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Neighbour's glass extension

68 replies

Blueredemption · 29/01/2020 15:33

My home backs onto several other houses including a detached house which is at almost right angles, so I have a clear view into their garden from my rear upstairs bedroom window, as do the rest of the houses in my terraced row.

The owners of this house have spent the best part of last year building a large extension which was eventually to become their kitchen/living area.

This meant a lot of disruption, removal of rear garden panels into a shared car park, our car being blocked in by tradesmen's vehicles etc and noise, lots of it, even at weekends. Plus lots of mess. Not so much as a 'sorry' note through the door or a 'thanks for being patient with all the disruption'.

I didn't say a word, just politely asked the tradesmen to move their vans so I could go to work.

However, once they had completed the works I just happened to be glancing out of my bedroom window to check what the cats were up in the garden to when I saw the father in this extension. It is fully glass-walled with no blinds/curtains at all, so basically like a giant gold fish bowl. He saw me looking and stared then gestured in an aggressive manner with his whole body and arms as if to say "yes??" so I quickly looked away.

Now I am a busy person with a full-time job and am not in the habit of staring out of my bedroom window, but I feel intimidated by this tw*t to not even look out. The only time I go near the window is to hang washing on the radiator underneath or to open and close curtains, perish the thought that the family there might think I'm some sort of voyeur and even mildly interested in their daily lives!

Why build something so transparent and have TV, living area etc and then not put up any sort of privacy?

Am I being unreasonable to think that people who build such extensions compromise their privacy to a degree?

OP posts:
TwoZeroTwoZero · 29/01/2020 17:37

Imagine living in that room in the summer heat?! Get a pair of binoculars op. For bird/cat watching purposes of course.

BossAssBitch · 29/01/2020 17:40

YANBU, what a twat.

What a shame that he will fry in there come summer Grin

Ginjanotaninja · 29/01/2020 17:41

The man is a fool. If it happens again, then pop around after he's gone and ask why he seems to be perving at you when you are in your bedroom.

ChardonnaysDistantCousin · 29/01/2020 17:42

Buy a bird feeder. Place near the boundary. Top up with peanuts to encourage your friendly neighbourhood pigeons to crap all over his glass box.

Enjoy.

mumwon · 29/01/2020 17:45

Wave & smile than make pretend glasses with both thumbs & index fingers & put them up to your eyes to stare at him - if you have dc encourage them to do same :) make pretend camera with hands & make out you are taking photos then wave & smile & look over shoulder as though talking to someone else &point at him - & do this each time (I am such a nasty woman - it is so much fun!) Grin

ChardonnaysDistantCousin · 29/01/2020 17:45

These extensions can actually be dangerous in the strong sun in the summer. Fires can start when the light falls at a certain angle.
And they are difficult to keep warm in the winter.

Fuck knows why they are so popular.

cochineal7 · 29/01/2020 17:48

It’s a bit like those people who bought these glass fronted flats next to Tate Modern and got upset at the public being able to look into their overpriced living rooms. They lost their case. Rightly so.

7salmonswimming · 29/01/2020 17:53

People watch all these TV programs like Grand Designs, thinking "ooooh, I'd love to live in a house like that", and quickly jump to "actually I can live in a house like that! let's do it!", not realizing that what might work in the rolling hills of Somerset doesn't work quite so well in Stepney Green.

He's a moron. Leave him to it.

IntermittentParps · 29/01/2020 17:59

I think it might be worth checking the planning permission if you're suddenly being overlooked.
I agree with this.

Cam77 · 29/01/2020 18:15

He’s sounds like a right dick. Put some pot plants by your bedroom window and make a point of watering them everyday and leaisurely enjoying the view as you do so.

KatharinaRosalie · 29/01/2020 18:20

stare back. "No, what are YOU looking at???"

needanewnamechange · 29/01/2020 18:30

Perhaps they have not got round to getting the blinds fitted yet .

theemmadilemma · 29/01/2020 18:46

I'd set up a chair and binoculars. You can't build a glass front extension and then get uppity when people are looking in.

bringbackspanishflu · 29/01/2020 19:06

I'd Get a cardboard cutout of a person and stand it in that window so it always looks like they are being watched

ALongHardWinter · 29/01/2020 19:12

Well,he built the extension. It's his problem if he doesn't like being looked at! What an idiot.

Whynosnowyet · 29/01/2020 19:25

Bird table and lots of bird food near his boundary as suggested...

Whynosnowyet · 29/01/2020 19:27

Also will a window cleaner reach all sides without going onto your property at all?

StoneofDestiny · 29/01/2020 19:32

I'd get a massive telescope like the kind astronomers use and set it up by the window in your back bedroom

Yep and I'd wave and stay where I was standing in my own house. Nobody can stop you looking out of your own window.

He is a dick behaving like that anyway - the behaviour of a thug.

BustedDreams · 29/01/2020 20:02

Get a humongous telescope ... pointing in there direction ... and leave it in the window Grin

BustedDreams · 29/01/2020 20:03

Their*

BustedDreams · 29/01/2020 20:03

@StoneofDestiny cross posted ... great minds Grin

Amyspickledlime · 29/01/2020 20:52

cochineal7 The flats were built before the Tate's viewing gallery.

IntermittentParps · 30/01/2020 11:13

I believe all potential buyers of the flats were able to look at the planning request for the Tate extension.

They lost the case because it was ruled that the glass-fronted 'rooms' that people in Tate can see into were always intended as balconies/mini-conservatories/whatever the word is, not a private part of the home that was not intended to be lookable-into.

Ponoka7 · 30/01/2020 11:21

"These extensions can actually be dangerous in the strong sun in the summer. Fires can start when the light falls at a certain angle.
And they are difficult to keep warm in the winter.
Fuck knows why they are so popular."

Pretentiousness and they are a third of the price of a proper extension.

I desperately need an extension replacing and got a price.

AdobeWanKenobi · 30/01/2020 11:33

When I was a teenager a house locally had a huge front window and never drew the curtains. When it was dark it was like a huge beacon and frankly you couldn't help but look in.

The owner used to sit in his chair and wave aggressively at anyone who dared glance in his direction.

One night a few of us were off out and one of us happened to look at the house. He started to wave. We all stopped and stood cheerily waving back for a couple of minutes. He put curtains up shortly after.

So, gather all your friends and family and give him a cheery hello!

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