Mother’s Day hijack

[Mamawingingit1234]

Would I be unreasonable to say to a very close friend that it’s a bit inconsiderate to have a christening on Mother’s Day?

I'd say YABU purely because the christenings I have been too only last a couple of hours.

Mother’s Day like Father’s Day is just another Valentine’s Day and really just a made up nothingness

Fine for children to give a card and a token of appreciation but it’s a normal day in my opinion and might have been the same opinion of the person hosting christening

You would be unreasonable to say those exact words yes. There are many hypothetical reasons why your friend has picked this specific date and you have been invited, not summoned. If you really feel that you need to broach the subject with her could you not use a bit of diplomacy?

I’d say you are absolutely right. It’s a bit thoughtless but hardly the end of the world.

Mothering Sunday (22nd March this year) is a religious festival in the Church of England and few Anglican churches would hold a Christening that day because they are too busy making tiny posies for the children to give to their mothers. The American Mother's Day, like Father's Day, is a 20th century invention and happens on a different date.

Yes it would be unreasonable. The date is entirely her choice just as it's your choice to not attend because you deem Mother's Day more important. It usually means your child/ren giving you a card and a bunch of dafs but maybe you celebrate it in a more elaborate way?

Is your friend planning to host a large gathering of friends for the Christening?
If so perhaps remind her it will be Mother's Day on the date she has chosen and so people might have prior plans/leave straight after the church.
If you have plans then tell her so when you decline.
Otherwise not your place to say anything.

She’s started booking it today and it’s the soonest the church is available.

Selfishly for me I would be sad to miss our Mother’s Day tradition of where I do almost nothing and get taken out for lunch after a sleep in!

I know it’s not a summons but I wouldn’t want to miss it so of course will attend. It would be a massive deal to her if we all didn’t go. It’s not local, about an hour away so with naps and kids bed time would be our entire day I think.

There's a Mother's Day every year. She will only get the baby christened once.

Genevieva My 3 dc were all baptised on Mothering Sunday as it was the only Sunday during Lent the vicar would do it.

Can you do your tradition on the Saturday or the previous or following Sunday, OP?

I don't think your friends are U to hold their DC's christening that day. I do think you would be U to complain to them about it. You can celebrate mother's day the rest of the day (christenings only last a couple of hours) and / or on another day that week.

Perhaps you could " do Mothers Day" the previous day ?

Just do Mothers Day on a different day. It’s not a big deal.

Ah I feel like a bit crappy now!

Of course I would never complain, I just thought maybe tactfully remind her before invites are sent out that some people maybe have plans, mothers, grandmothers and In Laws to visit.

I’m assuming it’s a baby and not a 10 year old or adult getting christened?
If so then it’s your friend’s first Mother’s Day too, what better way to celebrate than joining the two occasions?

Is she a regular church goer with faith?

The baby will be about 6 months old and it’s not her first.

@Emmelina No

My youngest was christened on. Mothering Sunday a decade ago because it was the only date the vicar could suggest. It was just a small part of the service.

It's only one year. I'd just do the breakfast in bed thing the day before.

Sorry @Emmelina the “no” was in response to @PyongyangKipperbang question. Sleep deprivation is getting the best of me

She is likely to find it impacts her attendance.

Why don’t you celebrate Mother’s Day the week before?

Then why is she getting the child christened at all?

MY issue would not be with the date but the fact that someone is using an institution they dont believe in or support in order to have a party, and thats the reason I wouldnt be going.

I say this as an atheist.