.

It's not* pointless.

I suggest regular head massage using olive oil - perhaps one or twice a week. A massage encourages flow of blood in the scalp which is good for the hair and olive oil provides nutrients. We do that with out 16 year old.

My son is young and going thin on top too and is planning on having a hair transplant. He had laser eye surgery a few years ago so no different to that. However, if one of my daughters decided on duck lips to 'improve' themselves I'd be having words!!!

I have two boys one has the hair line/ type from my side and the other from my husbands I'm sure one is going to be bald by his mid- late twenties and the other will have a full head to hair all his life but that's just life who cares! I'll tell him to make the most of it whilst he has it!

I know where you're coming from OP. My DS has gorgeous thick hair, his dad, my DH, started losing his in his 20's,all shaved off now. For what it's worth, I've heard you should look at the maternal line for hair loss. This doesn't help me unfortunately as my dad, uncles and DB are all bald! It does make me a teeny bit sad when I look at his beautiful hair, but can't do anything about it, I fell in love with a bald guy, I'm sure my DS will cope! (although I do run my fingers through it whilst he's still young enough not to complain )

As pp have said, it’s on the mum’s side. Does your dad have all of his hair?

Oh please, there are so many worse things to worry about.

@pidgythe2nd
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Thank for the insight.

Who knew something so innocuous as my random thoughts could be taken so many ways? 😂

For those of you who are outraged that i have the cheek to post this when my son is perfectly healthy, well I think that's a bit weird. I didn't know there was a rule that said I couldn't.

@dontforgetyourbrolly
Ooh yes, The Rock 😍
My pasty little Scottish kid doesn't quite match up yet, but I like it.

DC3dilemna
Have you RTFT? Don't rant at me. It's not a competition.

@brokenwing
No I don't. It was a light-hearted AIBU about something I was thinking about, not dwelling on. I only asked if I was AIBU to be sad at the thought of it happening. I have no anxiety about this or anything else.

@bennytheball
Thank you! That's exactly what I meant.

@huntinghighandlow
Yep.

@PlainWhiteTea

I'm curious, what was the actual point in this thread/ innocuous thought rambling as you put it?

If you didn't expect people to respond then you shouldn't have posted. And my gosh what an abhorrent response to @DC3dilemma, she is as entitled to respond as she did as you are to post your, so called, 'innocuous rambling'

Tip - if you mean something to be lighthearted it is best to put it in the title and not use language such as gutted.

@taratill thank you. I’m not sure what I said really counts as a rant but then @PlainWhiteTee is quite happy with her hyperbole over a bit of male pattern baldness. But rather than getting worked up about her response I am just going to assume serious ignorance on her part and leave this here, for perspective:

www.facialpalsy.org.uk/

@PlainWhiteTee
Listen to this podcast. peterattiamd.com/alanbauman/

There are things he can do to prevent hairless. Preventing is more effective than restoring.

If you could cure or prevent baldness in men, just by spending money, Trump wouldn't need to carry a ginger cat around on his head.

I think my son's hair is starting to go... he is 22.
We have other much more serious problems in the family but it still makes me feel a bit sad.

I'm not sure if it's because I worry that it will bother him or that it is just me thinking about time going by so quickly... I remember his first hair cut and his lovely baby curls.

@PigletJohn maybe because he isn't 20 years old. Try the podcast, then comment.

@SummerintoAutumn listen to the interview I posted.
peterattiamd.com/alanbauman/ It is an hour wasted if you believe it is useless, or it might be anything but wasted and you might come back and say thank you.
One or the other, listen to it, while doing the washing up or sorting the laundry. Dr. Bauman just says what works and what doesn't when it comes to hair preservation, who to see and who to avoid. Nobody is selling anything .

I do think you're a bit daft to worry about something that may or may not happen and you have no control over.

If it helps, my dh's dad is a bald as a coot. His brother has a bit of an egg in the nest and my DH has a luxurious thick head of hair, so it's not necessarily always inherited.

Most men lose at least some of their hair as they get older. It’s a perfectly normal part of ageing.