To say I was married?

[itchytits123]

I've never been into lying, I lack the imagination and CBA. However I split from an eighteen year relationship nearly two years ago and I've been pretty much single since.

I think it would be much easier to describe myself as divorced, even though it isn't strictly true. We have children and we shared property. It makes me feel less silly for being with someone all those years without ever being married to them.

AIBU to refer to myself (informally and casually) as a divorcee? Explaining feels too exposing at the moment.

I met my DH when he was mid 40s with 4 DC aged between 6-12 that he had half the time. He was never married to his DC's mother despite them being together 20 years (she didn't want to). He simply says he was in a long term relationship with her. I'd been married before but never referred to myself as a divorcee. You are definitely overthinking this

OP - young, wild and free.... #livingmybest life. All that crap is better than "divorcee"

@itchytits123 You need to learn how to not give a fuck, life is much easier that way :)

Don't be embarrassed, but just tell the truth. You're single or if anyone asks you've left a long term relationship.

I'm sure some people wouldn't bat an eyelid, but they're probably people who describe their DP of 2 years as hubby/DH or like to rewrite language according to how they feel like presenting themselves (eg the vegans who eat dairy containing cake occasionally).
Most reasonable people are quite happy with the truth and wouldn't think any less of you because they'd have to be an arse to do that.

You know how some people have short "descriptions" below their Facebook profile, one of my colleagues daughter has "happy, loved, divorcee" as hers. So cringeworthy, why would you mention it? Especially counting it as part of your personality like that 🤨

Best thing you can do is be open and honest from the start. Plenty of people are in longterm relationships that dont work out for whatever reason and have never been married, they just go back to being "single" - don't overthink it.