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To want revenge?

43 replies

chinadolls · 27/01/2020 11:57

That sounds a bit dramatic "revenge" but a friend well a enemy.
She's been telling lies about me,turned everyone against me.
Stolen from me (money and makeup )
And everyone thinks I'm a liar.
I had an abortion (years ago ) and confided in her...she's telling everyone I lied and wasn't pregnant..I never talk about it because I'm ashamed and it's nobody's business.
She's a top manipulator and nobody believes me.
I want to get my own back but I don't know how but a part of me just wants to feel nothing.
She's causing me so much upset.
I don't know what to do

OP posts:
CakeandCustard28 · 27/01/2020 11:59

Grow up and stop acting like a child? Just cut contact and have nothing to do with her. “Revenge” is what children do!

Iooselipssinkships · 27/01/2020 12:08

If this is a big group of friends and all this bitching, childish behaviour goes on then I would recommend dropping the lot. Life is much happier without teenage drama. Forget revenge, the best way to show them is by living your best life... without them.
If this advice is no good for you then I recommend netmums because at least 40 threads like this are posted each day.

Original poster
chinadolls · 27/01/2020 12:11

@Iooselipssinkships it is a group yeah.
Everyone bitches behind each other's back and I'm sick of it.
One girl in particular who at one point was my closest friend,massively turned on me and I've been trying to show the others what she's like ..to no avail

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GinDaddy · 27/01/2020 12:13

@looselipssinkships

The snide "go to Netmums" post was utterly predictable and not necessary. OP clearly explained herself, and her predicament is far more interesting and important to this reader than "AIBU to ask where to go for two weeks for £3000?" Or "AIBU to think Hobnobs aren't what they were?"

To @chinadolls , I genuinely suggest you walk away from this person who sounds like poison. If you must, confront her directly in a calm way and ask why she is directing so much painful vindictive behaviour your way.

Sadly though I think that would just give her the attention she clearly craves, so I advise to get the hell out so to speak and block her, ignore her, go forward with your life on your terms.

Luckystar20 · 27/01/2020 12:13

How old are you op. Just cut the toxic people out of you're life, you sound immature.

WorraLiberty · 27/01/2020 12:13

If you're sick of it why are you still in the group and why are you asking Mumsnet about revenge?

Just remove yourself and move on.

mummmy2017 · 27/01/2020 12:18

Cut contact with her.
Also if she steals, she will do it to someone else in the group.
If you just wait anyone who is your real friend will contact you.
Karma is a sod.

HuskyloverI · 27/01/2020 12:19

It's not immature to want revenge. Some people are so bland!

Op, karma will catch up with her, because eventually people will wise up.

My best friend shagged my ExH (before he was an Ex!) I found out recently that her life has imploded (she's lost her fiance and her house). Part of me felt Karma had caught up with her. Even though 12 years has passed since she betrayed me.

WorraLiberty · 27/01/2020 12:23

Of course it's immature.

And not everyone believes in karma.

letsgogogo · 27/01/2020 12:29

The best way to get 'revenge' is to move on and live your life free and unaffected from her drama... that group of friends doesn't sound worth worrying about anyway. Time to cut ties with toxic people and give them no more of your time... not even an explanation

Strongmummy · 27/01/2020 12:30

Ignore it and live your life

Mammatino · 27/01/2020 12:36

Why would they turn on you like this? I understand feeling the need to get your own back or be vindicated. As PP have said you get your life on track, look after yourself and show them what being a grown up decent human being looks like. Cut them out of your life, I know that's easier said than done but look for new friendship groups. Talking about people's abortions is very very unpleasant. You will be much happier away from this pathetic little group.

ilovesooty · 27/01/2020 12:40

It's not bland to feel revenge is futile.

WorraLiberty · 27/01/2020 12:42

Why would they turn on you like this?

The OP says she's part of a group who bitches behind everyone's backs, so it's probably just her 'turn'.

Straycatstrut · 27/01/2020 12:55

How old are you? You sound very young. This is what secondary school was like for me and it drove me insane. The constant bitching and lying and showing off. School was hell for me and I cut all contact with my female friends and haven't had any since.

Maybe that's why I always had a boy preference when I was pregnant too. I did have a boy both times. Just that fear of having a girl going through what I did. I always felt like the world is more harsh on us women. Obviously it comes down to what kind of experience you've had as one.

Just separate yourself like I did. It's much nicer.

Straycatstrut · 27/01/2020 12:57

Oh & the revenge thing - like what's the point? You get revenge, they get revenge and on and on.

Be the bigger person and stop wasting your life with this petty shit.

PlanDeRaccordement · 27/01/2020 12:57

Take a job in a foreign country and get clear of the botches for good.

AmelieTaylor · 27/01/2020 13:01

@HuskyloverI. Isn’t it dreadful when people get exactly what they deserve 🤣

@chinadolls it’s horrible when people lie about you, but they bitch about people all the time. If you lay with dogs, don’t be surprised if you get fleas!

Why do you want to be part of that group?

Microwavedtea · 27/01/2020 13:03

Hate and wanting revenge will eat you up so you need to just let it go and realise that people can only be persuaded you're something you're not if they dont know you that well or arent your friends in the first place.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 27/01/2020 13:06

I agree with a PP that it's probably just a group of bitchy girls and it's your 'turn' to be picked on.

I'd suggest you grow up and remove yourself from this 'friendship' group.

The only revenge required here is to prove to them you don't need them and you can do just fine without them.

PotholeParadise · 27/01/2020 13:06

Drop contact with them all, and build new friendships with grown-ups.

Equanimitas · 27/01/2020 13:10

Walk away from the group. You need more mature friends.

sydenhamhiller · 27/01/2020 13:15

Two quotes I repeat to my kids a lot:

  1. The best revenge is a life lived well
  1. Feelings of revenge is like holding a piece of coal, and hoping the other person gets burned.

It’s hard OP, but don’t give them headspace. And let’s keep our fingers crossed there is karma... 😉

Patroclus · 27/01/2020 13:21

euuugh cant be doing with people being all 'noble' about revenge. People acting like scumbags should get what they deserve.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 27/01/2020 13:24

@Patroclus this is just a bunch of bitchy girls. OP would just be as bad as them.

It's a bit different to your best friend sleeping with your husband like a PP mentioned.

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