Lazy partner..

[Becathx92]

Am I unreasonable for wanting out?

My partner of 2 years has been out of work for 18 months now, he hasnt even tried to look for work but was offered one 5 months ago (his mum had to get it for him) he was all set to start just had to fill the forms online etc. He tried but the link failed, I told him to ring and explain, he cant hes got no phone, I offer mine to use his excuse then "I need my mum to ring she knows what to say" this was FIVE MONTHS AGO, every week its "I'll sort it". Hes just so lazy it's like having another child (I have 2 kids from previous relationship). The whole thing is making me resent him.

Dump him. Why are you with this waste of space who needs his mother to ring for him. Surely you are not that desperate to be in a relationship.

Why the hell are you with this loser? Run, the hills are that way ---->

And you’re with him because??

He’d have been out long ago, I won’t tolerate laziness or lack of a work ethic in a partner. Both adults should share the financial burden of running their household and model to children that working is part of daily life and that’s what provides for them.

What is the point of him?

Does he do absolutely everything around the house and wait on you all as a SAHP should, while you go out to work?

So he sat around for over a year until his mum found him a lead for a job?! I'd have sent him back to her long before then, OP.

Why are you with him?
It doesn’t even sound like you like him

@KellyHall no he does nothing round the house, he hasnt officially moved in but is here 4/5 nights a week.

Between you and your Mum enabling him to be a ManChild why would he need to look for a job , house etc

Does he manage sex or does his dm have to pop round and help him put it in?
Get rid op.
Sounds like a 16 yo...

Why do you even have to ask if you are unreasonable?
And does he have any money or are you paying for him re food, bills etc?

Can you say 3 reasons why you should stay with him?

Wow he sounds like one of life's winners.

Get rid

Do you really want another child to provide for and mummy? Get rid, it’s not like your going to loose out on much.

He needs to move out of your house now, today and back with his mummy.

I'm not even sure why I posted this tbh, I knew the answer I just needed someone elses view on it. I've told him before if he doesnt kick his arse into shape and get this job sorted or at least make an effort to get a job then I'd be leaving, he said it's not a big enough issue to leave someone you love and if we split he would kill himself, I guess with that and other bigger more urgent issues going on I've just put up with it but it's genuinely affecting me mentally now.

Sod that. Dump him and move on

So emotionally manipulative AND a lazy bum. You know what to do, really.

Get rid , as soon as he said to me ' I need my mum to do it ' he'd be gone .

Run away! Now!

he said it's not a big enough issue to leave someone you love

You can split up with him for whatever reason you want-you owe him nothing!

He sounds like a manipulative arse, tbh.

if we split he would kill himself
And he's also a manipulative twat get rid .

You can split up with him for whatever reason you want - this! He doesn't get to decide whether or not your reason is good enough. Any reason (even just the vague "this isn't working for me any more) is enough.

Ring his dm and tell her to come fetch him. And tell her about his threats to kill himself.
Then block him.