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What’s your budget for your summer holiday

37 replies

NxnAllInclusive · 03/02/2020 18:57

I’m going on a group holiday with various family members and partners this summer.

I wrongly said I’d go with the flow therefore half the people have already booked and they’re relying on me to cover my share (had to work late and missed the meet up).

If you all agreed on a budget what would you think that budget was for?

Yes: flights and all-inclusive.

No: everything (except a little bit of spending money for nick nacks etc).

Basically the top end of the budget is going to cover flights + accommodation (all inclusive) but that’s the whole budget there - not even covering getting to the airport let alone leaving the hotel for the various things we could get up to.

I have to go or someone else will have to foot a whole room.

OP posts:
Tombliwho · 03/02/2020 19:00

Your error was obviously saying you could go with the flow.. if I'd said that I would be expecting anything really!

DillyDilly · 03/02/2020 19:01

Everyone’s budget is different, people can afford/prioritise different amounts.

In hindsight, you should have declared your budget before planning meeting went ahead/the others should have checked with you before booking. Unless you told you’d go along with whatever they decided.

DillyDilly · 03/02/2020 19:03

Te-reading your post, if you gave them your budget, I would think i that wild be the budget for flights/accommodation.

Ellisandra · 03/02/2020 19:03

Probably something in between! Because each person would have different ideas on what to spend once there, I wouldn’t expect it to cover everything. Before I book a holiday I don’t think about this meal out, that snorkelling trip, that zoo... so pretty much flight & accomm, especially if accomm was AI. I’d think that my confirmed budget was basically the fixed costs, not the variable costs. I would expect transfers to be included. Different if it was say a Disney trio - then I’d also expect park tickets. But then, that’s a fixed cost too.

Ellisandra · 03/02/2020 19:05

If I understand it correctly, OP did give her budget. But in her mind it was the budget for EVERYTHING except a bit of personal spends. So meals out (some people eat out if away from the hotel even if AI), and trips like maybe water parks? But her entire trip budget has gone on just flight and accomm.

onemouseplace · 03/02/2020 19:07

I'd think flights/ accommodation, especially as it's AI so you don't even have to mentally factor in the cost of extra meals. Probably transfers at the other end, not the cost of getting to the airport this end.

What you actually spend while there will vary massively - some people will do expensive excursions, others will lie by the pool taking advantage of the AI and not spend an extra penny.

Mamato2gorgeousboys · 03/02/2020 19:10

I would have understood the agreed budget to mean flights and all inclusive only with maybe transfers the other end as they tend to come as a package. Anything else would be considered as an extra.

RainbowCookie · 03/02/2020 19:11

I would say flights/accommodation only and that would not include all inclusive (or any food/ drinks) unless that’s the norm for your type of group holiday. I’ve never been all inclusive so it wouldn’t cross my mind.

Ellisandra · 03/02/2020 19:14

Actually I read that wrong, @onemouseplace made me realise. So it possibly does include transfers? You were actually talking about getting to the airport in the UK? I absolutely wouldn’t expect that to be in the budget, unless I lived in Truro and we already knew flights would be from London - so it would be a significant cost and possibly even an extra hotel night.

Racoonworld · 03/02/2020 19:16

Yeh just flights and accommodation. Food, getting to airport and spending money always been additional to holiday budget. I’d have been happy all inclusive was included in the cost!

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 03/02/2020 19:17

I wouldn't go all inclusive so if planning a trip would expect group budget to cover flights and hotel, then it's up to you if you stay by the pool or venture off, we never stay by the pool so take a good amount of spending money

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NxnAllInclusive · 03/02/2020 19:18

Baby brain has got to me.

I guess with my other friendship group we’ve always done research into average activities/eating out/getting drinks then deducted that from our budget. If we’re going somewhere super cheap we can just deduct maybe a couple of hundred for the week verses somewhere more expensive then dropping accommodation down to cover that.

I’ve never done an all inclusive so can’t imagine sitting by the pool all day but I guess I’m now taking some books along with me. They’ve planned that we’re going out for a couple of meals, a night out and one activity but that wasn’t even accounted for. Bugger, I’ve really messed up here.

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CherryPavlova · 03/02/2020 19:19

I think it varies considerably. If I’m budgeting a holiday I include absolutely everything including insurance, parking, transfers, fixed activities that are booked, visa, food and drinks. I wouldn’t call it a budget otherwise.
My husband just gives the price and doesn’t include other things. So when booking a long weekend with friends he’ll say he’s found a good deal for £650 per person but doesn’t mention the other few hundred needed to cover all the costs with the assumption everyone can afford it.

Lionsleepstonight · 03/02/2020 19:24

Flight and accommodation, but including transfers to the hotel. But not to the airport.

Lyricallie · 03/02/2020 19:27

Yea I'd say flights, accomodation and transfers. If there was a really big excursion we wanted to do we'd maybe price it up before but for the most part it wouldn't include nights out, day trips etc.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 03/02/2020 19:37

Flights and hotel. I’d expect to have to take money for spending, trips and food. If AI I would be very happy as would eat out far less.

Elizadoeslittle19 · 03/02/2020 19:44

Well you dont have to eat out if you're all inclusive. You don't have to go on any of the excursions either. Not sure what you can do about covering the cost to the airport. If you cant afford it you shouldn't go. I'm not sure what you mean about others having to pay more if you dont go surely it would only be your family in your room . Tell your family that unfortunately it is exceeding your holiday budget and you could apologise for not making you budget clearer at the outset, although you don't have to do that bit if you dont want to. Smile

Lippy1234 · 03/02/2020 19:49

You could eat out just one evening, if at all. You don’t need to be tied to the resort all day either, you can go out and about as much on any holiday and maybe pop back for your included lunch. Same as the excursion planned, if it’s too expensive just say so and do something cheaper or free instead.

Itwasntme1 · 03/02/2020 19:50

I would imagine if someone said they are happy to spend £1,000per person hat would be flights and accommodation.

Aragog · 03/02/2020 19:55

I would imagine if someone said they are happy to spend £1,000per person hat would be flights and accommodation.

That is what I would assume if someone told me their holiday budget, at the point of looking to book somewhere. The amount would be for flights and accommodation, and anything else would be on top.

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NxnAllInclusive · 03/02/2020 19:57

I’ve really messed up here.

Usually when I plan with friends if it’s a going out holiday we’ll factor in how much that’s going to cost. Going out in Italy costs a lot more than Croatia same with renting surf boards/scooters/excursions etc. The whole point of going in this holiday is to celebrate a birthday and the entry to the club/vip area hasn’t even been considered.

Guess because I’ve never done an all inclusive it’s presumed that’s what’s done. I’m going to have to take a lot of books with me and avoid stories of how awesome outside the resort is.

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Itwasntme1 · 03/02/2020 20:06

To be honest I have never calculated holiday budget to that extent with friends or family, in my experience it’s really unusual.

Everyone knows you will need spending money, less of it’s all inclusive, but if someone said they wanted to spend £1,000 it would never cross my mind that they mean that should include their spending money.

WelcomeToShootingStars · 03/02/2020 20:11

I'd assume budget meant cost of travel and accommodation as anything else is variable according to individual tastes.

But then I don't go on holiday with people and spend the whole time with them.

Noconceptofnormal · 03/02/2020 20:14

With all due respect OP I think you've been a bit naive, but with baby brain it sounds like you have your reasons!

If someone agreed a budget I'd absolutely assume that was for flights / accommodation for an all Inc holiday,as how does anyone else know how much it costs to get to the airport and how much you want to spend on booze or excusions.

Either cut your costs between now and the holiday to save up a bit more spending money or accept that you'll have to miss out on a few things whilst there, it will be ok.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 03/02/2020 20:16

I’ll bite: if it was something like Greece in peak season and AI in a decent and classy resort, for that and flights I would expect to pay 1.5k for me.