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To tell my landlord they can't come now

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 08:31

My landlord is due round tonight to look at some issues they want to sort with the floor in the bathroom.

I said it was okay for them to come round today.

I'm pregnant and am suffering really badly with sickness and tiredness and it's particularly bad at the moment.

AIBU to just take pictures for them instead and ask them not to come? Guy

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 08:31

Don't know where the guy came from at the end!

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GrannyBags · 23/01/2020 08:34

Depends on your tenancy agreement. If you are on friendly terms you could message him and see what he says but it might be written in to your contract that you need to let him come round for maintenance checks etc

Sirzy · 23/01/2020 08:36

Would it not be easier just to get it done so it can be sorted? It will be hard for them to sort things properly from just photos most likely.

MatildaTheCat · 23/01/2020 08:36

Do you want it fixed? LL’ s get such a bad rap on here and now we have one trying to remedy an issue and you are too tired to open the door.

YABU.

Whynosnowyet · 23/01/2020 08:37

You have the rest of your pregnancy yet to come. And the early days of having a baby.
Imo there is no ideal time so just get it over with. Maintaining the house is surely in your best interests?

Starlight456 · 23/01/2020 08:38

Tbh yes you are.

I am guessing he/ she wants to look for themselves to resolve the issue . It’s very early in the day to assume you won’t be well enough

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 08:39

Matilda, I'm not 'too tired to open the door' I'm throwing up and nauseous all day at the moment.

The issue is the floor is a bit old and they want to replace it. It's not causing any damage or anything they just want to do it. I'm happy for them to but equally I'm not really bothered about it myself. It's not something I've reported. It's something they've wanted to do for a while apparently and now want to get going with it.

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LIZS · 23/01/2020 08:46

It will only tak 10 minutes to look at a floor. It will be fine and the floor need replacing sooner or later.

Babynamechangerr · 23/01/2020 08:46

Sorry but yabu. You've asked your landlord to sort an issue, which need to be done in a time sensitive way (bathroom floor issues will only get worse and worse if you leave them) so you can't now not let him in.

Just text him and say you're not well so you're just going to rest in your room whilst he's there. Then just hide away in your room with a sick bucket. I doubt hell be there longer than an hour max.

Hahaha88 · 23/01/2020 08:49

You will care about that floor if it's old enough it might become dangerous.
Just let them in. It will take what 15 mins? Yabu. The world doesn't stop cos you have morning sickness.

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 08:50

You've asked your landlord to sort an issue

No I haven't, they've asked me. It's not an issue. They just want to update the flooring because it's a bit old.

I'll tell them it's fine to come but warn them I'm not well so they know.

I get on well with them, it's nothing to do with landlords having a bad rep or anything, I'm always happy to let them in and have a chat, I just don't feel up to it today so far and thought it best to let them know now rather than later.

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Whynosnowyet · 23/01/2020 08:50

Being seen as an obstructive tenant may come back to bite you ... They don't care how rough you look - - they want to fix up your home!!

FamBae · 23/01/2020 08:52

YABU, but if you have been feeling tired and sick am I right in guessing you are more worried that your home is not show house ready, rather than your landlord spending 20 minutes looking at your bathroom floor. Years ago I would go into a total panic if anyone visited and there was a thing out of place; give yourself a break, just make the bed, pick up any discarded clothing, put the washing up in the oven and empty the kitchen bin ; )

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 23/01/2020 08:53

I'd let them come - just warn them that you're not feeling well so that they know to be quick! It'll likely be easier for them to get the floor sorted now then when you've got a baby, and although it probably feels unlikely, maybe you'll feel a little brighter later?

It shouldn't take longer than five minutes so if you let them know that you're not well so they are in and out, it's probably in your interests to just get it done so they don't keep rescheduling!

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 09:02

Okay thank you, I will just let them know first off instead. Usually when they come round we have a bit of a chat and stuff for a while but I'm just not up for that right now.

I also know the world doesn't stop because I have morning sickness but this is my home and I should have a say in who comes in it when I'm unwell surely? I'm not an obstructive tenant, I've been here years and they've been round loads of times, we get on well.

Anyway I'll just let them know.

And as per a PP my house is a bit on the messy side at the moment yes Sad I'll have to steal the washing up in the oven idea!

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AllergicToAMop · 23/01/2020 09:22

It's not an issue now, but it can become issue later. Now it will cost few hundred quid to replace. If left and it deteriorated it could cost thousands with the damage around.

Great your landlord is not leaving it till it falls apart.

Bakedbrie · 23/01/2020 09:23

I think you’re building this service visit into a major event OP. Tell them you’re unwell but they can still come for access but don’t expect too much from you today as you’re poorly. Agree that any follow on actions to be agreed on the phone next day. Have your dressing gown on, be civil, be apologetic and make it clear that your not up for any chat when they come today.

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 09:29

I think you’re building this service visit into a major event OP

Yes I'd agree! I get quite anxious about stuff like this anyway and especially when the house is a bit of a mess and I feel rotten.

I know what I'm like, I'm usually too polite to hint at anyone to be quick or let them know I'm too ill to chat. But you're right I'll just let them know straight off.

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bigdecisionstomake · 23/01/2020 09:29

Not a landlord but work for one - we would be fine with a tenant saying they were unwell and cancelling the arrangement to visit, so long as it was ok to re-schedule the visit in a reasonable timescale. This is just the same as very occasional times when I have made an appointment to go to a property to assess some refurbishment work and have had to cancel/rearrange due to either illness or a last minute family emergency either of mine or the tradesperson I was due to be calling with. As long as you have a good relationship I don't see that it's a problem. It doesn't matter what your tenancy agreement says, you have the right to decide whether anyone comes into your home unless it's an absolute emergency and it certainly doesn't sound like that.

Mummyoflittledragon · 23/01/2020 09:35

If you struggle to explain face to face that you are too tired to chat without seeming rude, maybe send a Text with something friendly.

As for repairing the floor, as long as there is no damage beyond old flooring, it that won’t take long. I am chronically ill and disabled. I regularly retreat to the bedroom when I have people doing work.

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 11:53

Okay so I'm just going to mention it as soon as they come 'please excuse the mess, I'm not very well' and hope that is enough of a hint! Added to the fact I look like death warmed up right now.

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2020cominatcha · 23/01/2020 11:57

I feel for you OP, I was so sick when pregnant with DC1 and (as some of the responses above show) most people really don’t understand. Flowers

Lazypuppy · 23/01/2020 11:59

I'd just get myself into bed and message ll to say not well, let yourself in

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 12:39

2020cominatcha

Thanks, obviously I'm just too tired/can't be bothered to open the door Hmm

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mencken · 23/01/2020 13:13

you can have underwear piled to the ceiling if you like, not an issue as long as it isn't damaging the property. MN talks a lot of horseshit about tenant rights and landlord 'powers'.

Just let them in, explain you aren't feeling well and leave them to it.

all the landlord needs is your permission to be in the house. If you cancel you waste their time, I know this is MN so zero fucks given but as this is to your advantage it would be worth making the effort.