To be hurt ? They have booked up without me ?sneaky.

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My friend of 10 years fell out with me and in the process has turned everyone against me.
We all went on holiday in October and had a group chat.
That was all talk about the next trip.
She fell out with me and now they have opened a new group chat and booked without me (to go back to the same place)
They are all tagging each other on nights out and events and obviously I'm not invited.
She tried it on with my boyfriend and denied it.
I know she did because she has form and I've seen her before rubbing his leg etc and he's looked terrified.
I confronted her and she called me crazy and told all the other girls (turned on the tears )
Then said I went in her house threatening to punch her (I never even raised my voice )

Best thing to do is forget them and move on. They aren’t proper friends if they turned against you over lies. Concerate on yourself and find some new friends, the karma bus will hit them eventually!

In the kindest possible way ,you all sound like children.
You do not need these people in your life so just let them crack on and act like 15 year olds .
Why would you even want to go away with people like that !

They sound awful and very immature. I personally would block them all and move on - you don't need friends like that.

So you did go round to her house to confront her even if you didn't raise your voice? That sounds a bit extreme. I'd just leave it as the pp has suggested and make a new group of friends.

Ltb.
Lose those bitches...

Im bored by her behaviour just by reading your post.

Standard twat behaviour.

Id take them off my FB and get on with your life if I were you

That is very hurtful to be ejected from the group like that. Unfortunately they have made their decision and you trying to appeal it will be more painful for you.

I would focus on making new friends and trying to shake these people out of your life.

Perhaps the truth lies with your perspective, hers or most likely, somewhere in between.

I do not mean to sound unsympathetic as I was once thrown out of a girl's group when one turned against me after me trying my best to give her some support (I told her very very gently that I was worried about her and why). At first I didn't realise but over time it dawned on me I was left off the invite lists - a horrible feeling. It made me wonder if they ever truly liked me.

In the end it didn't matter. I did some self reflection and decided I was well intentioned in my actions and if those actions made me a person they didn't like then that was their right. I did not demean myself making a fuss or trying to get my side across. I sometimes meet up with them 1:1 but only if it's convenient for me, I would never prioritise them. I have other friends luckily. If you don't, please make this your focus.

Would you even want to go anywhere near them? Rubbing his leg? 😂 reminds me of being 15

Just delete them all and move on. Not worth it

Are you all quite young OP? Sounds like a tale my teen DD may come out with.

Doesn’t make your feelings any less valid, but does make me think that these may be friendships that were ‘forced’ (through school etc) and you may need to find your true people somewhere else.

Oh, and leg rubbing

sorry but I laughed at your boyfriend looking "terrified", is he such an easy prey

These are not your friends OP. Block them and find new ones.

Even if they came crawling back, there's no way you should accept them. They've shown their true colours.

There are lots of threads recently about really childish friendship groups. Sadly all women. Doesn't everyone have more important things to be dealing with than actual high school drama?

Get rid, find some grown-up friends. And tell your boyfriend to stand up for himself.

I was where you are 10 years ago. It hurt like hell.
I never bothered with them again, and they eventually fell out with each other too.
Block or unfollow them so you can’t see what they are up to, and find some new friends.

The group don't sound like the sort of people anyone would want to be friends with, let alone go on holiday with. Just ignore, and move on. Your lack of response will annoy her/them more than anything.

But it is logical, isn't it? You had a quarrel and now everyone is set up against you (which is awful, I agree) and I think it is logical that they will have a trip without you. Don't be upset, they were no friends for you anyway if they turn away just like that

Well rid by the sounds of it op.

It hurts but really in the years to come you will just be glad you found out what they were really like.

I fell out with a very close friend and found some mutual friends disappear but the one that stuck around (not taking sides or dumping one of us) turned out to be the nicest of the group she is someone that years later I count as one of the best people I know so it was no real loss in the end.
The ones I lost were the ones that looking back on it are people I wouldn't want as friends now!

You're just the first link from their chain gang. These friendships nearly always fail.
Move on lick your wounds, have a hot chocolate, block them.

There seem to be an awful lot of these Jeremy Kyle type threads on MN nowadays. It's all ridiculous schoolgirl drama, complete with social media "she didn't tag me, boo hoo". Just why?

She tried it on with my boyfriend and denied it.
I know she did because she has form and I've seen her before rubbing his leg etc and he's looked terrified.

I'm confused. Is this what you fell out over on holiday? Was your boyfriend there on holiday with you, or was it a girl's holiday where you chose to confront her about earlier behaviour?

How do you know she did it? You say she has form for trying it before but what made you react this time? Did you see her? Did he tell you?

@Nimello because for some people that is their life as sad as it is.

Similar happened to me a few years ago, big group of friends and I had an argument with one and she turned them all against me. I’ve had a divorce and it honestly felt worse I was bereft. But, I found new friends, lovely ones, and I learnt a lot about myself and what do liked doing and how to make good friendships and I am honestly much happier. Original girls life is still a car crash and she isn’t speaking to our original friendship group they all fell out. I’ve had a few messages since apologising saying they were under pressure to not speak to me and they feel bad. I thanked them for their apology but we will never be friends again. It’s awful, be kind to yourself, block and delete and use the time to make new friends

They all sound horrid and shallow.

If two friends of mine had a fall out and one of them then tried to turn me against the other I'd tell them to sod off and that I'd make my own decisions about my friendships.

Keep an eye on their social media. Smirk when you see who her next victim is! It's the only way to take the sting out of such silliness!