To ask what on earth you do to stay awake during night feeds that doesn't wake DP

[Justasconfusedwithnumber2]

Suggestions welcome, I have a 2 week old that doesn't really like feeding laying down aargh. So what can I do to stay awake? TV is a no no as it will wake DP. How do you use your time?

@rhowton unfortunately I do need DH to be able to function when I have other children to take care of. He's not number one priority but he does factor here.

Thanks all, I will reassess for this evening. Love cosleeping as I said and never had issues last time.

@knittedgoldfish

If that works for you and you aren't bothered then that's fine. It's more the people that seem terrified of waking a man with a nappy change. I don't wake dh to do them, but I don't take baby to a different room so dh doesn't wake up. I change on the bed on a mat which is stored at the side of the bed. No moving for me!

All well and good @Hercwasonaroll until baby projectile poos onto the duvet

I'd get him a sleep mask. I got one for my youngest so her sister could read at night. It wasn't very expensive, got it off Amazon and it seemed to work.
I don't see the point of OP s husband waking up and helping as she is breastfeeding so the help he can give will be limited anyway.

No DP here but i just go on youtube with my earphones in or MN or read the news

@knittedgoldfish my thoughts exactly, while still in hospital my DS managed to soak everything including his hat with one epic wee!

Eye mask?

Podcasts got me though. Courage to you.

My dd only took 10/15mins to feed so i just went on my phone. I was able to feed lying down, but once LO was in her room i used to just get comfy in the chair in there with a blanket and my phone.

I found it easier to stay awake not in bed.

For the first few weeks with our three we had a lamp on in our room or night. DH would easily fall asleep with it in and I was able to feed DC without waking DH and read/ watch tv in quiet.( though he would wake to change DC nappies after I'd feed them in the first few weeks and get up with them after the 5/6am feed as he wanted to bond with them too)

I didn’t have a partner so not something I needed to think about but I just went on my phone.

Some of these comments make me laugh though, if I did have a partner I wouldn’t have expected him to get up during the night if he had work the next day. No need for both of us to be tired.

I think just get on with feeding him. Get him used to sleeping lying down, so you can go back to sleep. If your partner wakes up, then tough shit. Its his kid too

My first I fed in our bed, propped up with pillows etc. to be honest it wrecked my back, and I often felt myself drifting off, which was terrifying. I mostly looked at my phone to stay awake.

My second I fed her in a rocking chair in the nursery. Yes I had to get out of bed, but it meant I was more awake. And also I could watch stuff on the iPad with the sound on. Worked for us anyway!

I used to imagine how I would survive the breakdown of society by growing my own food, and working out how I would do it. Those long hours used to fly by,

(I'm a bit of a planner)