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Mother’s Day hijack

47 replies

Mamawingingit1234 · 20/01/2020 23:26

Would I be unreasonable to say to a very close friend that it’s a bit inconsiderate to have a christening on Mother’s Day?

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Rachie1973 · 21/01/2020 00:13

I had my son Christened on Mothering Sunday. It was lovely, all my younger siblings gave little posies to the older ladies in church. No one had to come if they didn’t want to (except the godparents) I had the christening for me, my DH and my son. The others chose to be there.

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Mamawingingit1234 · 21/01/2020 00:17

I would not miss it. I do not want to miss it. I was just wondering if I should say something about the day. It think it’s clear that I would be unreasonable to do so. Thanks all

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PyongyangKipperbang · 21/01/2020 00:21

Well I think I would in "Just realised its Mothers Day that day, it might mean some people dont come.."

I was a member of a church when my eldest three were babies, I was told that Easter Sunday was the traditional day for a child to be babtised, cant remember why!

keo8260 · 21/01/2020 00:30

Mother's day was originally a religious celebration when people visited their "mother" church. The mother church is the one you are confirmed in. It is still very much a religious celebration and your friend may have special reasons for wanting this date.

Didkdt · 21/01/2020 00:32

I think it's a lovely day for it. No one has to go, and she will be aware it's Mothering Sunday. As PP mentioned during Lent unless it's an emergency the church may not perform the service on another Sunday until Easter Sunday and lots of guests may have plans then.
Perhaps you can have a lie in/breakfast in bed IOU as part of your treats for the day

midwest · 21/01/2020 00:35

I'm not seeing how a christening on Mothering Sunday is a religious hijack?
I'm pretty atheist now but over lent it makes sense as a christening day and seems a nice tie in.

Wtfdoipick · 21/01/2020 00:36

Our church will only do christenings during family services so that is only 12 dates a year that they can be done and yes one of those would be mother's day.

StoppinBy · 21/01/2020 00:38

I think you could just mention it to her and ask if she realised it was mothers day. She may brush it off or she may appreciate you mentioning it but I doubt she would be offended by you just mentioning it to her.

Genevieva · 21/01/2020 16:01

I stand corrected on Mothering Sunday and christenings, but I know our vicar would urge the family to choose the week before or after because the Mothering Sunday service is already a busy occasion. Ours does not insist in christenings being on family service days though, so there are plenty of other dates to choose from.

I know exactly what Mothering Sunday is and I do think Mothering Sunday can be classed as a religious festival though, albeit one that exists by tradition without any biblical reference.

randomchap · 21/01/2020 16:35

As a previous poster said, you can have your mother's day treat another weekend. This might have the added benefit of the restaurant being quieter as it's not mother's day.

MinnieMountain · 21/01/2020 16:37

You've reminded me that DH is away skiing on Mothering Sunday this year. I need to move my lie-in Grin

Disfordarkchocolate · 21/01/2020 16:38

She may not have that much choice without waiting for a few months. I think it would make a lovely day, especially if they have it at the end of the normal service so the church is busy and happy.

WeeSleekitTimerousMoosey · 21/01/2020 16:38

YABU, many of us don't bother with mother's day, maybe your friend doesn't.

Plus it's a moveable day so they might not even have realised the dates coincided this year, as it so happens.

Vulpine · 21/01/2020 16:39

Id keep the treat and skip the christening

LolaSmiles · 21/01/2020 17:13

PyongyangKipperbang
We have a lot of christenings on Easter Sunday too. I also can't remember.

Christenings are part of normal Sunday services in our church so the main limitation is which weekends we have our minister as lots of them rotate with lay pastors as well.

TheDarkPassenger · 21/01/2020 17:14

I had my daughters christening on Mothering Sunday. We were there to welcome her to the church though, so couldn’t really have given a shit if people came or not. Everyone came

Norma27 · 21/01/2020 17:16

Wouldn't bother me at all. Valentine's Day and mothers' Day are far too commercialised to bother with and do anything special on that day.

TheyDoDoThat · 21/01/2020 17:19

It depends sadly for some mother’s it is their only day “off” or at least the only day they get appreciation. I would remind her that it is nothing Sunday so some people may not attend.

TheyDoDoThat · 21/01/2020 17:19

Mothering

DappledThings · 21/01/2020 17:25

I wod have no idea what Sunday is Mothering Sunday this far in advance and if I was booking my child's Christening it wouldn't cross my mind.

Is MS really that big a deal that people would miss a friend's or family member's event for it? I think it's a total non-issue

Ponoka7 · 21/01/2020 17:37

Mention it to her, it might be an issue for other guests.

Taxi services etc are usually a bit busier, so are cake makers. So she does need to consider it.

ActualHornist · 21/01/2020 17:44

Mother’s Day is much more significant to me than a christening. So I think YANBU.

It is quite easy to have a nice day without it being ‘commercialised’.

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