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Would this give you the rage?

37 replies

Indecisiveragazza · 04/02/2020 18:57

Tonight I cooked a lovely pasta dish with prawns, cherry tomatoes, philly cheese and a several other ingredients. My husband said............ very tasty, which packet is this from?
Now I do all the cooking , most often from scratch unless short of time. I quite enjoy cooking and he does other chores.
Now the but.............he’s always making “jokes” like that. Often saying to people things like..........Ragazza keeps stuff in the oven because it’s never on or Ragazza has to be coaxed into the kitchen. He thinks he’s funny. He’s NOT!
Tonight I told him how rude he is and he’s acting all hurt! Would you find this enraging? Best way to deal with it?

OP posts:
WhenISnappedAndFarted · 04/02/2020 18:59

It wouldn't bother me. I think you're more annoyed because he does nothing in the kitchen.

oktoberfestisuponus · 04/02/2020 19:00

Wouldn't bother me at all. Laugh it off. If it gets to you that much tell him so.

goldenorbspider · 04/02/2020 19:01

Well meaning teasing or something else underlying?

FurryCat1978 · 04/02/2020 19:02

You’ve let him know and he’s feeling bad? Maybe a bit of guilt that he knows you do it all anyway? That’s how I’d see it anyway...

pinkyredrose · 04/02/2020 19:02

Ask why it's meant to be funny.

madcatladyforever · 04/02/2020 19:02

Puerile quips do give me the rage. If that was me his dinner would be thrown out of the window.

CallmeAngelina · 04/02/2020 19:06

How to deal with it?
Simple. Pass over all the cooking (from scratch) to him.

Sexnotgender · 04/02/2020 19:06

Ragazza keeps stuff in the oven because it’s never on or Ragazza has to be coaxed into the kitchen. He thinks he’s funny. He’s NOT!

You’ve told him it’s not funny and you don’t like it. He continues to try and make fun of you in front of people. He’s being a dick and I’d stop cooking for him until he stops.

Original poster
Indecisiveragazza · 04/02/2020 19:07

Thanks, all. I’m certain it’s his idea of being funny and not malicious but it still bugs me. I think he got the message tonight!

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Fullbookcase · 04/02/2020 19:09

Yes, this would piss me off. He’s teasing, but it’s annoying, you’ve told him you find it annoying, and he’s still doing it. I think it’s ok to have a bit of a huff, or tell him to cook his own bloody dinner. Probably wouldn’t plant my flag on this hill if I were you, but a short strop is fine!

Grumpyunleashed · 04/02/2020 19:09

If he wants something shop bought stuff perhaps you should give him beans on toast for a week.
There’s beans with sausages, beans with burgers, beans with big sausages and even a breakfast meal with beans in the usual sized tin so lots of interesting flavours.

I would suggest you eat as usual. Perhaps he’ll learn the difference then.

Franticbutterfly · 04/02/2020 19:10

No one likes to feel under appreciated. Tell him to cook his own bloody dinner!

MaybeNew · 04/02/2020 19:10

It’s never funny to put someone else down. He’s not hurt, he just doesn’t like having his bad behaviour pointed out. Ironic really.

DingDongDenny · 04/02/2020 19:11

It would annoy me because it's ungrateful. I mostly cook from scratch as well and my DH is always appreciative and thanks me for a lovely meal.

If he just made jokes about it being out of a packet, it would be out of a packet from then on

Lordfrontpaw · 04/02/2020 19:12

Haha haha haha

Next time: Tin of dog food, ready made pastry top... enjoy

BecauseReasons · 04/02/2020 19:13

YANBU. The correct response is, 'Thank you, that was delicious,' or something along those lines. It's good manners.

tenlittlecygnets · 04/02/2020 19:15

How does he react when you tease him? Can he take it as well as dish it out?

You told him it upset you and asked him to stop. If he doesn't, he's being a dick.

Ironfloor269 · 04/02/2020 19:15

I know this is not the point of the thread, OP, but please could you share the recipe? It sounds delicious and like something DD and I would love to eat.

SpamChaudFroid · 04/02/2020 19:18

He's being a passive-aggressive wanker. They always insult under the guise of "Ooh, I was ONLY JOKING!"

AngstyAnnie · 04/02/2020 19:19

Is he normally a sexist twat? Sounds like a quip that would be made by my BIL - he never lifts a finger in the kitchen either. Stop cooking everything, start splitting the cooking 50/50 and see how that goes for him...

Alsohuman · 04/02/2020 19:23

I’d go on strike.

SomeLikeItTepid · 04/02/2020 19:24

I agree with DingDong here. Start serving him some awful pre-packaged food (whilst enjoying your own freshly made, from scratch dinner) until he apologises for being an ungrateful, and not very funny, tool.

Singlenotsingle · 04/02/2020 19:27

Find a reason to take the piss out of him, and see how he likes it. Anyway, why is it your job? Does he cook? If not, why not?

mumwon · 04/02/2020 19:28

Next time pick up plate smile & empty plate on head & THAN say "I was only joking, don't you have a sense of humour?" (preferably in summer & outside so you don't have to clean up) (not really just contemplate him or perhaps draw a cartoon to show this & give it too him - with a warning!!!)

OhioOhioOhio · 04/02/2020 19:29

Basted. My stbxh did this. Small steps to putting you down.