AIBU that criticising someone's spelling and grammr on AIBU is rubbish behaviour ?

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Ive noticed this on Facebook and here. Now I can understand that when people use offensive language people need to pull them up on it. But sometimes people might miss a letter or comma or something and there is always one or several people who make a comment nothing to do with the thread about the OPs spelling or grammar! I mean you logged on to make a comment nothing to do with the thread. We have all made typos and posted things which are not grammatically accurate but some people are just out to get others as they think they have superiority. I especially like it when people are losing an arguement then really get in their with "yeh well at least I can spell properly " or something to that affect. It must be lovely to be so perfect and for my money those peole can stick their grammar where the sun don't shine. As long as a post is legible and understandable its fine., no need to be such a twonk.

I think it's really pathetic that someone would do such a thing. It also says a lot about them. Bullies who have nothing better to do than make someone feel bad about themselves for their own gratification.

These days I just pull up people who use instead of vowels when swearing.*

Why, though?

I write for a living. I spend part of my work day editing long documents written by people whose first language is not English. I cannot be bothered to edit or give a flying fuck about the spelling and grammar (my own or others) on a fucking MN post.

I generally type very fast, so often make typo's, and in my work, that thing I get paid money for, I will take the time to correct it. On MN. No.

Honestly, whenever I see someone correcting someone else's spelling and grammar on a forum, I can't help but think "Those who can do, those who can't spend time picking out other people's mistakes...."

The massive disconnect on MN is that it's absolutely fine to pick other people apart for all kinds of things, often merely the crime of having a different opinion on something - look at the sheer vitriol attracted if someone dares to put forward the view that transphobia isn't great; but apparently it's an awful crime to express a preference for clear writing.

For me, I'd like to know if I was consistently making the same mistake (like would of, loose instead of lose etc), in the same way I'd like someone to tell me I had something stuck in my teeth. Yes, it's just an internet forum but I'd hate to think I'd made the same error in a professional context.

Yanbu. My dm is dyslexic. Back in her school day’s, you were dumped at the back of the class and seen as stupid. She would really struggle to write a post on here.

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I really dislike the way some people who blatantly aren't dyslexic claim that they are on here. They don't seem to realise that it's relatively easy to tell.

I often wonder if those who do this are also the irritating people who will stop someone mid sentence to correct them for using the wrong word.
Yes, we all make typos, I know I do, but most are these are autocorrect that I haven’t noticed or because I’m tired, typing when I shouldn’t or either upset or angry (and then when I spot one I wait for someone to think they’ve done me a favour by pointing it out........)

Yabu. It can be nearly impossible to follow a post due to the bad SPaG & lack of paragraphs.

Really? How often does this actually happen? Maybe your own comprehension skills need honing.

SPaG is important.
In some contexts, yes.

There is no defence for criticising people's spelling or grammar uninvited on a chat forum (unless it is on a thread about spelling and grammar). Be irritated about it all you like. Or don't read the thread if your grammatical sensibilities or poor reading ability render you incapable of coping with the errors. Pointing out the mistakes is pointless, petty and makes you a rude twat.

I teach and correct grammar and spelling as part of my job, and yet I can somehow manage to resist being an arse on internet forums, and recognise that linguistic accuracy is not always of paramount importance.

Oulu that's a ridiculous comparison. People post on here in order to discuss/debate those topics. They don't post in order to have their written style critiqued. Anyway, how does your 'preference for clear writing' trump anyone else's preference to be able to write however they are able? I've almost never seen an MN post that was incomprehensible owing to grammar or spelling.

It’s a difficult one. Everyone makes mistakes and my grammar may not be the best at times but I love the English language, paragraphs and comprehensible posts. When someone writes a massive block of text with poor spelling and punctuation I simply cannot read it. It’s not superiority on my part, it’s a visceral reaction.
I’m shit at maths and I wouldn’t expect someone to tolerate my mathematical calculations if they were shit either.

Typos,autocorrect, ignorance, dyslexia and really don't care about it are not a barrier to understanding what people mean on here.
It's different at work, on cvs and covering letters.
I generally think people are being a bit of a cock if they point out errors.

Yes it's incredibly rude

Its not very inclusive. English isnt everyones first language. Lots of people have a SEN, many others had poor education. And plenty of us are doing the best we can whilst going through something significant such as sleep deprived with a newborn or looking after a relative who seriously ill.

Everybody, unless they are super human, makes the odd spelling and grammar mistake BUT sometimes when posters have no punctuation and when their grammar is so bad their post makes no sense. The use of local colloquial dialect often has me baffled too.

can stick their grammar where the sun don't shine.

YABU for that.
As this thread shows, it's not that certain people can't do SPaG. It's that they can't be bothered.

"Watch your actions they become habits
Watch your habits they become character
Watch your character it becomes your destiny"

YANBU OP, it just makes me thing tosser who can’t defend their argument. I did it once, but that was to a poster who was being massively homophobic and banging on about the purity of language as an excuse,, despite their lack of ability to spell or arrange it correctly. I generally don’t pull people up on spag though, because mine isn’t all that.

YANBU. I'm a writer. I get paid to get that stuff right, but I make mistakes sometimes. I'm human, plus I have fat fingers.

It doesn't bother me at all if someone else makes a mistake.

I think it's fine to seek clarification if something doesn't make sense or potentially has a different meaning. However, when someone is asking for advice and another person offers none but corrects a typo that says a lot more to me about that person than it does about the OP.

Not everyone has benefited from the same level of education. There are a lot of MNetters who seem to be unaware of their privilege in that regard.

I don't comment on other poster's mistakes but it makes me cringe when I see them. The ones that wind me up the most are the incorrect use of their/there/they're, your/you're and could of/should of instead of could/should have.

Watch your actions they become habits
Watch your habits they become character
Watch your character it becomes your destiny

This is about spelling and grammar. Not snorting heroin. Let's keep things in perspective. I've heard Ted Bundy was a brilliant writer...

On a thread the other day the OP said her husband didn’t condemn something. She said it a few times and what she meant was the complete opposite, that he didn’t condone it. I didn’t say anything and neither did anyone else (they may have done since) but I do think that if someone is getting a word so completely wrong, is it not a good idea to let them know? I was in the gym last week and a woman came up and told me I was lifting weights wrongly. She was an instructor but not at that gym and she wanted to tell me so I could get more out of the weight lifting. If that is OK why is it not OK to tell someone they are using a word wrongly?

No, Hulks, it's about being bothered. I note that you didn't bother to preview your message before you pressed the post button or else you would have noticed that your bolding failed.

You actually preview your messages. That's cute. Fucking pedantic and makes me wonder if you have a life, but cute.

It depends. Odd little mistakes no, there's no need to point it out but there has been the odd post where its genuinely hard to understand or lack of punctuation means it could mean more than one thing, when it's fair enough to ask the OP to clarify, it should still be done nicely though.

@Oulu, bollocks can you tell who is dyslexic from a mumsnet post, if that were true schools wouldn't have to spend money they don't have on referrals, there wouldn't be so many children getting to college, sometimes even uni, before being diagnosed.

I wonder what people blamed before auto correct 🙄

Adults with bad spelling/grammar will pass that onto their kids, so surely being corrected (embarrassing or annoying as it may be) is actually doing a favour?