Aibu to think I'm gross? (Picture)

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I feel fat, ugly, tired and unhealthy.

And what is this... it's ring worm, right? So I'm also disgusting and fungal too. (Is it ringworm??).

I have zero time for self care (no exaggeration). I just don't know how to fix myself or my life. The ring worm is my tipping point

You can get fungal cream for ringworm over the counter OP (so possibly online too).

I don’t know the ins and outs of your life so feels inappropriate to make suggestions re: self care but I do hope you feel better soon.

lash on some canesten cream and you'll clear that up in time. (yes I think it is ringworm) People get things like that all the time, chin up, you're not disgusting!

Get onto amazon/supermarket get canesten it'll be gone in no time. I know how you feel though I've been plagued by fungal infections the last few months and I feel disgusting.

I've had a fungal skin thing for ages op. You aren't alone!! I certainly don't feel gross about it. It's just one of those things. Get daktarin cream and keep applying. It'll go in a few days.

As for self care.... is there a reason you have no time foe yourself? Is there anyone who could help ease the pressure?

Are you ok in general? It's not easy to say those things about yourself!

Can we help by listening?

A mixture of circumstances.
I work 20 hours a week, have 2 preschoolers (one with additional needs which looks like will soon officially be SN), we have no childcare apart from one of the preschoolers goes to preschool 3 mornings a week.

Husband is away 2 weekends a month studying- he studies FT and works PT.

We are in debt, have numerous medical appointments for the eldest and i just don't get any time to see my husband. I miss him. The warmth is gone.

I eat my feelings which makes me feel gross

Husband and two boys have had a flu thing this week so I've been single handedly running the show. I'm wiped and miserable

Oh OP

You aren't disgusting! Not even close:

I've got Necrobiosis Lipoidica, Hidradenitis Suppurativa (google them at your peril!), Pompholyx exzema, keratosis pilaris AND I get a fungal infection in my buttcrack when I go swimming!

and i'm 6 stone overweight

make some time for self care, because it's really important

I'm disgusting. I have rolls and tyres. My pants no longer fit and I can't afford new ones.

I have the boys from 6am. Go to work at 4pm (or 3pm), get home at 9pm. Have dinner that dh has cooked and then contemplate bed time

Does your local area have specialist SEN early years provision, lots of local areas too. Sometimes they are called OGs, so near me there is a YOG- Yeovil Opportunity Group. They take the funded hours too.

This might be something you can access for your child with additional needs. Also contact your Early Years Advisory Service at your local council and ask them about their "local offer" which is all about specialist SEN provision.

You are very (too) harsh on yourself. Please don't be. Try and take some time for yourself, a brisk walk to see the sun come up? Get up and out while your DH sorts breakfast?

DEBT, have you been able to consolidate this in anyway, would speaking to a charity like StepChange help?

You are not disgusting. You are wonderful.

It might be this: Pityriasis rosea typically begins with a large, slightly raised, scaly patch — called the herald patch — on your back, chest or abdomen.

How long more is your husband going to be studying? Hopefully not too long more and that will take some pressure off. Things will get better, you sound very down on yourself :(

The ball is just beginning to roll with regarding referrals. Preschool are contacting the inclusion officer, I am to put in an application to the children's therapy services (hopefully for some physio or something- no idea). The health visitor is calling next week to discuss his 3 year development check (after he failed his 12m and 2y checks). He's been flagged on the 3y check now. I've also chased the paediatrician to pull his appointment forward from March, hopefully to next month. He also has his eye appointment in feb.

I'd just be happy if my husband wanted me. He feels unappreciated and is detached. I feel unappreciated and resentful. A perfect storm of marriage destruction.

And I want to lose some weight but am eating my feelings. Really being greedy. Gluttony makes me feel crap

I've had ringworm and it looked just like that, as other posters have saved it clears up easily.Be kind to yourself.

The mark in my skin is right under my bra strap - the underwire bit.

He's 18m in to a 5.5 year course. It will change our lives.

The youngest will start preschool in the next few weeks and I'll have a couple of mornings to myself

Is it raised and a bit scaly- if yes I'd say ringworm. It looks indented in the pic though, so are you sure it's not just a mark caused by your bra?

What can you do to effectively make your day easier???

You sound like you have an awful lot on your plate?

Who's near you to support? You and your husband can weather the storm as long as you keep talking and recognising the others value.

I might go to the pharmacy when I get chance and see what they say. I don't think it's my bra. I've not put a bra on today as the boys are ill and it's still there.

My days are ok with the boys. Although the eldest can be a challenge. It will change when the little one starts preschool.

We don't have support to be honest. Mum is on the phone if I need her but nothing practically from anyone. I guess we just need to value each other more. We're both saturated with our own stuff and unfortunately can't lighten each others loads

You have your kids from 6am -4pm, one with SN, thats 8 hours or a whole working day! THEN you do a second job 4 - 9.

It's not surprising you're exhausted, you're doing a heck of a lot of work in a day!

Sorry, that should actually be 10 hours!

Ask the pharmacist. There are many different types of fungal infection

Don’t worry OP it’s really common, I’ve had it and I’m not gross! Just the name ringWORM is a bit gross :)

@StormTreader and then two weekends a month completely solo from 6am saturday until around 8pm sunday.

Then dh comes home tired. Although he does recognise my life is also tiring. I don't work thursdays which is nice- but then on Thursdays DH is unavailable from 6am till 9.30pm ish

I'm also currently trying to retrain but dont have time to meaningfully study

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Just try to change one thing that will bring positive change (other than getting the cream for your little mark). I salute all working mums, you are a hero!

This Thread is great for day to day support, including over coming eating your feelings.