There must be a solution to this or nobody would ever have a dog!

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Can any dog owners help me? My 7 month old puppy has started waking up at around 4am (2am yesterday, went back to sleep at 4am). He whines and barks. I have to go to him as we have neighbours and i can’t just let him bark it out. When i go down he just wants to play. I am literally weeping from sleep deprivation. Currently i don’t feel much love for him and that makes me feel terrible. What the hell do i do?! Can anyone just tell me this will get better?

I can't imagine expecting to go upstairs to sleep and leaving a solitary dog downstairs on its own

Why? We do. He’s perfectly happy down there. He’s not ‘banished’, it’s just where he sleeps. I also generally expect my children to sleep in their own rooms too.
I sleep badly enough as it is without a dog moving around the bed at night. I adore him, but my sleep is important too.

I've had one dog and loads of cats and they have all slept in my room from a very young age.
Puppies and kittens are just little babies and have been taken from their mums.
Dogs especially need the comfort of you nearby. Imagine a little baby left on it's own downstairs alone and scared, animals are no different. They need warmth and comfort during the long night.
It's part of their training to settle them at night but you are not going to get a good nights sleep while they are very young just like babies.
Puppies not so bad as they generally can't get onto your bed alone but kittens are all over your face all night going crazy
This is why I only adopt adult pets these days, I can't cope with the sleepless nights.

I would talk to your neighbours. If they're planning a holiday you have a window of opportunity.

We’ve two dogs. A 3 year old little dog and a 13 month old big dog (husky/gsd). Both were bad sleepers. The little dog was crate trained after about a week of letting her cry. After about 6 months the kids used to wake her up but as they couldn’t let her out it used to wake me up hearing her wanting to get up when they went I front room. We started letting her sleep in our room and then she would sleep til we got up, along cane the puppy and he was a nightmare for nighttime. He now sleeps in the floor but both jump in bed at times. This is our first muddy wet winter and I wish I’d never let him upstairs. Whilst the first one is a princess and never walks in mud, he rolls in it! I have to change sheets at least three times a week as kids forget to shut stair gate! Wish I’d trained him to stay downstairs! It will get better though. I’m typing this in bed and have woken then and now have two dogs On bed trying to kiss me!

Put him in bed with you! That worked for us...

He takes up a ly of room haha

We co-sleep with our 5 month old Beagle, we always have since he arrived at 12 weeks. He snuggles down under the quilt behind my knees. When he gets too warm he then lies over my legs on top! DP gets up at 3am for work so he goes for a wee and a poo then. He then comes back to bed and under the quilt and back to sleep. Co-sleeping works best for us. Good luck

Why are people going on about letting the dog sleep on the OP bed? She has already made it clear she doesn't want to do that. There are many owners who don't allow dogs in there bed doesn't make them bad owners. I have zero interest in sleeping with my dog. He went through a phase like OP, we had to play white noise and cover his crate and ignore. It lasted two nights and he settled again. He has his own space downstairs (no crate now) and is fine. He occasionally barks at night when he hears creatures outside but that is it

My dog is like my third child! Plus if you are single with DC’s it’s quite comforting to have the security of a dog in your bedroom

My dog isn't 5th child and they don't sleep with me either 😂

Sorry that should say my dog is my 5th DC! Joys of walking and typing

I don't think sleeping in the lounge is very cosy for him, my dogs have all had a crate with blanket over the top...I also play wave music 😁. When they were younger and woke in the night (but didn't need the loo) I went down and just shushed them until they stopped crying, then went back to bed. Once they knew I wasn't going to get them out and play, they were fine.

I wonder if foxes have woken him up... might just be a short phase.

My 7 month old pup has slept downstairs on his own since he started sleeping through - partly so we can escape his toxic farts, partly so DCat can have free run of the house at night (DPup is crated with a blanket over it).
In general dogs crave routine more than company 24/7.
If it continues, I would do as someone upthread suggested - pre-empt him waking by setting an alarm, getting up and putting him out for a silent wee then back to bed. But the crate has been invaluable for us, and DPup feels very happy there.

Dogs are pack animals so they need to be with you. It's awful that they're left alone so no wonder they bark and whine. Just place a dog basket by the side of your bed with an old tshirt with your smell on it and he'll be fine after a short while...

D9nt forget, they start rebelling when they hit puberty around 6-8months so could be the start of this.
We are going through this at the moment so having other issues .... the "fuck you, you have no treat in your hand/are less interesting/ I can't be arsed... etc " look instead of obeying a command or coming in after playing outside or pooping outside etc and peeing on the carpet...I even changed the carpet and underlay and she still does it...
My dogs crate is in my room which does reduce night time barking, she is pretty good in the crate and has been known to take her self to bed....
Good luck

jojo2 is there room for you in the bed or do you sleep on the floor? And dogs can be smelly too. Haven't you noticed?

I love my dog and had my previous dog sleep on my bed when I was single, but when I lost him I realised my next dog would be about when I started a family so he slept downstairs from day 1. It’s not practical to have kids, dogs all in the bed. That said my baby never gets in the bed either. It’s not essential?

@Mmpip that is just rubbish, dogs do not have to sleep on the same room as humans because they are a pack animal. They will be perfectly happy with their own cosy place to sleep as long as you get them into a good routine from the start.

@Singlenotsingle
We have a gigantic bed....just think, if my doggie( the two labs died a few years ago) weren't there with us on our bed, all that extra space would be a big waste
So in the spirit of being environmentally friendly and using what we already have instead of purchasing new, which would trigger unnecessary waste in the landfill, we have decided to make the sacrifice of having to smell our pug's stinky breath....also, it saves on the purchase of a dog bed, another luxury extra. Oh, and we have 3 lovely children...puggy just gets sent out of the room when the magic happens.
No problems here...carry on