Sons girlfriend

[southlondonlass]

AIBU my son has been with his lovely girlfriend for just over five years. She is just like another daughter to me. He has told me he is thinking about splitting up with her due to them getting together too young and he feels like he has not 'lived life to the full'. Myself and his girlfriends mum will be really upset as we are friends. AIBU asking him to think about it fully and not make any decisions he may come to regret. Please be gentle me as I care very much for them both x

My son broke up with his gf last year after 7 years together. We loved her, she was part of our family and we do miss her.
I am GLAD my ds was brave enough to do what he felt he needed to. They grew up together, they had a life. Neither knew what it was like to 'adult' without the other. The easiest thing would have been to continue with what was safe and comfortable but he knew deep down it wasn't right for him.

I would have never ever dreamt of interfering. He talked to me about how he was feeling and what he was thinking (so I knew he was going to do it) and I listened without judgement or interference. I cannot fathom sticking my beak in the way you want to OP. Totally the wrong thing to do.

I don't know how old your son is OP but I think way too many teen relationships outlive their lifespan but those involved stay together because they don't know any different/have children etc.

AIBU asking him to think about it fully and not make any decisions he may come to regret.

Why is this apparently such an unreasonable thing for her to say?! I would have thought any caring parent would suggest something similar.

Because it's manipulative. The underlying message is "It's the wrong thing to do and you'll regret it." not "Think carefully."

What if.... he came and told you his feelings as he has here in 10 yrs time, married to her with kids OP? Would he have an affair because he feels he's "missing out" or leave her high and dry?

Sad yes, but leave him to make his own decisions when it comes to personal relationships. It's his gf not yours.

Seriously OP?...

Its your son's relationship - would you have wanted your parents pressuring you into staying with your boyfriend? How would you have felt at that age?

Also, just because your son breaks up with someone, doesn't mean you can't keep you relationship with their family.

Yabu....