To be worried my son might lose his hair?

[PlainWhiteTee]

My son is 15 and has great hair. Thick, blond, gorgeous. His dad's hair however receded in a V pattern in his 20s resulting in him going for the all over with clippers look in his 30s. My son's hair is a different texture, much coarser, but they have similar thick eyebrows which makes me think he'll develop the same receding hair when he's older. I'll be gutted for him if this happens. AIBU to be sad that this might happen to him?

It follows the paternal grandfather

My DS barber told him it's the mother's side .

Males on my side have good thick wavy hair .........DH side , erm, not !

@PlainWhiteTee Of course YANBU to be a bit worried. As his dad went bald early, there is a chance he will do too sorry.

And of course the 'I wish that was all I had to worry about' brigade just HAD to come on and tell you how much worse their life/their problems are than yours!

Proper boils my piss honestly. Just because someone is worried about something that others deem as trivial, that doesn't mean their life is a problem-free bowl of shiny cherries!

OP, if your son IS bothered by his baldness (if it happens to him young,) then there are loads of (cosmetic) things he can do.

@bananacloud

my post wasn't rude, it was honest, I do think the OP is lucky if this is her main worry for her teenager.

The OP posted in AIBU, and I gave my opinion. In what way do you consider my opinion, based upon my experience, to be rude?

Both sets of parental genes can play a part in hair loss.

@shinycat

Why does it 'boil your piss?"

The OP has posted on AIBU, she was courting opinion on whether this was something to be gutted about.

Where did she say it was her main worry?

One of our friends has an amazing hair transplant- in switzerland I believe

Like botox or veneers- if it bothers him he can probably fix it

I often think this when looking at my 14 year old d’s lovely thick hair. Sadly I have very fine hair and dh lost his (due to male pattern baldness) in his 20’s so ds will probably go bald too but he says he isn’t bothered when we’ve joked about him looking like his dad in 10 years time! Male pattern baldness runs in dh family. His nephew had a hair transplant last year and now has lovely hair coverage again so that’s always an option if it bothers him too much.

I think this is a reasonable thing to be sad about! Of course we should be grateful for what we have but that doesn’t also mean we can’t find things sad or regretful in our own circumstances. We can’t always live by comparison with others!

My middle brother had very beautiful hair as a boy, and his hair is thinning now, which is surprising as no one in our family is bald. His wife also cuts it for him (!!) (poorly in my opinion).

Neither brother nor the wife seem bothered, so I wouldn’t suggest caffeine shampoo to them, but I have heard it really helps as a pre-emptive measure.
Some men look great bald, others are blessed with glorious locks. My husband being one of them, and we’ve always agreed that if his hair or my hair started thinning we’d be straight on the caffeine shampoo! Maybe sneak a bottle in the shower to see if it gets used/sparks a conversation/makes you feel like you did something to mitigate this possibility.

Just don't let him do a Trump.

@NotALurker2

It doesn't say it is her main worry but I am guessing it is fairly significant if it requires an AIBU post.

@taratill It boils my piss, because I get sick of people playing 'misery top trumps' and assuming if someone complains about something that THEY deem as trivial, that they must have such a cheery, carefree, wonderful, easy-peasy life with NO problems in it - ever.

So rude and presumptuous and narrow-minded!

HTH.

I think it is super weird to be 'gutted'

The worse thing about it potentially happening is if you project your feelings of disappointment on to him.

Not much point in worrying about something you can’t do anything about OP.

Men's baldness pattern tends to follow that of their maternal grandfather.

What was your dad's hair like?

26 year old DS1 is definately loosing his hair- like his dad. (Both GF had good hair until they died- both in their mid 80s.) Important thing is to make sure he uses sunscreen on the scalp and or wear a cap etc. DH has had treatment for lesions on the scalp.
DS2 appears to take after me and my dad's side of the family- thick,dark and curly now, but will be really greying by 30 . My DF's hair was completely white at 35. Can't win! But its not the worse thing in the world.

I think you are lucky if that is all you have to worry about.
I'm worried that my 13 year old son (with SEN) will never be independent.
I am not trying to be flippant but many many men have this and short styles look very nice. It's not something to be gutted about imo

I have complete sympathy for anyone in your situation, but come on. I know there are people worse off, but I posted a light-hearted AIBU about something that I think would be a bit sad if it happened, that's all.

I wouldn't have responded were it not for the use of the word 'gutted'.

Bigpinkflower - is the hair transplant permanent? I think that my ds is receding. He says he's not too bothered, but I think he'd be happier if he didn't lose his hair. I certainly wouldn't like to lose mine.

This is really a non-problem for a man though. Most men thin or lose their hair. It's not socially problematic unless you are a film or TV star and depend on not looking like that (and it hasn't harmed Jason Statham's career, he would look silly with hair!)

I thought this was about some type of major hair loss issue, my daughter has alopecia, also had hair loss due to chemo in the family. That's a hair problem.

He might decide to shave it all off even if he isn't going bald. You never know what fashion he may decide to follow in future. DS would like to grow his hair but he takes after DH and it just grows outwards like a mad mushroom instead of down .

a bit sad and gutted are very very different.
Anyway, i hope it doesn't happen. And as I said many men look very nice with short haircuts.

I actually prefer men with bald/shaved heads to middle-aged men with lank locks (and not many have lovely hair by that point). I certainly don't evaluate men's attractiveness by hair. Wayne Rooney is not better looking as a result of his hair transplant IMO.

Main thing is being healthy

Why gutted? It presumably didn't put you off his Dad?