To not want to be rushed out of a car park?

[MsMarvel]

Travel around for work, so regularly use public car parks to then work at client sites (hotels, bars etc) always arrive early so never have any issue getting spaces in busy car parks.

Because i work in a public area at a client site, when i get back to my car like to grab my lunch quickly and make some phonecalls before heading home (todays journey is a 2 hour drive home)

Im fed up of people trying to find spaces in car parks seeing me going into my car, amd sitting behind me waiting for me to leave! I normally end up feeling rushed and just leave, but today i decided to sit and eat the steak bake i bought on the way to the car. Woman sits behind me for like 5 mins, then goes past slowly peering into my car giving me proper evils. Should add, engine not on, so not sitting with idling engine.

Aibu to take some time before leaving a parking space??

To the person who posted about hospital parking.

My DH has cancer. I regularly have to take a moment away from the hospital. I go and sit in my car.

I am sure that I am not the only one. It isn’t being selfish it is gathering the strength to go back and be positive

imagine being so entitled you think someone should have to move their car so you can park lol how about no.

Imagine being so entitled you think you can sit in a busy car park eating your lunch while people drive around waiting for a space. You are right it's lunacy 😂😂😂😂

I should add I pay £200 a month whilst my dh has cancer. Welcome to the NHS

When he is undergoing systemic treatment ie chemo/radio it is free. After 5 nights in patient it drops to £1 a day but due to a bed crisis he yo yos in and out

Maybe you could get irate about that?

Brokenlightfitting

Yep! During the day the dog and I drive round many places, park up in many, walk around many. It's what I do for a living.

In order to get my reports done quickly I need to send them to my VA. So anywhere with public access wifi gets used.

Lots of people do the same. Become self employed and you'll find that others will helpfully share the locations of such places. And that many of those places advertise their free facilities too!

Such is the modern world!

Maybe you could get irate about that?

About what, the cost of parking? Yes it is completely shit that you need to pay for parking when your husband is in hospital being treated for cancer. I hope he makes a full recovery. Completely different situation to someone sitting in a car park eating their lunch while someone waits for their space.
I am truly sorry for what you and your dh are going through but it's a completely different situation.

I hate carpark hoverers.

I had one recently. Public pay and display carpark in touristy village/ hiking area.
I clearly had two children with me. I sat them on the boot while I dealt with their laces and they got shoes on. I then had my own boots and shoes to deal with. Anyone with an ounce of common sense would have seen that I clearly was not going to be ready to move within 5 minutes of unlocking the car, but still the car lurked. If they had an ounce of common sense they'd have moved on a few metres and pulled into a choice of avaliable spaces rather than being an obstruction to other vehicles moving through, wasting petrol and fumes and putting pressure on me.

Ironically, years ago when heavily pregnant and riddled with SPD I went with DH up there, parked up then settled across the back seats with my body pillow for a lovely nap until DH and friends had finished their hike and we could move on for lunch. I couldn't physically get out of the car in a standard space with a car on both sides anyway as I needed the full opening of the door to be able to exit the car.

I did similar in a hospital multi-storey giving a friend a lift to another city for a specialist procedure. I couldn't walk as far as the clinic area so rested in the car until they returned to me. I'm not quite sure what the YABUs would have me do... refuse to give a lift? Waste fuel by driving in pointless circles in an unknown city for the fun of it? Paralyse my pelvis to exceed my physical limits just so that I wasn't in the car?

Yep! During the day the dog and I drive round many places, park up in many, walk around many. It's what I do for a living.

Sounds like a great job.

@Russell19

If the op can move somewhere else to park, so could the person that's waiting...

I wasn't the person who brought up hospital parking though.

Can't believe the number of people in this thread who think it's reasonable behaviour to not only park in car park spaces (whether sat in the car or not) that others could be using but also to drive on roads, getting in the way of other car owners. YABVVVVU! I'm fuming!

Parking is parking really though, hospital or otherwise. Hospitals are particularly difficult because they are often short of spaces but also it's perfectly understandable that sometimes someone might need to sit in the car for a number of reasons eg feeling a bit emotional, being in too much pain to drive off immediately.

Would be interested to know people's views on sitting in a car whilst waiting for another person. We've done that loads of times - dh and I split up with one child each and agree to meet back at the car at whatever time. It's pretty inevitable that we don't arrive at exactly the same time so someone ends up sitting in the car waiting for the others. Would people view that as unreasonable behaviour?

Broken, that is an absolute disgrace!!! Parking is free for anyone undergoing cancer treatment at my trust, doesn't matter whether you are actively having treatment on that exact day, we are given permission to park for free for the duration if that makes sense. Should be the same everywhere, without a day! We also sort out free parking for anyone with a baby in the neonatal unit or anyone who has had a poor outcome from pregnancy. I am shocked it isn't the same everywhere. I work in a hospital and have to pay for parking so I fully understand the cost, though yours sounds a lot dearer than ours as our is a max of £6 a day. I am sorry you are going through this anyway

'I eat my food fast, then sit there to digest, but I am not digesting food' has made my day!

Can't believe the number of people in this thread who think it's reasonable behaviour to not only park in car park spaces (whether sat in the car or not) that others could be using but also to drive on roads, getting in the way of other car owners. YABVVVVU! I'm fuming!

God so very dramatic and purposely obtuse.

Yes sitting in car with dc waiting for dh and other dc to return is completely unreasonable. You should get rid of your car and buy two tandem bikes, preferably folding ones so you don't have to take up bike parking spots that others could be using, whilst nipping to Greggs for steak bakes for the whole family.

Just thought I would clarify for the many posters who don't read replies properly.... Whilst I have said I personally wouldn't ever do what the op does as I find it rude, nowhere did I say that I would actively pressure someone to leave a space. I have never done that in my life, nor will I ever. This is because as I have said several times, I have manners

Yes I might briefly hover but if I can see the driver is faffing or they shake their head to indicate they aren't leaving, then I move on. Like any reasonable person would do

Just because I wouldn't do what the op does doesn't automatically mean I fall into the category of the people who harass others for a space - What a weird conclusion to jump to.

imagine being so entitled you think someone should have to move their car so you can park lol how about no

Imagine being so entitled you think you can sit in a busy car park eating your lunch while people drive around waiting for a space. You are right it's lunacy

This is one of those subjects where we'll never agree, like whether you should grab a table in a self-service cafe, or buy your food first and risk all the tables being full.

If the op can move somewhere else to park, so could the person that's waiting I said further back, if you only want the space for another 10 minutes to eat your lunch it's probably easier for you to find a space than the person who has a meeting that is going to take 2 hours.

Would people view that as unreasonable behaviour?

You could just meet in the shops or wherever you are. No need to wait in the car and and make people think you might be leaving. Plus who wants to sit in the car with a child for longer than they have to.

Would be interested to know people's views on sitting in a car whilst waiting for another person...Would people view that as unreasonable behaviour

Yes but only because such people generally give me hard stares when I am reversing in next to the space next to them. I am not going to hit your car, for the record. But if you keep giving me the look it will put me off. And don't open your door and block the space next to you.

If I am in the car waiting for someone I deliberately look away if someone parks next to me.

Whilst I have said I personally wouldn't ever do what the op does as I find it rude, nowhere did I say that I would actively pressure someone to leave a space. I have never done that in my life, nor will I ever.

No I have never done this either, and never would. I do think the world would be a nicer place if people would be a bit more considerate others. I would never sit and eat my lunch in a busy car park, because as pointed out someone may need the space to visit someone in hospital, or go to a meeting, pick up a child etc. I don't know what reasons people have for wanting a space that I'm taking up, I would rather just move.

I must admit that I find that really strange. I don't see how choosing one meeting place over another is somehow bad mannered. I'd certainly rather meet at the car so I can sit down and put my belongings in the boot than try to meet up in a shop or somesuch with loads of other people around and nowhere to sit down. And I'd definitely rather sit in a car with a child than have them bored in a public place.

I also frequently return to my car to put stuff in the boot before going off to do something else, which also might give the impression that I intend to leave. Would you find that bad mannered too?

Yes sitting in car with dc waiting for dh and other dc to return is completely unreasonable. You should get rid of your car and buy two tandem bikes, preferably folding ones so you don't have to take up bike parking spots that others could be using, whilst nipping to Greggs for steak bakes for the whole family.

God you are trying so hard.

If I am in the car waiting for someone I deliberately look away if someone parks next to me.

So do I, for exactly the reason you said. No one likes being watched.

also frequently return to my car to put stuff in the boot before going off to do something else, which also might give the impression that I intend to leave. Would you find that bad mannered too

Not bad mannered, but if I was waiting for a space I would find it irritating and probably a bit disappointing if I gmhad been looking for a space for a while. I certainly wouldn't say anything to you.