To ask your thoughts on valentine's Day cards for kids?

[Mamalexi343]

Theres a story going around about a woman who wants valentine's Day cards for children to be removed from stores and banned.

She feels it's disgusting for parents to give their children a card saying they love them and that the holiday is for couples and romance only, apparently all her friends and family agree and she would and I quote 'punch anyone in the face of they gave my son a card'

What do you think?

I think Valentines day is for couples and not other kinds of love, but I can't get excited about it.

I agree with her it’s weird

It is weird. Valentine’s Day celebrates romantic love, and so giving your children Valentine’s cards is just wrong.

It’s not a general day of love, it’s specifically geared towards romantic love.

Seems like it's more of a general love thing in America and a romantic love in Ireland and the UK (that's what I observed being in the states anyhow)

stupid holiday either way though imo

What does it matter if you give your child a card.

There is no harm in telling your children you love them! I would rather my DC received a card from me than some other primary aged child, that's for sure.

Hardly worth getting worked up about!

I think it was originally about telling someone who you weren’t yet in a relationship with you love them. Now been extended to married couples and the like, so extending to all family members is just the next setup in suppose!

I think it’s odd. But I see some parents going really OTT about it with their kids.

I also think young children sending valentines cards is odd.

But there again I am the least romantic person going and unless there is a good offer on a meal somewhere we don’t do anything!

Well, the card manufacturers have to make a profit somehow!

Why is it disgusting to give a child a card saying you love them? Disgusting really? Abusing a child is disgusting, saying you love them is very opposite....

I see nothing wrong with it 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think some people are just miserable bastards and like something to moan about

It's a hallmark holiday essentially so I don't buy into it anyway. But yes, it's romance not familial love. Kind of weird. I also find it weird when people call their kids sexy too.

Wouldn’t do it but worse things to get upset about.

I also find it weird when people call their kids sexy too

Is that a thing? ew

There’s nothing wrong with telling your child you love them or giving them a card that says you love them.

There is something wrong in giving them a Valentine’s card, which is a romantic card, because by giving your child a card on Valentine’s Day you are celebrating romantic love with them whether or not you want to admit or acknowledge that.

I agree that Valentine's Day is for romantic love and cards are traditionally given anonymously to a love interest. I definitely don't think kids should be included, they don't need to be involved in everything! Also, I wouldn't call Valentine's Day a holiday. Ultimately the whole thing has just become another money-making racket for supermarkets etc I can't believe how much merchandise they have in Tesco's for example, bloody ridiculous!!

Valentine's Day doesn't have to be about romantic love. There's no rule saying that it does. As a single woman I'll celebrate it however I want, that might mean showing my family or friends that I love them.

I wouldn't buy DS a card though. Might buy him a little present.

Valentines Day to me represents 'romantic love' not family love so no, I absolutely would not give them to my children. Personally I think it's weird to want to include your children in this , each time their own I guess ?!

There may not be 'rules' but the historical connotations are certainly that of courtly or romantic love. The illegal marrying of soldiers, the fertility rituals etc. If you want to associate that with children or family... well, you do you.

We celebrate many holidays differently nowadays than we did historically - Easter, Christmas, etc. Why should Valentine's day be any exception?

Valentine's Day doesn't have to be about romantic love. There's no rule saying that it does.

Waxonwaxoff0 Its nothing to do with rules. Whether you like it or not, and whether you acknowledge it or not, Valentine’s Day celebrates romantic love.

You can’t just decide Christmas is, say, the Easter Bunny’s birthday just because you want it to be. A chair doesn’t become a sink because you say it does.

Feel free to pretend Valentine’s Day doesn’t celebrate romantic love, but it doesn’t stop the fact that it does and you are celebrating romantic love with whoever you buy cards/gifts for.

As a single woman you should accept that this day isn’t for you to celebrate until you have a romantic interest. And that’s okay, not every day is for everyone.

I wouldn't give my child a valentine's card but I wouldn't try to ban others from it if they wanted to.

I used to find it weird that bil and his wife bought presents and cards for their dc and had a special dinner with them on Valentine’s Day. But they aren’t a very demonstrative couple and now I have dc myself dh and I don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day with cards or presents. He does cook a nice meal, if the dc are in we all eat something together.
I still wouldn’t do cards or presents for my dc but then we don’t do them for each other (dh and I).
I’m on the fence really.

heartsonacake or I can celebrate it if I want to because it's not your decision on how I live my life and I couldn't care less about your view?

Yeah it's weird