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To tell my landlord they can't come now

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 08:31

My landlord is due round tonight to look at some issues they want to sort with the floor in the bathroom.

I said it was okay for them to come round today.

I'm pregnant and am suffering really badly with sickness and tiredness and it's particularly bad at the moment.

AIBU to just take pictures for them instead and ask them not to come? Guy

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Mumbassa · 23/01/2020 13:20

Just answer the door and explain you aren’t feeling well, and then let them go about their work

wateraddict · 23/01/2020 13:22

Don't be afraid to be really clear, I am not sure your hint will be taken as intended. How about something like "hi Landlord, I am ill today. By all means do pop over to plan the work for the floor, but I can't chat today. I am happy to discuss the floor arrangements another time so I can get straight back to bed when you have the measurements you need. If you would rather come over another time let me know. Thanks for understanding"

Thymelord · 23/01/2020 13:23

Being seen as an obstructive tenant may come back to bite you

There is absolutely nothing "obstructive" about being ill and wanting to be left alone.

Drum2018 · 23/01/2020 13:24

Does your oh live with you? Could he see to them and you just say hello and head off to the bedroom if you don't want to chat?

AgnesNaismith · 23/01/2020 13:26

Wow to these replies. YANBU - it is your house currently and you aren’t feeling well. Of course you can text to rearrange.

Whynosnowyet · 23/01/2020 13:30

Using pregnancy as a reason to not have your home maintained is daft.
You are paving the way to yourself to keep up with your logical reasoning.
Newborn.
Toddler stage.
School runs.
Maintaining your home is worth a few mins of feeling shitty and facing another human surely?

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 13:44

Using pregnancy as a reason to not have your home maintained is daft

I'm not using pregnancy as a reason, I'm using the fact that I'm unwell (the reason why is neither here nor there, the fact is I'm vomitting and nauseous). I would have just rearranged for when I'm feeling better.

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 13:45

Does your oh live with you?

Yes but he won't be back from work in time as he works late.

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 13:47

you can have underwear piled to the ceiling if you like, not an issue as long as it isn't damaging the property

I know logically this is correct but I still hate the thought of having someone in my home when it's a mess like this. Especially my landlords.

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JosefKeller · 23/01/2020 14:11

Landlords can't win, can they?
They don't update their properties, they are in the wrong.
They try to, they are in the wrong too.

You can't expect them to have to kick you out to be able to maintain the property, it's ridiculous.

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 14:13

Jose, have you even bothered to read?

They don't have to kick me out to maintain the house. I was only going to ask them to come back another time when I'm better... Not saying they can't step foot in the house ever.

I've not said anything about the landlords being bad. I get on well with them and always have, they've been round loads of times and I've always been happy and had no problems with that, always chatted etc... This is the first time I would have ever asked them not to come.

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user1471449295 · 23/01/2020 14:13

I’d just let them in and say ‘sorry I’ve got awful sickness at the moment, I will be laying down in bed. You ok to let yourself out’

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 14:15

User, that's what I'll do now. I just don't like being seen as impolite so would feel obliged to sit and make conversation like I always have done before so I thought I'd rather them just come another time.

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JosefKeller · 23/01/2020 14:18

I was only going to ask them to come back another time when I'm better...

then why don't you Confused

You are going to be a parent, surely you can contact your own landlord without asking for hand holding from an internet forum?

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 14:20

I was asking if I would have been unreasonable to do that given I've already said they can come, you know like most posts on AIBU...

Your first post was so far away from the actual situation you obviously didn't bother to read any of my posts.

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AgnesNaismith · 23/01/2020 17:46

You lot are horrible.

Presuming you are homeowners....if you felt ill and had a contractor coming to look at a minor house issue, knowing you may vomit while they were there, would you cancel? IT’S THE SAME THING.

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Sorryformyself2 · 23/01/2020 18:21

They've been and I managed to keep the vomit down whilst they were here so all is well.

I did start to feel like I might throw up just before they got here so I was worried, but I managed a bit of polite small talk.

Glad it's done now so I can go back to my bed!

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Hercwasonaroll · 23/01/2020 18:26

Glad you let them come. Early pregnancy is difficult but having a baby is worse for tiredness! If you're throwing up lots you need to see your GP for medication to ensure you don't get dehydrated.

Are you off work at the moment?

Starlight456 · 24/01/2020 07:54

Glad it’s done . Hope morning sickness passes soon

GabriellaMontez · 24/01/2020 08:03

Yanbu.

You're not well. It happens. Sometimes we have to change our plans. Apologise, for the notice rearrange.

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