I've had to name change because if my family use this they will put all of my posting together and know it's 100% me posting
I have a bad relationship with my husbands dad he is so unhelpful and so unkind to my husband and there is a protracted history with money that they have taken. If you know me from my writing style please don't connect things up. In the most recent disagreement over finances I have felt totally overwhelmed and I just feel I need no contact with his dad. I am huge into family. I get on fine with his mum as I can. Last night I clumped what I could remember in about 90 seconds and text my husband this about his dad, I am very close to my husband. I feel that in general people let their family do things they wouldn't let others do.
I am going to change a couple of names in here so it's not clear where I am. But see this and tell me if you feel this is treatment enough to not have him in my life. My husband has addressed these things with his dad as they have cropped up but I've never said them all at one and it seems like a lot but is not everything. My Husband really does not get on with his dad. They live very close to us.
Ear plugs going to go back in so you don’t wake me when you come up. Makes it a bit easier for you also.
Sorry I’ve left you this evening. I know you’re stressed. We cope with things in different ways and I have to sleep atm as a bit run down but it will pass.
I don’t want you alone mulling on your thoughts. It makes me really sad. It’s been too much anguish. Your dad is really a very unhealthy input in our lives.. something needs to change. Stress is literally a killer and I can feel myself becoming ill each time your family is unreasonable. Ask yourself what you want as a result? Your feelings are vital but if anyone else was making me feel the way they are which is how your dad makes me feel... he has the most horrible impact in the world out of everyone... I don’t think you would be dealing with things like you are.. my stomach literally hurts and ulcers came up this afternoon all over my mouth..
You would be putting an instant stop to it. For five years your dad has repeatedly wrecked many intimate and emotional and private moments in our lives. He’s rocked our marriage so hard I don’t know how we are standing. He’s robbed me of breast feeding. I had to drive around 8 days after a c section because I had no help. He’s made me fear losing our home at 10 weeks pregnant. Hes Made me think I should go back to work whilst Your sil does nothing. He’s questioned my drug routine to make me think I should be in pain. He’s shouted at me and ignored me. He’s made me think I need to sleep on a sofa bed in a dark and smoke infested flat to rent my house to Finance him. He’s let your mother ask us 4 times to give us our home. He’s asked us to share our Money with him when I am pregnant so he can allegedly survive. He cornered me with his foul breath in my study demanding money i one did not have and two did not owe for your car whilst you criedi in despair on the sofa with flu. He’s held paper under my nose so close it touched my eye lashes telling me I need to do your paper work for the toll road. He has taken my dad away from you when he’s not your dads friend first but your own dad. He has no friends and sees my parents as his friends not your second parents. He has over ruled all family events with his ridiculous over intellectual and embarrassing conversation with my parents as your mother, making me and you look like fools. He has broken and dirtied our home leaving me to clean it. He sits in dead silence making me so uncomfortable I wish to cry. He is ok watching me work so hard by myself be suffering with sickness in hospital with exploded veins in my hands and vomit stuck in my hair whilst our child is at nursery in order to do work from a bed in hospital to get money from our own business to line his pocket with fictional debts he has accused us off rounding up. He was happy for my parents to spend thousands on full Time childcare robbing me of my early years with Our child that can never be taken back whilst you worked like a slave with strangers faeces on your hands unblocking toilets 100 miles away but allows your sibling to flounce around as his wife is "sick"
He has been nothing but unhelpful, un loving and cruel to me and you must think of how you would resolve it with anyone else other then your father
You would not stand for it..