To want revenge?

[chinadolls]

That sounds a bit dramatic "revenge" but a friend well a enemy.
She's been telling lies about me,turned everyone against me.
Stolen from me (money and makeup )
And everyone thinks I'm a liar.
I had an abortion (years ago ) and confided in her...she's telling everyone I lied and wasn't pregnant..I never talk about it because I'm ashamed and it's nobody's business.
She's a top manipulator and nobody believes me.
I want to get my own back but I don't know how but a part of me just wants to feel nothing.
She's causing me so much upset.
I don't know what to do

Have you all missed the bit about miscarraige?

Abortion I mean

@Patroclus no - we're just all very clear on the fact it's a bunch of mean girls and the easiest way to avoid the drama is to remove herself from the situation

Exactly what GiveHerHellFromUs said.

Plus the OP has been happy to be a part of this group that bitches about everyone.

Now it's her turn to be bitched about, she's not so keen.

Friends would be there for you, would believe you and tell anyone bitching about you to FTFO

If none of these people step up for you, bin the whole fucking lot of them.

Seriously. They’re taking up the spaces where decent friends should be.

@WorraLiberty I've never said anything bad about anyone.

It all sounds quite child like, just take a step back from it all concentrate on yourself. You can’t control what other people say and think of you so just keep your head up and walk away from it all.

OP trust me; you will feel so much happier if you drop this group. You don’t need to do it in a dramatic fashion - just start taking longer to reply to their messages, start missing events as you’re already “busy” and slowly the friendships will die a death.

It’s only once you’re out of these groups that you realise how toxic and exhausting they are and how much better you feel without them!

Oh and start a new hobby to find some new friends!

You need to remove yourself from the group and find better friends. Don't be tempted to reply or meet with with any of them. I wouldn't take revenge, it'll escalate and not solve anything.

If they're bitching behind your back, then they're where they belong, behind you: & not in your way. . Not caring is the best revenge. It'll annoy the crap out of them. They're insecure & need to feel superior so put others down. You don't make your light brighter by dimming anyone else's.

Just tell them all the fuck off and be done with them. Why are you wasting your time trying to "make them see what she's like"? What kind of victory would it be if they all suddenly changed their minds and joined your "side"? Great, you'll have the grotty bunch of bitches on your team. Hurrah. Not.
Focus on yourself, move forward and stop giving this any time.

Revenge these days is merely a fantasy because we live in a civilised society and we are grown ups. However, it's fun to imagine and helps remove the sting of having been let down by people who matter to us.

So, in fantasy only, you could hire a digger to be delivered to her address. Or a pile of bricks to be delivered to her driveway/front garden.
You could steal her coat on a cold winter night and sell it under an assumed name.
When we had learned how to use the phone (long before mobiles, so home phone landline) my little brother and I once ordered 2 tons of coal to be delivered to our piano teacher because we hated her. I was 5 and my brother 3. I'm pretty sure the coal merchant could tell we were children by our voices and giggles.
There are many things you could do. Make a golem and instruct it to stand outside her front door day and night.
Tame a dragon which could flame her roof in the middle of a storm (I like that one).
Perform a spell which curses all her actions and ruins her life.

I could go on.

Why bother trying to prove this woman is a liar to other women who are just the same? Write them off and move on.

I've been dealing with my covert narcissistic sister for 30+ years, she's essentially been blackening my name, makin up lies about me, clouding my parents view of me my whole life.....

Ive been researching this topic for a while now and speaking with a psychologist who has confirmed the only way to rid your life of the toxicity is to get rid of these people full stop.
Be it a friend or a relative.
That is the best revenge when they can no longer drive you mad or have any impact on you.. Good luck OP

I wouldn’t have been part of a group that bitched about each other for a start........

If you confront her about it, no matter how calmly you do it, she will twist what you say, turn it against you and it will become more fodder for bitching (“She accused me of bitching about her! Me! Can you imagine? etcetera) so don’t do that. She will probably try to paint herself as the victim of your bad behaviour. It’s horrible but you will have to write the whole damn lot of them off and start again. I did the same- the only good thing about it was that I won’t ever get involved in a situation like that again.

Op I agree with pp that say to cut this group off and move on. Your "friend" sounds like a narcissist and if confronted you'll be playing into her hands. If the group were true friends they would not believe her or at least want to hear your side of the story.

Cutting them off will be painful and possibly lonely at first but in the long run you're doing yourself a favour. The best revenge quote I like is "kill them with success and bury them with a smile"