Or is DP forgetting our anniversary?

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I don't know if my feelings of sadness are justified!

DP and I have never before celebrated our anniversary because we didn't really know the date. However we got engaged last year and said we'd celebrate that date (we get married next year).

I reminded him and he definitely knew it was today. Yesterday I booked a nice restaurant and gave him his card because I was excited. He said how he had thought about stopping off to get a card but decided not to or it'd delay his journey home.

Today has come and so far we have been to the dentist. He has admitted there's no card and when I said "could you book somewhere for dinner" he's just shrugged it off. I then asked if he could not go on his phone today and we spend time together as he usually spends every weekend staring at the football / Twitter for football. When I seemed upset he just said he doesn't want to go to dinner with me and was angry about me asking about his phone.

I feel a bit deflated. I don't expect anyone to ever surprise me with roses or buy me a present but I did always hope that my significant other would take my love of cards seriously.

BTW, I wouldn't expect him to pay for dinner we always split. He knows this but we aren't tight for money in any way.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

This is not about his language of love - he was deliberately cruel and disrespectful to you by calling you insufferable.

He has explicitly told you he expects to do whatever he wants on Saturdays. This will continue if you have a child. He will not suddenly become a different person by fathering a child.
You will bear almost all responsibility for the household and children.

If you are happy with this, great
But don't marry him expecting him to change

I’m years to come if you married him and had kids who do you think would be looking after one of the kids if she were sick on Saturday, not him as you would get the ‘it’s Saturday, you know I watch the football on Saturday’.

Or say your car broke down or your train was cancelled and you had shopping to bring home he’d be all ‘it’s Saturday, you know I watch football on Saturday’.

God forbid you try and marry on a Saturday. You’d be lucky to get the I Do’s done before he was whipping out his phone.

Is you’re cool with getting nothing from him on Saturdays then that’s fine. Oh and sometimes there are midweek games too so perhaps wednesdays after work and all day Saturdays!