To ask how you knew your DP was interested in you?

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I've been single for a while now and feel slowly like it would be nice to start dating someone again.

Except I've been out of the loop for years and it's all a big mystery to me.

AIBU to ask how you knew your DP was interested and who made the first move? If it was through work did you get to know each other a little before you went on a date or was it quick and happened almost immediately after you met? Every relationship I've ever had began when drunk at university and things have moved on since then. I have a few friends who swear by online dating apps but there's a nice man at work who I definitely would be interested in before trying those.

Thanks in advance

His mate told me And even though that makes us sound like we're in Sixth Form, it's a good thing he did, as I'm terrible at reading signals.

He asked for my number so pretty obvious he was interested

He left a note with his number and a rose on my car.

He messaged regularly,didn't cancel dates and bought me wine

Met at a work do, he had just started there.

My pal on the social committee asked me to get him as he was new, I was 'yawn' but he asked me straight away would I like to go to the bar and he would buy me a drink. Thought I'd be polite. He was on his bike and walked me home in the fog, no kisses or anything

We exchanged no's and he texted next day and asked if I wanted to go salsa dancing (as I said I loved dancing, impressed as he was a shit dancer) went 5 days later. No game playing after that it was phone calls and arranging meet ups. I was 36 and had given up hope. 4 kids later we actually live just beside the venue we met

He asked for my number and rang me the next day to ask me out for a drink. It was a lot more straightforward in those days I think, when everything had to be done 'in real life'.

I was having a drink with my friend in a pub and he asked us to join himself and his friends. There was just a chemistry between us.

That was 34 years ago.

I just knew initially by the way he looked at me and how he always found an excuse to see me or do things with me. Then one day he called me ans asked me out for dinner. 7th Wedding Anniversary today :)

He used to stare at me from across the office and follow me to the kitchen.

Then on a work night out - after a few drinks - I asked him what his deal was.

He bought me a roast dinner the day after we shagged at our best friends wedding, I figured he was a keeper .
My ex asked my best friend at the time for my number and persued me relentlessly.

In the early days he used to ride 3 hours on a motorbike to see me most weekends. The effort told me it was worth something!

Loosely met through work. He was a client of the company I worked for so we already had each other's emails/contact details.

I knew he was interested when he asked me out on a date!

I was oblivious until he asked me out for a drink.

He was standing looking miserable at a bar, I went up to him and said smile, from that moment neither of us could take our eyes off each other, 20 years on nothing has changed.

After our first date we had a kiss when I was leaving the bar and he was desperately trying to stop pressing his erection against me

He was friends with my sister who I lived opposite. When he stayed over he told my sister that he was just going to take his morning cuppa outside to watch me weeding

We met at an aerobics class at a gym, after chatting for a few weeks I gave her my number. She called me and asked me out - that was 19 years ago.

He just made an effort. Didn't leave me second guessing and went out of his way to do things for me

I had introduced a friend and an acquaintance and just before the three of us went down the pub I realised I was playing, 'gooseberry.' I asked random bloke who was in the house share with acquaintance if he wanted to come to the pub.

He agreed and the way he was talking at the pub to me he really wanted to hold my attention.

We've been married 26 years this year.

Friend and acquaintance ? Total non starter.

A few days after our first date he turned up at my flat (at a ridiculous hour) after leaving an event early, bailing on his paid for hotel and getting the last train back to see me, also he wasn’t annoyed that I wouldn’t let him in.

I was the manager of a charity shop. He persuaded everyone he knew to donate stuff, and accompanied them when they did .

He approached me whilst we were in the gym, then after a few weeks of seeing him and chatting to him he asked for my number.
I was totally blindsided as I thought he was really friendly.

We went out the following week and he told me he liked me. This was in 2013, we're now married and have a 4 month old

He was the first guy who did what he said he would do, no mind games, didn’t cancel etc. He called, texted, made an effort. He never left me guessing about how he felt. So I knew not only was he interested, he was thinking about us as long-term.

He still looks at me like he did when we were 20 - we’re 33/34 now, married with 2 DC. I don’t deserve someone as lovely as him, I’m very lucky indeed.

OH and I met online in May (of the year we met). Chatted online and on the phone. Met in person in August. Got bombarded with requests for a second meeting, which I couldn't manage until a month later due to work.
That was 2006, still friendly in 2020.
Should add that he is a pilot and I work freelance in IT, so even being on the same continent is not always a given.

He never kept me waiting. I have found that over the years if you have to overthink things and also put lots of effort in to keep their attention then they really don’t care that much about you. Relationships aren’t supposed to be difficult at first, they should be fun and happy.