To lock the front door.

[Beelzebop]

Husband did not come home last night. No replies to texts I've sent. Aibu to lock the door and leave the key in it? My anxiety is through the roof.

That's what I've done tonight

What do you mean rooboo1?

@beelzebop
How are you this morning? I hope you managed to get some sleep and you’re feeling calmer today

Sorry you’re going through this. Sounds awful. Definitely not a marriage you need or deserve. Look to the future now.

You could manage on your own OP 100%. I've been on my own with DC for years, its doable.

I'm feelings calmer thanks so much all. The house was bought by his father and his name and my DH name are on the deeds. Not brilliant I know. What amazes me is that I'm sure he would put up with this situation for ever! I have no evidence required another woman apart from the absences but I will be watching.

What amazes me is that I'm sure he would put up with this situation for ever!

So many men do though. They'll just stay in "misery" because it's convenient to have someone at home cooking cleaning washing his clothes etc. Also divorce/separation is too much effort for them...and also they're just fucking cowards sometimes.

I am going to record everything that happens for my own sanity. If I see it maybe it will help.

You can register an interest in the house even if your name is not on the deeds. Yes, it will be a marital asset - or at least your DH's half of it will. Makes no difference if his dad bought it, your DH co-owns it - you might find he has to remortgage/borrow money to 'buy you out' of a claim on the house when you divorce, for example.